(!) EQ101 D-R (!) --- from the feedback I'm getting on the brochure, I feel like people are trying to tell me, as they told Howard Rourk, to conform and be nice. I have gone overboard in the past in being conversational (ie-immature), but I my writing now is more mature and more professional, while still including myself in the text/content. Write ND from my perspective, 80% them, 20% me. Write what I know, then back it up with, how I know it, personally. Say it clearly, and forthright, and with Attitude. 30 second elevator speech --- This is not the place they get to come each week to whine about how they feel - this is where they come to examine what is working in the present, what is not, and to go through the process of changing the "is not" part of that by taking action. - Penny R. Tupy, Life Coach Feelings expressed for the following reasons are fine: Clarity Release Acceptance Remove Judgments Go for deeper feelings (ex: express anger to get to the hurt underneath) not Ok: whining blaming (short-term is fine, in an effort to find your part in it all) one-up-manship / competition poor me (if you want people to feel sorry for you, you're not looking for results) victim (to explain how there really is NOthing you can do about it... and it's all their fault, anyhow) --- Probably the height of the class experience, the HUGEst change in our lives comes from 1 sentence. 1 proclamation. 1 life-changing statement I am through being the victim, and finished blaming others! We call it the Statement of Direction and each student gets a turn to MAKE this proclamation at your 100% (whatever that is for you, at that point in your life) (we all do it... but one at a time... and the way YOU do it, is the way YOU do it... maybe not the way I do it, or others... and that's ok... and that BEING OK, with the entire group, is soooo incredibly validating, too!) you being you, at your 100%: - Breaks through your pre-conceived limitations, walls, prison cell you've put yourself in... - opens your closed heart - expands your stressed mind x josh, are you really going to work with me. or are you putting Jenny in between us, to cushion us you know I was talking to YOU in that last note. you got it. you didn't reply to it... again. I believe you are afraid of me. I believe you don't like me very much. I believe I will rock your world, emotion-wise, because I'm willing, and able, to go where you have never been. childhood pain. can you "go" to your own core pain? if not, that means you: a) don't know yourself, completely. there are entire parts of you that you have never met b) you are afraid of you. If you cannot/will not 'go there', you don't know if you can 'handle it'. once we DO go there, we are NO LONGER AFRAID of ANY of our feelings. knowing, without a shadow, that we can face our own fears, angers, sadness, grief, depression, guilt and shame, all of it! --- are your feelings your bestest friend, or your worstest enemy. do your feelings hurt your other feelings? - Mcp Quote 05:15 does your Fear, come out as WE CAN BE OUR OWN WORST ENEMY! for real. we can even KILL ourselves. We REALLY CAN be our own Worst Enemy! that's a bad thing. that's an important thing. that's a critical, life-changing, life-saving , $100 each for the P's dad, you want to pitch in get cash for, at least, the boys no, All 4x! card and $100 to each write it out. Finn Eman Scott Merk , Meet Merk at 2 give her the cards ---) We introduce folks to their right-brain, and all the Passion, Joy and Color that resides there! we take folks back to their childhood, send the course outline maybe that's the best brochure We have you: 1. Meet your feelings 2. Make friends with your feelings 3. Feel, and Release, your deepest, darkest feelings 4. Change the yucky, negative feelings into lighter, more pleasant, more uplifting feelings. 5. Show you that YOU have control of your own feelings, thoughts and emotions... which means that YOU have control of your own life! It's all Very good news! The fact that we have WAAAY more control, emotionally, than we thought we did... and that we have way, Way, WAY more Choices, emotionally, than we thought we did... that we can make ourselves think and feel SOOO much better, more positively, more empowering, more loving, more Joyous feelings, that we ever thought possible... to me, that's pretty good news! so, I thot I'd share. --- you have good left-brain add right-brain! right-brain is ignored but right-brain is where life lives!! ---) Top 10 Reasons to do an ND weekend - Emotional Recognition - Emotional Agility - Emotional Literacy - Connection - Intimacy - Healing - Transform yourself, Emotionally - Changing Negative Emotions into Positives (or at least neutral) - Practice - Safety - Emotional Understanding (IQ + EQ) I call it meta-analysis, our thoughts about our thoughts. our thoughts about our feelings. our feelings about our thoughts, and our thoughts about them. etc. thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings become aware of 'em learn 'em understand 'em accept 'em then, adjust 'em effect / affect 'em change 'em manage 'em so we can enjoy 'em use 'em to help us get results succeed find / create happiness live, love, laugh esp. Live! ---) Top 10 Reasons to do an ND weekend - Emotional Recognition notice - Emotional Agility - Emotional Literacy identification, separation, understanding - Acceptance, Forgiveness and Compassion for YOU! - Connection - Intimacy - Healing - Transform yourself, Emotionally - Changing Negative Emotions into Positives (or at least neutral) - Practice feelings are uncomfortable (HINT: much worse so, if you fight 'em and deny 'em) Get comfortable being uncomfortable try new things, emotionally shopping - Self-integration: U, u and UU - Safety Experience the safest, most loving place on the planet. the room is silent, as you talk/share/feel/heal. everyone, everyone is listening to you. and only you. for a little while, YOU are the most important person in the world. as far as you can see. what that does is to validate, and integrate, and accept people/me/us at a 'soul level'. we try to live a life of high EQ. what does that look like? what does that feel like? how does it sound? what do I do? what do I say? DoUEQ? I do. Once we feel something positive... it is MUCH easier to replicate that feeling. "A mind, once stretched to a new dimension, never retains it's former shape. "A heart, once stretched to it's fullest limits, never returns to it's former shape." - Mcp Quote once you can FEEL a certain feeling... ALL of it... on Purpose... and you LIVE thru it... You won! you ain't afraid of your own fear, any longer... ever. boom. once you feel ANGER... ALL of it... on Purpose... and NO one gets hurt... and you feel SOOOOOOO much better... then, boom, you're not afraid of your anger no mo', either. once you feel your Sadness... as deeply as your purest little heart feels it... on Purpose... and you don't get lost there, you don't drown, and you find that it does end.... from then on, you get to Enjoy, yes Enjoy your sadness... why? 'cause Sadness is the closest to Love. We are sad about losing stuff/people/pets/parents/kids/friends who we love. Sad and love are very close. To me, my sadness shows me the depth of my love. If I cut off my sadness, I'm cutting off my ability, and my flexibility, to Love, as deeply and cleanly and fully as I possibly can! (make friends with your sadness. honor and respect it, and it won't need to keep coming back quite so often.) - Emotional Understanding (IQ + EQ) I call it meta-analysis, our thoughts about our thoughts. our thoughts about our feelings. our feelings about our thoughts, and our thoughts about them. etc. thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings become aware of 'em learn 'em understand 'em accept 'em then, adjust 'em effect / affect 'em change 'em manage 'em so we can enjoy 'em use 'em to help us get results succeed find / create happiness live, love, laugh esp. Live! - Ever had the same feeling, most days, for many days, and you just can't shake it? Do you have some HUGE events from your childhood... yeah, that one... that is STILL buggin' you? Are you feeling Flat, or Numb, or bored, or disconnected, or depressed (and you're sick of it)? I think we can help you. Actually, you can help you. We can help you, help you. we can show you how to help you. how to heal how to feel, to a great depth, to give life a fuller experience, to manage your feelings and emotions like never before. I'm not going to say that you will be magically cured of every negative emotion after only 1 weekend... this stuff is a life-style choice, so if you come to class, and you're ready to 'feel'... really feel, the REST OF YOUR LIFE will be different (hopefully, better). The reality is that, once you 'feel', you can't really 'go back'... well, you can, but a) it takes more denial, to deny it from here on, 'cause now you know, and it's tuff to un-know something once you know it, and b) I think you'll find, as we have, that it's now your CHOICE to feel... because you CAN feel, cause it's Cool to feel, 'cause it brings Life, and Love, and Laughter, and Peace, and Joy, and Excitement, and Wonder, and Awe, and Power, and Control, and Results, and Success, and Happiness to my life. - Did you know that you CAN change your negative feelings into Positives. we can show you how. but you can do this at home, too. it's about ALLOWing yourself to feel what you feel. now, you may have heard this before, but we do it in the only way it can be done properly... from the beginning. You (u) as a child, had pain. u, as a child, had traumatic things happen. some more than others (and some of the most horrifying stories imaginable) but EVERY kid has traumas. every kid has big negative feelings that they never got to express. we all have stuff that happened (and is maybe still happening) that hurts... a Lot. and you know you're not dealing with it, directly. You know. we ask people in class, about, what Dr. Phil calls, their Defining Moments (we call Early Recollections) we know what messed us up. we know what is still effecting us. we know what we're not 'over'. (mostly) I'd say 80-90% of our students, when asked, knew. there are thoughts and there are feelings Trauma creates both BIG, nasty, generalized, negative Thoughts accompanied by BIG, nasty, negative, incredibly LARGE Feelings fueled by pictures, sounds, smells, and touches, often horrific ones, that Shock the system. - (one young lady remembered events, a fight between her parents, that got physical, while she was STILL IN HER MOM's TUMMY! Her mom was there with her in class, in shock, as girl recounted the story, even the words that were said, perfectly (talk about getting to the core of it all -- totally changed her life, afterwards!) (btw, in DV situations, studies prove that kids' brains kinda STOP growing when their violence and utter fear and unsafety in the home... EVEN if the child was not in the room, and never saw it happen. if this happened to you, there's still pain there, I guarantee it... let us help you get started in cleaning it all outta there) New Directions Emotional Intelligence Breakthrough Weekend we're not "doing" anything to you. we will support you. We have a format that we usually take, because it usually works, beautifully. Everyone's different, so sometimes we have to modify it, in the present. which is fine. it's not about you doing our process... it's about you getting what you want and need, to heal. (or enhance, or extend, or expand, or extract, or create, or appreciate, or fulfill) - kinda like an exorcism there is yucky, negative, black (or red or brown) energy inside you. if you don't want it there, we can help you get it out of you. it won't hurt us, 'cause it's yours... but it you also don't need to carry it around anymore, either. it is my/our theory that little kids are pure, clean, loving little vessels. sometimes, unhappy, unfulfilled, emotionally-clueless parents consciously or unconsciously off-load some of THEIR yuckiness into their sweet, trusting kid(s), so they get a little relief, and validation, and company. and we, as loving children choose to CARRY that yucky energy around with us, from that day forward. a. no bueno... it's not ours to carry! b. ouch... if we're still carrying it, it's still hurting us. c. there's hope... you don't HAVE to carry it. Discover: Where, in your body, do you carry your anger? your fear? your pain? your sadness? Go there. Uncover: Find the pain, stain, rage, pressure, etc. Imagine the size, texture, color, hardness, weight, etc. Recover: Let it go, somehow... Take your hand and grab it and either pull it straight out, let it drop out of you onto the ground via gravity, turn it to a liquid and let it flow out, scream and fight it if necessary... whatever you need to do, to get it out of you. or choose to keep it, for now, and listen to it, learn from it, grow from it. Post-Traumatic Stress or Post-Traumatic Growth it's up to you! Which do you choose? - --- Focus we need to focus, to get things done, right? strong emotions cause us to lose our focus. that's because we don't know what to DO with them. #FeelIt2HealIt, I say. No, I don't curl up in a ball and cry my heart out at every sadness, disappointment or mis-step. I'd be crying all day long. but I do cry. I let myself cry. when a feeling gets big(ger), or repeats ah, that's what it is... if I feel it in the moment, when and while I'm first finding out about it... then, it lessons the impact later... maybe permanently. I've had some issues, NDers have had some issues, that, once felt, and released. NEVER bothered them/us again. ever. in fact, there are some things that have bothered us for some time, that, JUST the acknowledgment of the fact, just knowing that that I had had that thought and made that decision Awareness + Feelings = Clarity We have Thoughts, pretty much every minute, of every day, all day, every day. We have Feelings, pretty much every minute, of every day, all day, every day. We pay attention to Thoughts, not so much our Feelings. 'cause we don't UNDERSTAND them. we don't recognize them. we can't separate them... To most people, they're feelings and emotions are a big mess and a big mystery. both are no bueno. People are afraid of what they don't understand. oh, don't go for the 'people', go for their friends. have the people ask other people. - I'm late to the discussion, - do NDers take less meds? some do. many don't people I know on meds --- I wouldn't say always be "careful" of what you say, For me, with the 'right people' (which most NDers turn out to be!) I am free to be honest about my true feelings, and judgments, and you seem to love me, so I am trusting that you're gonna keep on loving me, even if I am real with you. It's being real, being honest, sharing thoughts, but more importantly sharing feelings. In our meetings, we're not really looking for what's going really well... although we're happy for you... those are working. What we focus on, and go right to, on Friday night... is what are you FEELING? and the choices most are Fear, Anger, Sadness, or all 3? Not, 'what are you feeling' from what happened to you yesterday... we go right for the ROOT of it all... back to childhood... as far back as you can go. ---) Top 10 Reasons to do an ND weekend - Emotional Recognition notice - Emotional Agility whatever comes up, you can handle it / face it / get thru it! - Emotional Literacy identification, separation, understanding, recognition, feedback - Acceptance, Forgiveness and Compassion for YOU! - Super GOOD NEWS! you have WAY more Choices, emotionally, than you ever thought possible! - Hope! there IS help there IS hope there ARE some people who care you CAN heal you CAN feel better, emotionally (in just 1 weekend!) - Connection Magic of the group Connect with self, too! - Anger with Love - Relationship Tools - Body Relief - Take control of your emotional life - Learn how to succeed - Intimacy no walls, no hidden agenda, just love, care and concern.... nothung more - Healing wow, we/you can do sooo much in one weekend... and, in so doing, you'll know, from then on, how to heal yourself... AND your loved ones! - Transform yourself, Emotionally From shut-down and numb, to Alive-Alert-&-Feeling GREAT! from victim to victor from powerless to powerful from shame-based to love-based from I-hate-my-feelings to I-Love-My-Feelings_They-Set-me-FREE! from petrified or prosperous from survivin' to thrivin' from guilt to pride from weighed-down to fired-up from clueless to clueful (is that even a word? :) ) from blaming to claiming from whining to venting - #FeelIt2HealIt - #SpinIt2WinIt - #NameIt2ClaimIt - Changing Negative Emotions into Positives (or at least neutral) ability to - L vs R brain understand and experience the difference esp. R brain - What it's like to BE there, in your feelings - Over 30 years of experience - Full Expression - Equality no longer put down as a little kid, you stand, you grow, you are equal, you are powerful, and you are free! - Guidance toward where you don't want to go - Honest Feedback (but always respectful, and loving) - Validation you are you, and you are ok... with at least somebody/people - Become a therapeutic person - Practice feelings are uncomfortable (HINT: much worse so, if you fight 'em and deny 'em) Get comfortable being uncomfortable try new things, emotionally shopping - Self-integration: U, u and UU - Personal Power(!) - Emotional Tools toolbox - Emotional Skills - Emotional Resilience - Persistance - Grit! - Guilt reduction - Anger / rage reduction - Fear and anxiety Relief - Safety Experience the safest, most loving place on the planet. the room is silent, as you talk/share/feel/heal. everyone, everyone is listening to you. and only you. for a little while, YOU are the most important person in the world. as far as you can see. what that does is to validate, and integrate, and accept people/me/us at a 'soul level'. we try to live a life of high EQ. what does that look like? what does that feel like? how does it sound? what do I do? what do I say? DoUEQ? I do. Once we feel something positive... it is MUCH easier to replicate that feeling. "A mind, once stretched to a new dimension, never retains it's former shape. "A heart, once stretched to it's fullest limits, never returns to it's former shape." - Mcp Quote once you can FEEL a certain feeling... ALL of it... on Purpose... and you LIVE thru it... You won! you ain't afraid of your own fear, any longer... ever. boom. once you feel ANGER... ALL of it... on Purpose... and NO one gets hurt... and you feel SOOOOOOO much better... then, boom, you're not afraid of your anger no mo', either. once you feel your Sadness... as deeply as your pure little heart feels it... on Purpose... and you don't get lost there, you don't drown, and you find that it does end.... from then on, you get to Enjoy, yes Enjoy your sadness... why? 'cause Sadness is the closest to Love. We are sad about losing stuff/people/pets/parents/kids/friends who we love. Sad and love are very close. To me, my sadness shows me the depth of my love. If I cut off my sadness, I'm cutting off my ability, and my flexibility, to Love, as deeply and cleanly and fully as I possibly can! (make friends with your sadness. honor and respect it, and it won't need to keep coming back quite so often.) - Free book - Free heart - Your very own free NDW pencil(!) last - Emotional Understanding (IQ + EQ) I call it meta-analysis, our thoughts about our thoughts. our thoughts about our feelings. our feelings about our thoughts, and our thoughts about them. etc. thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings become aware of 'em learn 'em understand 'em accept 'em then, adjust 'em effect / affect 'em change 'em manage 'em so we can enjoy 'em use 'em to help us get results succeed find / create happiness live, love, laugh esp. Live! - - Ever had the same feeling, most days, for many days, and you just can't shake it? - Do you have some HUGE events from your childhood... yeah, that one... that is STILL buggin' you? - Are you feeling flat, or numb, or blah, or bored, or disconnected, or depressed (and you're sick of it)? I think we can help you. Actually, you can help you. We can help you, help you. We can show you how to help yourself in ways that are kind, respectful, responsible, effective, powerful, lasting, freeing, empowering and very, very cool! We can show you: how to deal how to heal how to feel, to a great depth, to give life a fuller experience, to manage your feelings and emotions like never before. how to squeel, with delight, whenever you feel like it, just 'cause it's fun! - I'm not going to say that you will be magically cured of every negative emotion after only 1 weekend... this stuff is a life-style choice, so if you come to class, and you're ready to 'feel'... really feel, the REST OF YOUR LIFE will be different (hopefully, better). The reality is that, once you 'feel', you can't really 'go back'... well, you can, but a) it takes more denial, to deny it from here on, 'cause now you know, and it's tuff to un-know something once you know it, and b) I think you'll find, as we have, that it's now your CHOICE to feel... because you CAN feel, cause it's Cool to feel, 'cause it brings Life, and Love, and Laughter, and Peace, and Joy, and Excitement, and Wonder, and Awe, and Power, and Control, and Results, and Success, and Happiness to my life. - Did you know that you CAN change your negative feelings into Positives. we can show you how. but you can do this at home, too. it's about ALLOWing yourself to feel what you feel. now, you may have heard this before, but we do it in the only way it can be done properly... from the beginning. You (u) as a child, had pain. u, as a child, had traumatic things happen. some more than others (and some of the most horrifying stories imaginable) but EVERY kid has traumas. every kid has big negative feelings that they never got to express. we all have stuff that happened (and is maybe still happening) that hurts... a Lot. and you know you're not dealing with it, directly. You know. we ask people in class, about, what Dr. Phil calls, their Defining Moments (we call Early Recollections) we know what messed us up. we know what is still effecting us. we know what we're not 'over'. (mostly) I'd say 80-90% of our students, when asked, knew. there are thoughts and there are feelings Trauma creates both BIG, nasty, generalized, negative Thoughts accompanied by BIG, nasty, negative, incredibly LARGE Feelings fueled by pictures, sounds, smells, and touches, often horrific ones, that Shock the system. - (one young lady remembered events, a fight between her parents, that got physical, while she was STILL IN HER MOM's TUMMY! Her mom was there with her in class, in shock, as girl recounted the story, even the words that were said, perfectly (talk about getting to the core of it all -- totally changed her life, afterwards!) (btw, in DV situations, studies prove that kids' brains kinda STOP growing when their violence and utter fear and unsafety in the home... EVEN if the child was not in the room, and never saw it happen. if this happened to you, there's still pain there, I guarantee it... let us help you get started in cleaning it all outta there) New Directions Emotional Intelligence Breakthrough Weekend we're not "doing" anything to you. we will support you. We have a format that we usually take, because it usually works, beautifully. Everyone's different, so sometimes we have to modify it, in the present. which is fine. it's not about you doing our process... it's about you getting what you want and need, to heal. (or enhance, or extend, or expand, or extract, or create, or appreciate, or fulfill) - kinda like an exorcism there is yucky, negative, black (or red or brown) energy inside you. if you don't want it there, we can help you get it out of you. it won't hurt us, 'cause it's yours... but it you also don't need to carry it around anymore, either. it is my/our theory that little kids are pure, clean, loving little vessels. sometimes, unhappy, unfulfilled, emotionally-clueless parents consciously or unconsciously off-load some of THEIR yuckiness into their sweet, trusting kid(s), so they get a little relief, and validation, and company. and we, as loving children choose to CARRY that yucky energy around with us, from that day forward. a. no bueno... it's not ours to carry! b. ouch... if we're still carrying it, it's still hurting us. c. there's hope... you don't HAVE to carry it. Discover: Where, in your body, do you carry your anger? your fear? your pain? your sadness? Go there. Uncover: Find the pain, stain, rage, pressure, etc. Imagine the size, texture, color, hardness, weight, etc. Recover: Let it go, somehow... Take your hand and grab it and either pull it straight out, let it drop out of you onto the ground via gravity, turn it to a liquid and let it flow out, scream and fight it if necessary... whatever you need to do, to get it out of you. or choose to keep it, for now, and listen to it, learn from it, grow from it. Post-Traumatic Stress or Post-Traumatic Growth it's up to you! Which do you choose? - Learn the IQ of EQ cognitively, how emotions work (and don't work) steps (lots of steps) - Self-empowerment - Self-esteem - Self-motorvation - Self-Acceptance (!) - Self-Integration no more having wars with yourself ---) do you want to be a schlump? do you want to drag your tired a$$ thru life, dreading the day, and disappointed with the people? are you excited about your life, or not so much? are you scared and angry at the new administration? what do you DO with all those feelings? How can you #SpinIt2WinIt? --- ---" (Notebook from Garage) ND Brochure How can you feel love(d), if you cannot feel? Want to feel love(d), deeper, more colorful and more satisfying? Learn EQ. Let yourself feel. Cry. Release. Open up. Expand! Free yourself Allow. REJOICE! Feel! - (5.27.2016 00:22) Do you trust your fear? (I didn't, but I do now.) Fear exaggerates. 1 fear gets your mind going on possible negative scenarios Do you believe them? Do you trust them? Left unchecked, our fears can make a bad thing much worse. (and bigger, and jumpier, and more dangerous and us more powerless!) Learn to tell yourself the truth. So that you do trust your fear(s). - If you can open up and let the sun, and light and love GROW HOT inside you, you already won! and chances are... it (you) will Spill out onto others around you. Wanna bring love and joy to those you love and enjoy? Be Love. Be the Joy. Bring you to the table, full and radiant. Bring it! - http://www.newdirectionsworkshop.com/testimonials/ ---) Ever felt like you wanted to 'be there' for others, like never before? (hint: It has a LOT to do with YOUR feelings and emotions!) ---"... so I can compile that into something workable. There's the current file I just sent (2 MB, 3.1.2017 -present) and my archive file (52 MB, 4.1.2004 - 2.28.2017). Can you write some code to open the file, search for "ND Brochure", and then Copy the text from the next line to the end-of-entry marker "---"... This is not the place they get to come each week to whine about how they feel - this is where they come to examine what is working in the present, what is not, and to go through the process of changing the "is not" part of that by taking action. - Penny R. Tupy, Life Coach Feelings expressed for the following reasons are fine: Clarity Release Acceptance Remove Judgments Go for deeper feelings (ex: express anger to get to the hurt underneath) not Ok: whining blaming (short-term is fine, in an effort to find your part in it all) one-up-manship / competition poor me (if you want people to feel sorry for you, you're not looking for results) victim (to explain how there really is NOthing you can do about it... and it's all their fault, anyhow) --- ---------------------- (!) EQ101 D-R (!) --- from the feedback I'm getting on the brochure, I feel like people are trying to tell me, as they told Howard Rourk, to conform and be nice. I have gone overboard in the past in being conversational (ie-immature), but I my writing now is more mature and more professional, while still including myself in the text/content. Write ND from my perspective, 80% them, 20% me. Write what I know, then back it up with, how I know it, personally. Say it clearly, and forthright, and with Attitude. 30 second elevator speech --- This is not the place they get to come each week to whine about how they feel - this is where they come to examine what is working in the present, what is not, and to go through the process of changing the "is not" part of that by taking action. - Penny R. Tupy, Life Coach Feelings expressed for the following reasons are fine: Clarity Release Acceptance Remove Judgments Go for deeper feelings (ex: express anger to get to the hurt underneath) not Ok: whining blaming (short-term is fine, in an effort to find your part in it all) one-up-manship / competition poor me (if you want people to feel sorry for you, you're not looking for results) victim (to explain how there really is NOthing you can do about it... and it's all their fault, anyhow) --- Probably the height of the class experience, the HUGEst change in our lives comes from 1 sentence. 1 proclamation. 1 life-changing statement I am through being the victim, and finished blaming others! We call it the Statement of Direction and each student gets a turn to MAKE this proclamation at your 100% (whatever that is for you, at that point in your life) (we all do it... but one at a time... and the way YOU do it, is the way YOU do it... maybe not the way I do it, or others... and that's ok... and that BEING OK, with the entire group, is soooo incredibly validating, too!) you being you, at your 100%: - Breaks through your pre-conceived limitations, walls, prison cell you've put yourself in... - opens your closed heart - expands your stressed mind x josh, are you really going to work with me. or are you putting Jenny in between us, to cushion us you know I was talking to YOU in that last note. you got it. you didn't reply to it... again. I believe you are afraid of me. I believe you don't like me very much. I believe I will rock your world, emotion-wise, because I'm willing, and able, to go where you have never been. childhood pain. can you "go" to your own core pain? if not, that means you: a) don't know yourself, completely. there are entire parts of you that you have never met b) you are afraid of you. If you cannot/will not 'go there', you don't know if you can 'handle it'. once we DO go there, we are NO LONGER AFRAID of ANY of our feelings. knowing, without a shadow, that we can face our own fears, angers, sadness, grief, depression, guilt and shame, all of it! --- are your feelings your bestest friend, or your worstest enemy. do your feelings hurt your other feelings? - Mcp Quote 05:15 does your Fear, come out as WE CAN BE OUR OWN WORST ENEMY! for real. we can even KILL ourselves. We REALLY CAN be our own Worst Enemy! that's a bad thing. that's an important thing. that's a critical, life-changing, life-saving , $100 each for the P's dad, you want to pitch in get cash for, at least, the boys no, All 4x! card and $100 to each write it out. Finn Eman Scott Merk , Meet Merk at 2 give her the cards ---) We introduce folks to their right-brain, and all the Passion, Joy and Color that resides there! we take folks back to their childhood, send the course outline maybe that's the best brochure We have you: 1. Meet your feelings 2. Make friends with your feelings 3. Feel, and Release, your deepest, darkest feelings 4. Change the yucky, negative feelings into lighter, more pleasant, more uplifting feelings. 5. Show you that YOU have control of your own feelings, thoughts and emotions... which means that YOU have control of your own life! It's all Very good news! The fact that we have WAAAY more control, emotionally, than we thought we did... and that we have way, Way, WAY more Choices, emotionally, than we thought we did... that we can make ourselves think and feel SOOO much better, more positively, more empowering, more loving, more Joyous feelings, that we ever thought possible... to me, that's pretty good news! so, I thot I'd share. --- you have good left-brain add right-brain! right-brain is ignored but right-brain is where life lives!! ---) Top 10 Reasons to do an ND weekend - Emotional Recognition - Emotional Agility - Emotional Literacy - Connection - Intimacy - Healing - Transform yourself, Emotionally - Changing Negative Emotions into Positives (or at least neutral) - Practice - Safety - Emotional Understanding (IQ + EQ) I call it meta-analysis, our thoughts about our thoughts. our thoughts about our feelings. our feelings about our thoughts, and our thoughts about them. etc. thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings become aware of 'em learn 'em understand 'em accept 'em then, adjust 'em effect / affect 'em change 'em manage 'em so we can enjoy 'em use 'em to help us get results succeed find / create happiness live, love, laugh esp. Live! ---) Top 10 Reasons to do an ND weekend - Emotional Recognition notice - Emotional Agility - Emotional Literacy identification, separation, understanding - Acceptance, Forgiveness and Compassion for YOU! - Connection - Intimacy - Healing - Transform yourself, Emotionally - Changing Negative Emotions into Positives (or at least neutral) - Practice feelings are uncomfortable (HINT: much worse so, if you fight 'em and deny 'em) Get comfortable being uncomfortable try new things, emotionally shopping - Self-integration: U, u and UU - Safety Experience the safest, most loving place on the planet. the room is silent, as you talk/share/feel/heal. everyone, everyone is listening to you. and only you. for a little while, YOU are the most important person in the world. as far as you can see. what that does is to validate, and integrate, and accept people/me/us at a 'soul level'. we try to live a life of high EQ. what does that look like? what does that feel like? how does it sound? what do I do? what do I say? DoUEQ? I do. Once we feel something positive... it is MUCH easier to replicate that feeling. "A mind, once stretched to a new dimension, never retains it's former shape. "A heart, once stretched to it's fullest limits, never returns to it's former shape." - Mcp Quote once you can FEEL a certain feeling... ALL of it... on Purpose... and you LIVE thru it... You won! you ain't afraid of your own fear, any longer... ever. boom. once you feel ANGER... ALL of it... on Purpose... and NO one gets hurt... and you feel SOOOOOOO much better... then, boom, you're not afraid of your anger no mo', either. once you feel your Sadness... as deeply as your purest little heart feels it... on Purpose... and you don't get lost there, you don't drown, and you find that it does end.... from then on, you get to Enjoy, yes Enjoy your sadness... why? 'cause Sadness is the closest to Love. We are sad about losing stuff/people/pets/parents/kids/friends who we love. Sad and love are very close. To me, my sadness shows me the depth of my love. If I cut off my sadness, I'm cutting off my ability, and my flexibility, to Love, as deeply and cleanly and fully as I possibly can! (make friends with your sadness. honor and respect it, and it won't need to keep coming back quite so often.) - Emotional Understanding (IQ + EQ) I call it meta-analysis, our thoughts about our thoughts. our thoughts about our feelings. our feelings about our thoughts, and our thoughts about them. etc. thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings become aware of 'em learn 'em understand 'em accept 'em then, adjust 'em effect / affect 'em change 'em manage 'em so we can enjoy 'em use 'em to help us get results succeed find / create happiness live, love, laugh esp. Live! - Ever had the same feeling, most days, for many days, and you just can't shake it? Do you have some HUGE events from your childhood... yeah, that one... that is STILL buggin' you? Are you feeling Flat, or Numb, or bored, or disconnected, or depressed (and you're sick of it)? I think we can help you. Actually, you can help you. We can help you, help you. we can show you how to help you. how to heal how to feel, to a great depth, to give life a fuller experience, to manage your feelings and emotions like never before. I'm not going to say that you will be magically cured of every negative emotion after only 1 weekend... this stuff is a life-style choice, so if you come to class, and you're ready to 'feel'... really feel, the REST OF YOUR LIFE will be different (hopefully, better). The reality is that, once you 'feel', you can't really 'go back'... well, you can, but a) it takes more denial, to deny it from here on, 'cause now you know, and it's tuff to un-know something once you know it, and b) I think you'll find, as we have, that it's now your CHOICE to feel... because you CAN feel, cause it's Cool to feel, 'cause it brings Life, and Love, and Laughter, and Peace, and Joy, and Excitement, and Wonder, and Awe, and Power, and Control, and Results, and Success, and Happiness to my life. - Did you know that you CAN change your negative feelings into Positives. we can show you how. but you can do this at home, too. it's about ALLOWing yourself to feel what you feel. now, you may have heard this before, but we do it in the only way it can be done properly... from the beginning. You (u) as a child, had pain. u, as a child, had traumatic things happen. some more than others (and some of the most horrifying stories imaginable) but EVERY kid has traumas. every kid has big negative feelings that they never got to express. we all have stuff that happened (and is maybe still happening) that hurts... a Lot. and you know you're not dealing with it, directly. You know. we ask people in class, about, what Dr. Phil calls, their Defining Moments (we call Early Recollections) we know what messed us up. we know what is still effecting us. we know what we're not 'over'. (mostly) I'd say 80-90% of our students, when asked, knew. there are thoughts and there are feelings Trauma creates both BIG, nasty, generalized, negative Thoughts accompanied by BIG, nasty, negative, incredibly LARGE Feelings fueled by pictures, sounds, smells, and touches, often horrific ones, that Shock the system. - (one young lady remembered events, a fight between her parents, that got physical, while she was STILL IN HER MOM's TUMMY! Her mom was there with her in class, in shock, as girl recounted the story, even the words that were said, perfectly (talk about getting to the core of it all -- totally changed her life, afterwards!) (btw, in DV situations, studies prove that kids' brains kinda STOP growing when their violence and utter fear and unsafety in the home... EVEN if the child was not in the room, and never saw it happen. if this happened to you, there's still pain there, I guarantee it... let us help you get started in cleaning it all outta there) New Directions Emotional Intelligence Breakthrough Weekend we're not "doing" anything to you. we will support you. We have a format that we usually take, because it usually works, beautifully. Everyone's different, so sometimes we have to modify it, in the present. which is fine. it's not about you doing our process... it's about you getting what you want and need, to heal. (or enhance, or extend, or expand, or extract, or create, or appreciate, or fulfill) - kinda like an exorcism there is yucky, negative, black (or red or brown) energy inside you. if you don't want it there, we can help you get it out of you. it won't hurt us, 'cause it's yours... but it you also don't need to carry it around anymore, either. it is my/our theory that little kids are pure, clean, loving little vessels. sometimes, unhappy, unfulfilled, emotionally-clueless parents consciously or unconsciously off-load some of THEIR yuckiness into their sweet, trusting kid(s), so they get a little relief, and validation, and company. and we, as loving children choose to CARRY that yucky energy around with us, from that day forward. a. no bueno... it's not ours to carry! b. ouch... if we're still carrying it, it's still hurting us. c. there's hope... you don't HAVE to carry it. Discover: Where, in your body, do you carry your anger? your fear? your pain? your sadness? Go there. Uncover: Find the pain, stain, rage, pressure, etc. Imagine the size, texture, color, hardness, weight, etc. Recover: Let it go, somehow... Take your hand and grab it and either pull it straight out, let it drop out of you onto the ground via gravity, turn it to a liquid and let it flow out, scream and fight it if necessary... whatever you need to do, to get it out of you. or choose to keep it, for now, and listen to it, learn from it, grow from it. Post-Traumatic Stress or Post-Traumatic Growth it's up to you! Which do you choose? - --- Focus we need to focus, to get things done, right? strong emotions cause us to lose our focus. that's because we don't know what to DO with them. #FeelIt2HealIt, I say. No, I don't curl up in a ball and cry my heart out at every sadness, disappointment or mis-step. I'd be crying all day long. but I do cry. I let myself cry. when a feeling gets big(ger), or repeats ah, that's what it is... if I feel it in the moment, when and while I'm first finding out about it... then, it lessons the impact later... maybe permanently. I've had some issues, NDers have had some issues, that, once felt, and released. NEVER bothered them/us again. ever. in fact, there are some things that have bothered us for some time, that, JUST the acknowledgment of the fact, just knowing that that I had had that thought and made that decision Awareness + Feelings = Clarity We have Thoughts, pretty much every minute, of every day, all day, every day. We have Feelings, pretty much every minute, of every day, all day, every day. We pay attention to Thoughts, not so much our Feelings. 'cause we don't UNDERSTAND them. we don't recognize them. we can't separate them... To most people, they're feelings and emotions are a big mess and a big mystery. both are no bueno. People are afraid of what they don't understand. oh, don't go for the 'people', go for their friends. have the people ask other people. - I'm late to the discussion, - do NDers take less meds? some do. many don't people I know on meds --- I wouldn't say always be "careful" of what you say, For me, with the 'right people' (which most NDers turn out to be!) I am free to be honest about my true feelings, and judgments, and you seem to love me, so I am trusting that you're gonna keep on loving me, even if I am real with you. It's being real, being honest, sharing thoughts, but more importantly sharing feelings. In our meetings, we're not really looking for what's going really well... although we're happy for you... those are working. What we focus on, and go right to, on Friday night... is what are you FEELING? and the choices most are Fear, Anger, Sadness, or all 3? Not, 'what are you feeling' from what happened to you yesterday... we go right for the ROOT of it all... back to childhood... as far back as you can go. ---) Top 10 Reasons to do an ND weekend - Emotional Recognition notice - Emotional Agility whatever comes up, you can handle it / face it / get thru it! - Emotional Literacy identification, separation, understanding, recognition, feedback - Acceptance, Forgiveness and Compassion for YOU! - Super GOOD NEWS! you have WAY more Choices, emotionally, than you ever thought possible! - Hope! there IS help there IS hope there ARE some people who care you CAN heal you CAN feel better, emotionally (in just 1 weekend!) - Connection Magic of the group Connect with self, too! - Anger with Love - Relationship Tools - Body Relief - Take control of your emotional life - Learn how to succeed - Intimacy no walls, no hidden agenda, just love, care and concern.... nothung more - Healing wow, we/you can do sooo much in one weekend... and, in so doing, you'll know, from then on, how to heal yourself... AND your loved ones! - Transform yourself, Emotionally From shut-down and numb, to Alive-Alert-&-Feeling GREAT! from victim to victor from powerless to powerful from shame-based to love-based from I-hate-my-feelings to I-Love-My-Feelings_They-Set-me-FREE! from petrified or prosperous from survivin' to thrivin' from guilt to pride from weighed-down to fired-up from clueless to clueful (is that even a word? :) ) from blaming to claiming from whining to venting - #FeelIt2HealIt - #SpinIt2WinIt - #NameIt2ClaimIt - Changing Negative Emotions into Positives (or at least neutral) ability to - L vs R brain understand and experience the difference esp. R brain - What it's like to BE there, in your feelings - Over 30 years of experience - Full Expression - Equality no longer put down as a little kid, you stand, you grow, you are equal, you are powerful, and you are free! - Guidance toward where you don't want to go - Honest Feedback (but always respectful, and loving) - Validation you are you, and you are ok... with at least somebody/people - Become a therapeutic person - Practice feelings are uncomfortable (HINT: much worse so, if you fight 'em and deny 'em) Get comfortable being uncomfortable try new things, emotionally shopping - Self-integration: U, u and UU - Personal Power(!) - Emotional Tools toolbox - Emotional Skills - Emotional Resilience - Persistance - Grit! - Guilt reduction - Anger / rage reduction - Fear and anxiety Relief - Safety Experience the safest, most loving place on the planet. the room is silent, as you talk/share/feel/heal. everyone, everyone is listening to you. and only you. for a little while, YOU are the most important person in the world. as far as you can see. what that does is to validate, and integrate, and accept people/me/us at a 'soul level'. we try to live a life of high EQ. what does that look like? what does that feel like? how does it sound? what do I do? what do I say? DoUEQ? I do. Once we feel something positive... it is MUCH easier to replicate that feeling. "A mind, once stretched to a new dimension, never retains it's former shape. "A heart, once stretched to it's fullest limits, never returns to it's former shape." - Mcp Quote once you can FEEL a certain feeling... ALL of it... on Purpose... and you LIVE thru it... You won! you ain't afraid of your own fear, any longer... ever. boom. once you feel ANGER... ALL of it... on Purpose... and NO one gets hurt... and you feel SOOOOOOO much better... then, boom, you're not afraid of your anger no mo', either. once you feel your Sadness... as deeply as your pure little heart feels it... on Purpose... and you don't get lost there, you don't drown, and you find that it does end.... from then on, you get to Enjoy, yes Enjoy your sadness... why? 'cause Sadness is the closest to Love. We are sad about losing stuff/people/pets/parents/kids/friends who we love. Sad and love are very close. To me, my sadness shows me the depth of my love. If I cut off my sadness, I'm cutting off my ability, and my flexibility, to Love, as deeply and cleanly and fully as I possibly can! (make friends with your sadness. honor and respect it, and it won't need to keep coming back quite so often.) - Free book - Free heart - Your very own free NDW pencil(!) last - Emotional Understanding (IQ + EQ) I call it meta-analysis, our thoughts about our thoughts. our thoughts about our feelings. our feelings about our thoughts, and our thoughts about them. etc. thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings become aware of 'em learn 'em understand 'em accept 'em then, adjust 'em effect / affect 'em change 'em manage 'em so we can enjoy 'em use 'em to help us get results succeed find / create happiness live, love, laugh esp. Live! - - Ever had the same feeling, most days, for many days, and you just can't shake it? - Do you have some HUGE events from your childhood... yeah, that one... that is STILL buggin' you? - Are you feeling flat, or numb, or blah, or bored, or disconnected, or depressed (and you're sick of it)? I think we can help you. Actually, you can help you. We can help you, help you. We can show you how to help yourself in ways that are kind, respectful, responsible, effective, powerful, lasting, freeing, empowering and very, very cool! We can show you: how to deal how to heal how to feel, to a great depth, to give life a fuller experience, to manage your feelings and emotions like never before. how to squeel, with delight, whenever you feel like it, just 'cause it's fun! - I'm not going to say that you will be magically cured of every negative emotion after only 1 weekend... this stuff is a life-style choice, so if you come to class, and you're ready to 'feel'... really feel, the REST OF YOUR LIFE will be different (hopefully, better). The reality is that, once you 'feel', you can't really 'go back'... well, you can, but a) it takes more denial, to deny it from here on, 'cause now you know, and it's tuff to un-know something once you know it, and b) I think you'll find, as we have, that it's now your CHOICE to feel... because you CAN feel, cause it's Cool to feel, 'cause it brings Life, and Love, and Laughter, and Peace, and Joy, and Excitement, and Wonder, and Awe, and Power, and Control, and Results, and Success, and Happiness to my life. - Did you know that you CAN change your negative feelings into Positives. we can show you how. but you can do this at home, too. it's about ALLOWing yourself to feel what you feel. now, you may have heard this before, but we do it in the only way it can be done properly... from the beginning. You (u) as a child, had pain. u, as a child, had traumatic things happen. some more than others (and some of the most horrifying stories imaginable) but EVERY kid has traumas. every kid has big negative feelings that they never got to express. we all have stuff that happened (and is maybe still happening) that hurts... a Lot. and you know you're not dealing with it, directly. You know. we ask people in class, about, what Dr. Phil calls, their Defining Moments (we call Early Recollections) we know what messed us up. we know what is still effecting us. we know what we're not 'over'. (mostly) I'd say 80-90% of our students, when asked, knew. there are thoughts and there are feelings Trauma creates both BIG, nasty, generalized, negative Thoughts accompanied by BIG, nasty, negative, incredibly LARGE Feelings fueled by pictures, sounds, smells, and touches, often horrific ones, that Shock the system. - (one young lady remembered events, a fight between her parents, that got physical, while she was STILL IN HER MOM's TUMMY! Her mom was there with her in class, in shock, as girl recounted the story, even the words that were said, perfectly (talk about getting to the core of it all -- totally changed her life, afterwards!) (btw, in DV situations, studies prove that kids' brains kinda STOP growing when their violence and utter fear and unsafety in the home... EVEN if the child was not in the room, and never saw it happen. if this happened to you, there's still pain there, I guarantee it... let us help you get started in cleaning it all outta there) New Directions Emotional Intelligence Breakthrough Weekend we're not "doing" anything to you. we will support you. We have a format that we usually take, because it usually works, beautifully. Everyone's different, so sometimes we have to modify it, in the present. which is fine. it's not about you doing our process... it's about you getting what you want and need, to heal. (or enhance, or extend, or expand, or extract, or create, or appreciate, or fulfill) - kinda like an exorcism there is yucky, negative, black (or red or brown) energy inside you. if you don't want it there, we can help you get it out of you. it won't hurt us, 'cause it's yours... but it you also don't need to carry it around anymore, either. it is my/our theory that little kids are pure, clean, loving little vessels. sometimes, unhappy, unfulfilled, emotionally-clueless parents consciously or unconsciously off-load some of THEIR yuckiness into their sweet, trusting kid(s), so they get a little relief, and validation, and company. and we, as loving children choose to CARRY that yucky energy around with us, from that day forward. a. no bueno... it's not ours to carry! b. ouch... if we're still carrying it, it's still hurting us. c. there's hope... you don't HAVE to carry it. Discover: Where, in your body, do you carry your anger? your fear? your pain? your sadness? Go there. Uncover: Find the pain, stain, rage, pressure, etc. Imagine the size, texture, color, hardness, weight, etc. Recover: Let it go, somehow... Take your hand and grab it and either pull it straight out, let it drop out of you onto the ground via gravity, turn it to a liquid and let it flow out, scream and fight it if necessary... whatever you need to do, to get it out of you. or choose to keep it, for now, and listen to it, learn from it, grow from it. Post-Traumatic Stress or Post-Traumatic Growth it's up to you! Which do you choose? - Learn the IQ of EQ cognitively, how emotions work (and don't work) steps (lots of steps) - Self-empowerment - Self-esteem - Self-motorvation - Self-Acceptance (!) - Self-Integration no more having wars with yourself ---) do you want to be a schlump? do you want to drag your tired a$$ thru life, dreading the day, and disappointed with the people? are you excited about your life, or not so much? are you scared and angry at the new administration? what do you DO with all those feelings? How can you #SpinIt2WinIt? --- ---" (Notebook from Garage) ND Brochure How can you feel love(d), if you cannot feel? Want to feel love(d), deeper, more colorful and more satisfying? Learn EQ. Let yourself feel. Cry. Release. Open up. Expand! Free yourself Allow. REJOICE! Feel! - (5.27.2016 00:22) Do you trust your fear? (I didn't, but I do now.) Fear exaggerates. 1 fear gets your mind going on possible negative scenarios Do you believe them? Do you trust them? Left unchecked, our fears can make a bad thing much worse. (and bigger, and jumpier, and more dangerous and us more powerless!) Learn to tell yourself the truth. So that you do trust your fear(s). - If you can open up and let the sun, and light and love GROW HOT inside you, you already won! and chances are... it (you) will Spill out onto others around you. Wanna bring love and joy to those you love and enjoy? Be Love. Be the Joy. Bring you to the table, full and radiant. Bring it! - http://www.newdirectionsworkshop.com/testimonials/ ---) Ever felt like you wanted to 'be there' for others, like never before? (hint: It has a LOT to do with YOUR feelings and emotions!) ---"... so I can compile that into something workable. There's the current file I just sent (2 MB, 3.1.2017 -present) and my archive file (52 MB, 4.1.2004 - 2.28.2017). Can you write some code to open the file, search for "ND Brochure", and then Copy the text from the next line to the end-of-entry marker "---"... This is not the place they get to come each week to whine about how they feel - this is where they come to examine what is working in the present, what is not, and to go through the process of changing the "is not" part of that by taking action. - Penny R. Tupy, Life Coach Feelings expressed for the following reasons are fine: Clarity Release Acceptance Remove Judgments Go for deeper feelings (ex: express anger to get to the hurt underneath) not Ok: whining blaming (short-term is fine, in an effort to find your part in it all) one-up-manship / competition poor me (if you want people to feel sorry for you, you're not looking for results) victim (to explain how there really is NOthing you can do about it... and it's all their fault, anyhow) --- ----------------------