~mcp_EQBio.txt 8.6.2017 To: Fred Adler KTDE, 100.5FM, Gualala Bob Woelfel Subject: Intro and Bio: Matt Perelstein / Emotional Intelligence (EQ) From: Hi Fred, (and Bob) Thanks much for having me on the show, Aug. 16! I very much look forward to meeting you and discussing EQ. Below is some information, per your request, about our subject matter, Emotional Intelligence (EQ), and about me, personally. Lastly, I listed a buncha web links... there are a bunch, so just check a few... I haven't heard your show, so I have no idea what the 'energy' is like, or what you're going to ask me, so this should be interesting! Any advice? Let me know if you have any questions or concerns. Thanks again! - Matt Emotional Intelligence (EQ): It's about being smart with ourselves -- our Thoughts, our Feelings and Emotions, and what makes us Do (behave/act) the way we do. Every decision we make, is based on our thoughts + our feelings... but most folks are not aware of the feeling part... and that makes it harder to make good, solid decisions without all the information our body gives us. We have 2 sides of our brain: the left-brain, cognitive, linear, 'thinking' side and the right-brain, creative, 'feeling' side. We're a left-brain-focused society, so we don't really learn this stuff in school, or from our parents (probably), we don't even talk about feelings... especially negative ones like fear, anger, sadness, guilt, shame, depression... so, to get by, we do the best we can and make up the rest... usually alone. The GOOD NEWS is that, now that we have some experience (30+ years), we can help people get some clue about how all this works, and how to work it (them). Can we play the audio of this 1 minute video on the air, perhaps? https://youtu.be/PUSO33pVfC0 Matt Perelstein - Bio info: As a kid, my dad was in the Air Force, so we moved a lot. As a sensitive little boy, that was hard on me, 'cause I kept losing friends and severing attachments... they were military, too, so either we were leaving or they were. Tough childhood, emotionally, so I was a mess in high school and college. Once I found out (thru a similar workshop to ours) that I was just totally clueless about how to deal with my own thoughts, feelings and emotions, I was sooo relieved! I believed there was something very wrong with me (and there probably is!), but mostly it was unexpressed feelings and unresolved negative 'belief systems' that I 'decided' about myself and my pain. Since then (1986), I've decided to dedicate my life to SCREAMING FROM THE ROOFTOPS that EQ is an awesome thing... we have as much as we want, anytime we want... Free of charge... inside ourselves. "No matter what is happening outside of us, we still have control of what is happening inside of us." I have a day job as a Project Manager for a $multi-million medical data project, for a huge company, but my avocation is all around EQ. I help run EQ social media groups on Facebook and LinkedIn with over 150,000 members, my wife and I teach an intensive weekend workshop, called New Directions Emotional Intelligence Workshops (ND) for over 30 years now and I do things, like get on the radio, so we can share with folks that THEY already have many of the answers, inside of them. Our workshop is a weekend, emotional breakthrough intensive experience, and people leave feelings better, feeling more and feeling more hopeful about life because they can now understand, accept and manage themselves and their inner workings. "Feelings, expressed as intensely as they are felt in the body, will reduce in intensity and are free to change." ~ Doc Downing, PhD, LMFT (a therapist I worked closely with for 20 years) I have a bunch of websites, been on TV, radio and internet. I've given webinars. I've taught 2 college classes, and been guest lecturer in 4 more. I'm certified as a Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault Crisis Counselor. I've been published by Oxford University Press. I have a book on Amazon. I have over 50 handwritten notebooks full of EQ writings, and 1.1M lines of text that I've typed about EQ. I talk about EQ constantly (which annoys my wife!), I research it continuously, I live it, I breathe it and I share it, as much as I possibly can. I've been to over 30 states, and 20 countries. Growing up, we lived in NC, AL, CO, NY and VA, plus Wiesbaden, Germany (4 yrs) and Asmara, Ethiopia (3 years) I went to 2 elementary schools, 1 middle school, 2 high schools and 2 colleges I have been teaching EQ for 30 years, to over 2,000 students, in 4 states. We have 8 websites I manage 6 social media groups, with over 150,000 members I've had 86 jobs (as employee or as a contractor/consultant) I've had cancer for 3 years now... Multiple Myeloma, Bone Marrow Cancer... which is "incurable" It stayed stead during 2014, but at the end of the year, the lab tests started to spike upwards. During 2015, I was on 3 kinds of chemo, 2 for 5 months Then, in October/November, I went in the hospital for 3 weeks (UCSF) for a bone marrow/stem cell transplant. (my insurance company paid over $760,000 for me that year!) The transplant went extremely well, and now I am in "complete remission" (it'll be back, but for now, no) I have 3 pieces of metal in my body, other than fillings I have been burned over 20% of my body I have broken more than 20 bones 10 at one time in a climbing accident (whoops) been in hospitals in 4 countries (semi-accident prone, as a kid... less now) I've driven over a half-million miles, mostly in the USA I've written over a million lines of text in my journals over the years I've taken over 107,000 photos and videos We have 14 hours of testimonial videos for our workshops and over 200 written People have enjoyed life-changing, and in a number of cases, life-SAVING results from the emotional work I have 3 kids and 4 (grown) grandkids (most of whom live in Fort Bragg, 1 in Albion, 1 in Sacramento, 1 in the Marines in North Carolina) Been married twice Best man twice Justice of the Peace (married 2 people), once I collect: Blank Notepads Matches Beer Coasters Playing Cards Business Cards Baseball Caps Music Tools EQ books EQ quotes $50 and $100 bills(!) Friends - like matches and beer coasters, they're all different, they're interesting, you can never collect them all, and they're free (mostly)! Life Experiences and Memories Web Links (if you really get ambitious, flip thru Doc's book, it's light, easy reading "Taking Control of Your Life: How to Increase your EQ" (.PDF): http://bit.ly/EQBook https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/360432 (you set the price, $0 is fine) My EQ Quiz, 7 questions, published and paid by Oxford University Press(!), www.EQRocks.com/emotional-intelligence-quiz/ "STOP! Someone Is Hurting Me" (SHM) Ebook, on Amazon short: http://bit.ly/SomeoneIsHurtingMeEbook long: http://www.amazon.com/Someone-Hurting-Me-them-STOP-ebook/dp/B0175PN16C/ Mcp: https://www.amazon.com/author/mattperelstein Gloria's: http://www.amazon.com/Gloria-Watson/e/B013YULLZA/ref=dp_byline_cont_ebooks_1 Social Media Inventory: Facebook: Matt https://www.facebook.com/groups/MattPerelstein FB-NDG = New Directions Group (private, grads only) https://www.facebook.com/groups/NewDirectionsWorkshop/ FB-NDW = New Directions Workshop pages https://www.facebook.com/NewDirectionsWorkshop <-- this one! https://www.facebook.com/NewDirectionsWorkshops FB-EIA = Emotional Intelligence Applications https://www.facebook.com/groups/EQApplications FB-EIN = The Emotional Intelligence Network http://6sec.org/ein>; https://www.facebook.com/groups/SixSecondsEIN/ FB-EQ = FB-Emotional Intelligence Rocks https://www.facebook.com/EmotionalIntelligenceRocks FB-EQR = EQRocks on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/EQRocks FB-E1T1 = Each-1-Teach-1-EQ https://www.facebook.com/Each1Teach1EQ/ FB-EQYoung = Emotional Intelligence Solutions for Young https://www.facebook.com/groups/1850426611894754/admins/ LinkedIn: Matt http://www.Linkedin.com/in/MattPerelstein LI-EIN = The Emotional Intelligence Network MGR(!) 99,300x members http://www.linkedin.com/groups?gid=75300 https://www.linkedin.com/groups/75300/members/pending YouTube: Matt's account http://www.youtube.com/user/MattAttack7777 3 Steps to EQ Video (1:12) https://youtu.be/PUSO33pVfC0 / http://bit.ly/3StepsToEQ Twitter: Matt http://twitter.com/MattPerelstein EQRocks https://twitter.com/#!/eqrockseqheals 2GetHelp4Vets http://www.Twitter.com/2GetHelp4Vets Pinterest: http://www.pinterest.com/eqrocks/ Google+: https://plus.google.com/+MattPerelstein/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mattperelstein/ Meetup: https://www.meetup.com/members/158365712/ - group organizer Scoop.it: http://www.scoop.it/t/eqrocks Websites: http://www.NewDirectionsWorkshop.com ND Testimonials: http://www.NewDirectionsWorkshop.com/testimonials / http://bit.ly/EQSuccess ND Signup: http://www.NewDirectionsWorkshop.com/signup http://www.MattPerelstein.com http://www.EQRocks.com