NDBr.txt NDBrochure (!) EQ101 D-R (!) -- ND Breadth 3. Acceptance - #FrameIt2ClaimIt 4. Expression (or NOT!)- #FeelIt2HealIt 5. Release of Negatives - #LetItFlowLetItGo 6. Replace with Positives - #SpinIt2WinIt 7. REJOICE! - #ExaggerateEnthusiasm 4 Steps to Learning EQ 1. Unconsciously Incompetent 2. Consciously Incompetent 3. Consciously Competent 4. Unconsciously Competent There's a process that we all go thru when learning anything new. 1. Unconsciously Incompetent “We don’t know that we don’t know.” Clueless, unaware, no idea 2. Consciously Incompetent “We find out that we don’t know.” Oh, I see. Makes sense. Can't do it, but I see how it works. 3. Consciously Competent “We learn how to do it different.” Practice. Do. Think. Feel. Learn! Ask! Try. Experience. Grow. Fly. On Purpose. 4. Unconsciously Competent “We do it different, without having to think about it (much).” Soar. Sail. Drift. Enjoy! Connect. Be. Do. Have. Smile. - 3 Steps to Dealing with Feelings Knowledge Acceptance Expression (or NOT!) - 3 Steps to High EQ Awareness Acceptance Action (or NOT!) - WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE (WTD) posted: holding someone accountable and blaming them guilt and shame positive and negative emotions ("Nothing" - Josh Freedman) negative-to-positive 10.2.2016 feelings and emotions Faith and Trust Love and Hate 10.20.2016 Thoughts and Feelings 10.27.2016 Fear and Anxiety FB-EIA, 1.30.2017 Venting vs. Whining FB-EIA, 2.15.2017 I don't mind venting (outta me), but not dumping (onto you)... there's a dif... and I appreciate the differentiation. venting = responsibility, maturity, awareness. Whining = victim, denial, misplacement, transferrance What's the opposite of "victim"? 3.4.2017 surviving and thriving FB-EIA, 3.22.2017 unposted, as of yet: bossy and bullying being bossy and being a leader thoughts vs. thinking vs. Thots (Mcp) victim or victor petrified or prosperous(?) powerless and powerful EQ and IQ judgment and discernment forgiving and forgetting forgiving and not forgiving -- ND Brochure from the feedback I'm getting on the brochure, I feel like people are trying to tell me, as they told Howard Rourk, to conform and be nice. I have gone overboard in the past in being conversational (ie-immature), but I my writing now is more mature and more professional, while still including myself in the text/content. Write ND from my perspective, 80% them, 20% me. Write what I know, then back it up with, how I know it, personally. Say it clearly, and forthright, and with Attitude. 30 second elevator speech -- ND Brochure This is not the place they get to come each week to whine about how they feel - this is where they come to examine what is working in the present, what is not, and to go through the process of changing the "is not" part of that by taking action. - Penny R. Tupy, Life Coach Feelings expressed for the following reasons are fine: Clarity Release Acceptance Remove Judgments Go for deeper feelings (ex: express anger to get to the hurt underneath) not Ok: whining blaming (short-term is fine, in an effort to find your part in it all) one-up-manship / competition poor me (if you want people to feel sorry for you, you're not looking for results) victim (to explain how there really is NOthing you can do about it... and it's all their fault, anyhow) -- ND Bruises (which, in my opinion, matters more... we can get over and thru ANY cuts and bruises if we have emotional strength, resilience and fortitude... three of the top subjects we learn with EQ!) EQ is about acknowledging, accepting, understanding Which leads to Managing, controlling, directing, empowering, enlivening ourselves and our feelings and emotions. Which leads to us being stand-up people, with emotional AND personal responisibility. EQ --> ER --> PR --> SR --> SR2 --> WorldPeace! "It could happen!" - little orphan boy in Disney's "Angels in the Outfield"... >> Angels in the Outfield >> "Michael!" best attitude -- ND Breathes this stuff (and writes it all down)! On nights and weekends for over 30 years, he's an EQ dude, having lead hundreds of intensive, therapeutic, weekend emotional breakthrough trainings in California and Washington. He also owns or runs 7 social media sites on Facebook and LinkedIn, with over 150,000 approved members. But, by day, he's a Database Dude -- using his EQ as best he can in the IQ world of high-technology. He's the Project Manager for a multi-million dollar software product, for a Fortune 500 medical healthcare conglomerate... and he swears he was promoted BECAUSE of his EQ! :) - dinner -- ND Br ND Brochure Probably the height of the class experience, the HUGEst change in our lives comes from 1 sentence. 1 proclamation. 1 life-changing statement I am through being the victim, and finished blaming others! We call it the Statement of Direction and each student gets a turn to MAKE this proclamation at your 100% (whatever that is for you, at that point in your life) (we all do it... but one at a time... and the way YOU do it, is the way YOU do it... maybe not the way I do it, or others... and that's ok... and that BEING OK, with the entire group, is soooo incredibly validating, too!) you being you, at your 100%: - Breaks through your pre-conceived limitations, walls, prison cell you've put yourself in... - opens your closed heart - expands your stressed mind can you "go" to your own core pain? if not, that means you: a) don't know yourself, completely. there are entire parts of you that you have never met b) you are afraid of you. If you cannot/will not 'go there', you don't know if you can 'handle it'. once we DO go there, we are NO LONGER AFRAID of ANY of our feelings. knowing, without a shadow, that we can face our own fears, angers, sadness, grief, depression, guilt and shame, all of it! -- ND Br brighter, become the shining star that you are. For daily inspiration and advice, join my Facebook page: Pinky and Her Brain - Life Lessons. Wishing you love and light, Pinky Jangra © 2016 Pinky and Her Brain. All rights reserved. -- ND Bro for 5 days) --> Sacramento (overnight) --> Fresno --> home (4/4)... and 4/5 we're having our big Family Dinner here, as it's my birthday! -- ND Brews new account Welcome back Matt! / LOGOUT https://royalty.redrobin.com/dashboard Phone (in-restaurant account lookup): 916-599-8597 Account: 30385-7610-42594 -- ND Brochure are your feelings your bestest friend, or your worstest enemy. do your feelings hurt your other feelings? - Mcp Quote 05:15 does your Fear, come out as WE CAN BE OUR OWN WORST ENEMY! for real. we can even KILL ourselves. We REALLY CAN be our own Worst Enemy! that's a bad thing. that's an important thing. that's a critical, life-changing, life-saving , $100 each for the P's dad, you want to pitch in get cash for, at least, the boys no, All 4x! card and $100 to each write it out. Finn Eman Scott Merk , Meet Merk at 2 give her the cards -- ND Brochure We introduce folks to their right-brain, and all the Passion, Joy and Color that resides there! we take folks back to their childhood, send the course outline maybe that's the best brochure We have you: 1. Meet your feelings 2. Make friends with your feelings 3. Feel, and Release, your deepest, darkest feelings 4. Change the yucky, negative feelings into lighter, more pleasant, more uplifting feelings. 5. Show you that YOU have control of your own feelings, thoughts and emotions... which means that YOU have control of your own life! It's all Very good news! The fact that we have WAAAY more control, emotionally, than we thought we did... and that we have way, Way, WAY more Choices, emotionally, than we thought we did... that we can make ourselves think and feel SOOO much better, more positively, more empowering, more loving, more Joyous feelings, that we ever thought possible... to me, that's pretty good news! so, I thot I'd share. -- ND Bring people closer . East or West people will be people . Unlike · Reply · 2 · Yesterday at 2:39am Dattatreya Yellapantula Dattatreya Yellapantula How many around you in your families and extended families are able to take your negative feelings! Krishna Kumari A Govindaraj Unlike · Reply · 2 · 18 hrs Ritu Chaudhry Ritu Chaudhry None Unlike · Reply · 2 · 18 hrs Matt Perelstein Write a reply... Choose File Matt Perelstein Matt Perelstein Hi Dattatreya, as long as I express my feelings, even my negative ones, as MY feelings, and nothing else, my family (whom I'm visiting right now... I'm sitting at my mom's desk, writing EQ, at 5am) can 'take' my negative feelings, just fine. I trained them to. They know I'm super-sensitive (and they seem to kinda like me, anyway... who knew? :) ), but I'm aware of that, and super-responsible for that. If we can speak from "I feel...", there really is no argument. And "I'm afraid that...", and "I'm scared about...", and "I'm sad that...", and even "I'm angry about...", these can be heard, acknowledged, and accepted by those around me. Plus, my cancer journey showed me that they can lead to empathy and compassion, for me. I found that if I want people to like hanging around with me, AND I want to get my needs met at the same time, I need to communicate in a way that is totally real and genuine... I need to "teach" people around me how to be with me ... and I need to Ask for what I want, clearly, powerfully and responsibly. That's on me, and has little to do with 'them'. How is your fam, you guys? are you brave enough to be real around them? Are you real around anyone? Are you real with yourself, at least? -- ND Bruises and the need to do a restart. But, very seldom are they terminal. The other part is that fear has never stopped anyone from doing something they really wanted to do. If it is important enough, no matter how scared you are, you will do it. If you find yourself not doing something you said you wanted to do. . . . IT IS BECAUSE YOU DID NOT WANT TO DO IT! To be able to do this requires you believe that it is okay to be human and that you are acceptable and lovable with your imperfections. As a result, I have come to the conclusion that being defensive is a waste of time. If I am wrong, I need to change. So, there is no reason to be defensive. However, if I am right, right is its own defense. When I am being defensive, it raises doubts in myself as to my innocence. Otherwise, why would I have to defend myself? The more I defend myself, the more I raise the suspicion in you that may be I am wrong. Defensiveness is based upon beliefs that the opposite of love is hate or anger. “Only if I am perfect, will I be lovable, be acceptable. Only then, will you think well of me. Only by being perfect, can I escape being rejected or abandoned. Therefore, I must defend myself to prove I am right so you will accept me and not be angry. Because, I equate your anger at me to your rejection of me.” When I defend myself, you don’t feel listened to, which causes more fighting and we both feel less loved. As a result, I try harder to be perfect and prove that I was not wrong by defending myself even more. The need to be right in order to be lovable and not be rejected is based on beliefs that are not true. The opposite of love is indifference, not hate. It’s not caring enough to get angry. I become most angry with the people I love the most. It is not easy to give up my need to be perfect, but once I do, then I can give up the need to defend myself. If, however, I sometimes slip back into my old beliefs and find myself being defensive, that’s OK too. I do not have to be perfect . . . even at giving up old beliefs. “Good judgment comes from experience; And experience, well, that comes from bad judgment.” ~ Anonymous ~ Myron Doc Downing PhD Specializing in workshops in Relationships, Depression, Anger Management & Anxiety DocDowning 103 @gmail.com Georgetown, TX -- ND Bread still. Might make spinach dip if sounds good to everyone?? Love are family ?????? 8:31PM Tracy I doing ham and green bean cassarole. Cheesy potatoes too. Mom said she is doing baked beans. Sounds good guys... I/we love spinach dip... looking forward to it! ?? on a super-sad note, I heard from Anthony Cecere today and it seems that Jennifer has been in jail for a week now, awaiting arraignment, before she goes to prison. She is being charged with 3 felonies, including Vehicular Manslaughter with Intoxication... she's looking at 10 years. I had been in contact with her via Facebook, but no more. She can only get written letters. I wish I woulda known she was going... there's more I woulda said to her. Chat Conversation End Seen by Briana, Sean, 2 more -- ND Brain Sciences in Leipzig, Germany Board Member and Fellow, The Mind & Life Institute Advisory Board Member, Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute View Davidson's full CV and list of scientific publications. Submit a speaking request or media interview with Richard Davidson. - added to EQSchools.xlsx -- ND Brain Mapping: Using Neural Measures to Predict Real-World Outcomes. Berkman ET, Falk EB. Curr Dir Psychol Sci. 2013 Feb;22(1):45-50. PMID: 24478540. NIH News in Health, August 2015 search search button FEATURES Positive Emotions and Your Health All About ALS Wise Choices Links Enhance Your Emotional Wellness To develop a more positive mindset: Remember your good deeds. Give yourself credit for the good things you do for others each day. Forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. Learn from what went wrong, but don’t dwell on it. Spend more time with your friends. Surround yourself with positive, healthy people. Explore your beliefs about the meaning and purpose of life. Think about how to guide your life by the principles that are important to you. Develop healthy physical habits. Healthy eating, physical activity, and regular sleep can improve your physical and mental health. Adapted from U.S. Health Resources and Services Administration. CONTACT US NIH Office of Communications and Public Liaison Building 31, Room 5B52 Bethesda, MD 20892-2094 nihnewsinhealth@od.nih.gov Tel: 301-451-8224 Editor: Harrison Wein, Ph.D. Managing Editor: Vicki Contie Contributors: Vicki Contie, Alan Defibaugh (illustrations), Christen Sandoval, Carol Torgan, Samantha Watters, and Harrison Wein Attention Editors: Reprint our articles and illustrations in your own publication. Our material is not copyrighted. Please acknowledge NIH News in Health as the source and send us a copy. -- ND Broader efforts to commission, curate, and distribute resources, CASEL is poised to serve as the know-how lab for the SEL field. Our work combines the Know of research with the How of practical application, along with advancing policies that create the conditions for SEL to flourish. We will continue collaborating with educators, scholars, and others to share this know-how with those who can put it to immediate use. The CDI has been a pivotal step in the evolution and maturation in the field of SEL. We are profoundly thankful for the generosity of NoVo Foundation and several other funders and for the vision and commitment of our district partners. They are helping to transform how student success is defined in American education. Through our work and the work of many people in the field, we are making a difference. Our goal: by 2025, 50% of districts are systemically integrating high-quality SEL across their schools and classrooms. It’s time. 1 Contents Preface . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . page 1 CHAPTER 1 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . PAGE 2 Collaborating Districts Initiative: A LEARNING LAB CHAPTER 2 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . PAGE 6 Key Insights CHAPTER 3 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . PAGE 20 Impact on Students and Schools CHAPTER 4 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . PAGE 24 Scaling SEL Know-How Preface Karen Niemi President and CEO Roger P. Weissberg, PhD Chief Knowledge Officer Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning (CASEL). (2017) Key Insights from the Collaborating Districts Initiative. Chicago: Author. 2 3 Collaborating Districts Initiative: A Learning Lab 6 YEARS… 10 DISTRICTS… 900,000 STUDENTS Six years ago CASEL took the unprecedented step of launching an effort to study and scale high-quality, evidence-based academic, social, and emotional learning in eight of the largest and most complex school systems in the country: Anchorage, Austin, Chicago, Cleveland, Nashville, Oakland, Sacramento, and Washoe County, Nev. With the recent addition of Atlanta and El Paso, the Collaborating Districts Initiative (CDI) now includes 10 districts, enrolling 900,000 students a year. It is one of the most comprehensive and ambitious school district improvement initiatives ever. Educators around the world rely on CASEL resources to support their knowledge and understanding of SEL, which in turn affects millions of additional students. And with the spring 2017 launch of the online District Resource Center, the knowledge gleaned from the CDI will benefit millions more. The goal of the CDI was to create a comprehensive shift in how superintendents and entire school districts approach education. We knew we had to help redefine quality education (beyond test scores alone), and to prioritize the practices in classrooms, schools, and communities for promoting the social and emotional development of children. As a result, the CDI is focused on systemic SEL implementation— SEL across all district, school, and classroom activities, increasingly in partnership with parents and communities. SEL as a once-a-week program is not enough to establish sustainable teaching and learning environments where students truly thrive. SEL is sustained and students thrive when it is promoted and reinforced throughout the school day, modeled and taught by teachers, families, and community members – and supported by district policies, practices, and investments. CHAPTER 1 Study Anchorage AUSTIN CLEVELAND 3 DISTRICTS 171K STUDENTS 2011 Study Anchorage ATLANTA AUSTIN CHICAGO CLEVELAND EL PASO NASHVILLE OAKLAND SACRAMENTO WASHOE COUNTY 10 DISTRICTS 900K STUDENTS TODAY SEL helps all students reach their full potential as caring, contributing, responsible, and knowledgeable friends, family members, coworkers, and citizens. It helps them build positive skills, such as greater self-awareness and self-management, improved relationship skills, and responsible decision-making in safe and supportive learning environments. These skills and behaviors are important in their own right, but they also benefit students in other ways. For example, a major review of research studies on SEL school programs revealed 11 percentile-point gains in academic performance. 1 Benefits extend beyond students to the broader society as well. Another study demonstrated statistically significant associations between social-emotional skills in kindergarten and key young adult outcomes in education, employment, criminal activity, substance use, and mental health. 2 Overall, quality SEL yields an 11:1 return on investment, according to a 2015 Columbia University study. 3 Scholars from the fields of neuroscience, health, employment, psychology, classroom management, learning theory, economics, and youth development also have identified benefits. SEL also helps avoid or reduce negative outcomes for kids. For example, more than 40% of teens are “chronically disengaged.” 4 In the past year, one in 13 students has been in at least one fight, one in six has carried a weapon, and one in 10 has had sex with more than four people. 5 Teen depression has increased five-fold since the 1950s. 6 Half of college students report feeling “overwhelmed.” 7 SEL helps students overcome challenges such as these and gives students the opportunity to succeed in school and in life. 4 5 1 Child Development, January/February 2011 2 Robert Wood Johnson Foundation/American Journal of Public Health 3 Center for Benefit-Cost Studies in Education, Teachers College, Columbia University 4 University of Michigan, Personality and Social Psychology Review 5 Centers for Disease Control and Prevention 6 Birth Cohort Differences in Self-Esteem, 1988–2008: A cross-temporal 7 Centers for Disease Control and Prevention Child Development, January/February 2011 Why SEL is NeededRaises Stu dent Performance •Higher academic achievement •Better socialemotional skills •Improved attitudes about self, others, and school •Positive classroom behavior R e duces Ri s k for F a ilure •Fewer conduct problems •Less emotional distress SEL’s Benef its A 2011 meta-analys is foun d t hat SEL … 7 To learn more, visit CASEL’s District Resource Center drc.casel.org 6 Key Insights Insight 1 Systemic SEL is possible. Implementation WORKS even with leadership changes and relatively small budgets. The CDI began with strong leadership from the top. Superintendents and their districts committed to an ambitious agenda of change: systemic implementation of SEL across all district, school, and classroom activities and in partnership with parents and communities. This was not SEL as a once-a-week program but instead a paradigm shift where district leaders committed to: • Cultivate commitment and organizational support for SEL. • Assess SEL resources and needs. • Support classroom, school, and community SEL programming. • Establish systems for continuous improvement. Significantly, unlike many major district efforts, districts received minimal financial incentives to undertake these sweeping reforms. Each of the first eight districts received annual grants of $250,000 for up to six years. That represents less than 0.04% of the average CDI district’s annual budget for all expenses (excluding Chicago’s budget, which is larger than the other seven CDI district budgets combined). The districts supplemented NoVo Foundation grants with their own investments. None of the districts has the same superintendent as when the CDI began. Indeed, Chicago Public Schools has had four superintendents since 2010, yet SEL is still growing throughout the district, supported by 25 dedicated staff in the Office of Social and Emotional Learning. Despite this turnover, after five years of independently evaluating the CDI, the American Institutes for Research (AIR) concluded: “Our findings suggest that districts participating in the CDI have sustained, deepened, and broadened their commitment to SEL and developed capacities to support its implementation. Participation in the CDI and in district-initiated activities has enhanced the readiness of the districts and their schools to implement and sustain SEL. More staff and stakeholders know about it and want it, and SEL has been embedded as a pillar in strategic plans. Furthermore, districts are increasingly aligning SEL with other districtwide activities.” Districts were able to withstand leadership turnover and budget cuts, especially when they had broad stakeholder commitment to SEL, when they focused on deepening the SEL expertise of central office staff, effectively integrated SEL across district departments and initiatives, and began to see evidence of improvements in climate and attendance, and reductions in suspensions. Since 2011 we have been working with our partner districts in an intensive ongoing cycle of implementation, refinement, evaluation, and documentation to deepen our understanding of how to embed SEL into their work. We are working closely with superintendents, district SEL leaders, research and evaluation teams, principals, teachers, parents, and community members to support and promote systemic SEL. We are providing hands-on, practical consulting and support. And we are connecting districts virtually and in-person with each other, in small peer-to-peer learning groups, and in large cross-district meetings, so that they can learn and benefit from each other’s experiences. We promised no quick fixes, but rather sustained commitment, access to the smartest leaders, high-quality research, and a passion for evidence and results. Our initial research questions asked what does systemic SEL mean? What does it look like in practice, and how is it achieved? This chapter highlights seven key insights drawn from our experience. 1. Systemic SEL is possible even with leadership changes and relatively small budgets. 2. SEL ideally is integrated into every aspect of the district’s work, from the strategic plan and budgets to human resources and operations. 3. SEL ideally is integrated into every aspect of the school, from classroom instruction to school climate and culture to communityfamily partnerships. 4. Successful implementation can follow multiple pathways, based on each district’s unique needs and strengths. Regardless of the approach, the engagement and commitment of both school and district leadership is essential. 5. Adult SEL matters, too. 6. Data for continuous improvement are essential. 7. Districts benefit from collaborating with each other. “The CDI demonstrates that it is possible for large urban school districts to adopt and maintain SEL as an essential element of education, even amid budgetary stress and leadership turnover.” American Institutes for Research CHAPTER 2 SEL Grants REPRESENTED ONLY ABOUT 0.04% OF EACH DISTRICT’S BUDGET VISION Develop a district wide vision and long term plan 9 To learn more, visit CASEL’s District Resource Center drc.casel.org INTEGRATION Integrate SEL with district initiatives For example, Oakland Unified School District’s commitment to social and emotional learning is evident across the system—including the district’s vision and strategic plan, SEL board policy, SEL standards, classroom curricula, restorative justice practices, and professional learning. The district’s new performance frameworks for teachers, principals, schools, and the superintendent are all based on the district’s SEL standards, as is professional learning for all principals and assistant principals. Oakland is also beginning to use SEL school-quality indicators to help schools align and prioritize resources and goals for student success. In Chicago SEL is integrated into the district’s overall strategic plan. The district also has established a districtwide code of conduct and climate standards. A progressive discipline policy limits the use of exclusionary discipline practices and encourages all schools to respond to misbehavior using supportive, restorative discipline practices to promote social and emotional development. SEL is part of professional development for core academic content in areas such as math and literacy. SEL is integrated into the district’s Multi-Tiered Systems of Support (MTSS), which provides differentiated support for students. Anchorage School District has embedded SEL instructional strategies into leadership meetings, professional development sessions, and curriculum. It is creating a MTSS approach that integrates SEL curriculum and strategies with Positive Behavioral Interventions and Supports (PBIS). A district SEL leadership team of 30 leaders from the classroom to the superintendent guides this work. In Sacramento City Unified School District, over 50 schools have adopted evidence-based curriculum and are explicitly teaching SEL lessons across all grade levels. Leadership teams from all K-12 schools were trained on SEL core competencies, restorative practices, and equity. Equity coaches regularly work with schools to support their SEL/Equity leadership teams, facilitate professional growth opportunities for staff, model lessons, and support individual teachers. In year five an interdepartmental professional learning community was created to develop expertise and deepen collaboration among central office staff. To complement the in-district work, CASEL is partnering with The Wallace Foundation to help districts align their SEL work with out-of-schooltime efforts. 8 Insight 2 SEL is ideally integrated throughout the district. When implemented well, SEL is embedded into every aspect of the district’s work, from the strategic plan and budgets to human resources and operations. Systemic SEL is not a siloed approach or standalone program, but a new way of doing business. At the district level, we have worked closely with superintendents, district SEL leaders, school boards, curriculum and instruction departments, research and evaluation teams, and others in multiple ways to help districts adopt systemic strategies that embed SEL into every aspect of school life. Districts are building SEL into their strategic plans and budgets. They are reorganizing leadership structures so that SEL is not a separate priority but is integrated into core functions such as academics, professional development, and equity. They are integrating SEL into the development and implementation of districtwide policies on hiring and discipline. They are systematically collecting and analyzing data for continuous improvement (more in Insight 6). And they are regularly communicating with and engaging multiple stakeholders. “For us, it’s not about one more thing we have to budget for. SEL is in the blood of what we do in the district. It’s not just an off-the-shelf program. It’s really about what we do every day for kids.” Traci Davis, Superintendent of Schools, Washoe County School District Theory of Action for Districtwide SEL • Vision & Long-Term Plan • Stakeholder Communications • Aligned Resources • Central Office Expertise • Professional Learning • SEL Integration • SEL Standards & Assessments • Evidence-Based Programs CULTIVATE COMMITMENT & ORGANIZATIONAL SUPPORT FOR SEL ESTABLISH SYSTEMS FOR CONTINUOUS IMPROVEMENT ASSESS SEL RESOURCES & NEEDS SUPPORT CLASSROOM, SCHOOLWIDE, & COMMUNITY SEL PROGRAMMING 10 11 Systemic SEL is a new way of doing business at the school level as well. District leaders have worked closely with principals, teachers, parent leaders, community partners, and others in multiple ways to help schools adopt systemic strategies that embed SEL into every aspect of school life. In classrooms implementing well, SEL is promoted through explicit instruction, often using an evidence-based program identified in CASEL’s program reviews. It is integrated across classroom instruction and academic curriculum, from the math class organized around cooperative learning to the social studies class that routinely helps students learn empathy by trying out different perspectives to understand their world. In schools implementing well, there is a culture and climate that supports learning, respect, and caring relationships throughout the school day. Adults are regularly modeling SEL behavior in classrooms and hallways, and on playgrounds. SEL shapes how principals run their staff meetings, how teachers handle their classrooms, how custodians and cafeteria workers know and are known by students, how safety officers interact with students, and how receptionists welcome visitors. In Washoe County School District, staff members at each school attend a three-day training focused on culture and climate, evidence-based programs, student voice, and the integration of SEL into math, English, history, and other classes. Teachers use SEL strategies to engage students in learning core academic content. Students demonstrate listening skills, empathy, and other SEL competencies as they work in pairs, in small groups, and as a whole class. Sacramento has developed Common Core State Standards curriculum maps for English Language Arts and math, explicitly identifying related SEL skills such as being able to collaborate, persevere in solving difficult problems, develop viable arguments, and critique the reasoning of others. SEL skills also are embedded in the district’s college and career readiness graduate profile, which will serve as a guide for students’ successful matriculation. Family and community partnerships extend and deepen the work occurring in schools. Austin Independent School District’s citywide Ready by 21 Youth Services Mapping program helps students and families locate services and supports that address academic enrichment and support, as well as social, emotional, and behavioral health. The district has also provided training in SEL to multiple out-ofschool providers. And a local philanthropic matching program has raised $2.4 million in three years. Sacramento has integrated SEL into its nationally recognized Parent Teacher Home Visit Project, the districtwide Parent Information Exchange, parent training modules, and its Family Night Toolkit on Math, which now includes information on growth mindset. Washoe County has offered more than 80 Parent University SEL courses, including College and Career Success and Building Resiliency in Children. “We changed from everything being punitive to making everything a teaching moment: What did you do? Why did you do it? Do you know it was wrong? What could you do differently? The staff was on board. There was a lot of buy-in.” Janet McDowell, Principal, Wade Park Elementary School, Cleveland Metropolitan School District Student and Teacher Voice A supportive climate and culture results when there are opportunities for multiple voices to be heard. In Cleveland Metropolitan School District, for example, about 450 high school students meet quarterly to review their individual school’s Conditions for Learning data, participate in activities with their peers, and provide feedback directly to the CEO about proposed district improvements. In Chicago students sat on the committee that rewrote the district’s discipline policy and created supports for school staff members. They helped create a video to teach all stakeholders about the important shift to a restorative practices approach. “In order to help our students learn, we have to build relationships with our students. That’s what they say to us.” Antwan Wilson, former superintendent of Oakland Unified School District, currently chancellor of Washington, DC Public Schools Insight 3 SEL ideally is integrated throughout the school. When implemented well, SEL is embedded into every aspect of the school, from classroom instruction to school climate and culture to partnerships with the community and families. “I don’t know that there are any kids out there, in any school district, that don’t have some needs for SEL support.” José Banda, Superintendent, Sacramento City Unified School District To learn more, visit CASEL’s District Resource Center drc.casel.org INTEGRATION Integrate SEL with district initiatives 12 13 Insight 4 Successful implementation can follow multiple pathways. Each district has unique needs and strengths, but regardless of the approach, DISTRICT AND school leadership is key. Districts have chosen a variety of approaches for rolling out their SEL implementation to schools. There is no single path to successful implementation. Some built from the classroom up, using SEL programming as an anchor. Others built from the central office down, focused on strategy and organization. Some start with clusters of K-12 schools (high school and “feeder” middle and elementary schools).Others roll out districtwide at specific grade levels. For example, Austin started with two feeder patterns of elementary, middle, and high schools, then added three more the following year, then two more each year until all schools in the district were implementing SEL. On the other hand, Cleveland implemented the PATHS program districtwide, starting with all K-2 grades one year and grades 3-5 during the following year. Second Step was introduced in grade 6 in 2015. It was enhanced with the inclusion of grades 7-8 in 2016. Regardless of the pathway, implementation needs to get down to the school level where the students are — and where relationships are formed, curriculum is taught, and partnerships with families and community happen. And the principal’s understanding of and commitment to SEL are critical to leading these efforts. To ensure effective implementation at the school level, Washoe County uses school-based SEL teams comprising at least one administrator and four to six site-based staff including teachers, counselors, and speech pathologists. In addition, 21 teacher leaders receive additional professional development and then train their school colleagues and parents. Austin uses a coaching and strategic planning model, with each SEL specialist responsible for up to 12 schools. Building on Strengths Needs assessments help districts identify and build on strengths. Surveys and focus groups, for example, helped Washoe County discover the central role of counselors. The district then developed more inclusive training for teachers, principals, and others. In Austin a survey of SEL liaisons, principals, and coaches helped identify the quality of school implementation. The district used that information to help scale up best practices. To focus on school leadership, the district’s new planning team now includes three principals and the chief of schools, who supervises principals. “The way we’ve implemented SEL, instruction happens every single day in the classroom, not something we do separate and apart.” Paul Cruz, Superintendent, Austin Independent School District “SEL is the way we go about our business. Relationships matter most. I see the whole world through the lens of SEL.” Brian Singleton, Principal, Begich Middle School, Anchorage School District To learn more, visit CASEL’s District Resource Center drc.casel.org ALIGN RESOURCES Align financial and human resources 14 15 Social and emotional competence among staff improves teaching and leadership by strengthening relationships, creating safer learning environments, reducing staff burnout, and building trust among colleagues. It also helps those working directly with children to teach, model, and reinforce SEL competencies in their academic and interpersonal interactions with students. Educators who model SEL have clear expectations and guidelines, including setting appropriate consequences, according to Nick Yoder of the American Institutes for Research. They find ways to stay calm when angry. They avoid mocking or embarrassing their students. They give students choices and respect their wishes. They ask questions that help students solve problems on their own. They are culturally aware and competent. Yet too few teachers have been formally trained in their teacher preparation programs on SEL. A recent University of British Columbia/CASEL report found the overwhelming majority of teacher preparation programs do not have courses that help educators teach core SEL skills to students.8 Penn State University’s Mark Greenberg observed in a recent report: “If a teacher is unable to manage their stress adequately, their instruction will suffer, which then impacts student well-being and achievement. In contrast, teachers with better emotion regulation are likely to reinforce positive student behavior and support students in managing their own negative emotions.”9 Anchorage discovered after two years of implementing student-centered reforms it needed to pause to focus more on staff training. “We can’t expect teachers to model what we don’t give them a chance to practice themselves,” says Jan Davis, SEL Professional Learning Specialist. Moreover, the Anchorage team is exploring how developing adults’ social and emotional competencies may bolster their capacity to appropriately use culturally responsive teaching practices, which ultimately will ensure that all students are supported in reaching their full potential. Adult awareness, modeling, and integration of social-emotional competencies in their teaching practices has long been a priority for Chicago Public Schools. All introductory SEL workshops ask leaders to identify and reflect on their own SEL competencies, prioritize areas where they would like to grow, and plan how to engage colleagues in an ongoing process of building these skills throughout their departments, regions, or schools. Efforts such as these helped the district to identify a link between adult decision-making and a historical overuse of suspensions. To reinforce the importance of adult SEL, some districts are explicitly embedding SEL into their staff performance frameworks. Oakland, for example, created performance frameworks for adults and elementary students based on its SEL standards. SEL factors into the evaluation process for all classroom teachers, PreK-12. The OUSD Leadership Growth and Development System guides the professional development and evaluation of all principals throughout the district. The superintendent holds herself accountable to the school board for specific SEL goals and objectives included in her work plan. “We ask educators what’s that one skill you want students to have to be successful? It’s the social-emotional skills they want students to have.” Kyla Krengel, Director, SEL, Metro Nashville Public Schools Insight 5 Adult SEL matters, too. Relationships are central, and adults need the expertise to teach and model appropriate lessons and behaviors in every interaction. 8 The University of British Columbia Department of Educational and Counselling Psychology, and Special Education 9 Penn State University/Robert Wood Johnson Foundation “You walk around the school now and you can tell there are relationships that exist between teachers and teachers, between teachers and students, and students with one another. What that allows for is a culture of calm.” Jessica, Chicago Public Schools, ninth-grade student To learn more, visit CASEL’s District Resource Center drc.casel.org BUILD EXPERTISE Develop central office SEL expertise and competence 16 17 Having research and evaluation teams involved in SEL work from the start yields several benefits. They help clarify goals and desired outcomes. They ensure that progress toward these outcomes is regularly measured, analyzed, and shared through data dashboards, reports, and similar management tools for continuous improvement. In addition, clear metrics help keep everyone on on the same page. Regular visibility helps ensure that everyone knows the work is important. Most important, armed with data, districts can make more informed decisions about necessary changes in strategies and programming. For example, Austin raised local funds to help create a two-person S EL research team, which produced regular leadership reports on implementation and progress. One report measured the impact of a specific curriculum on absentee rates, disciplinary incidents, grades, and standardized test scores. Another compared the impact of program longevity to the effectiveness of implementation, with mixed results. These reports have helped the district create buy-in, communicate about the importance of S EL, and raise additional funds to support the work. Cleveland’s long-term research project with AIR produces invaluable insights into S EL attitudes and school climate and culture through its Conditions for Learning surveys of students, staff, and parents, given two times a year. District administrators and school staff regularly analyze the information and use it to provide practical advice on topics such as encouraging civility and enhancing the school culture. Acting on the data is key. After finding staff survey participation had dropped sharply, Anchorage worked with CAS EL to use the data to inform priorities for programming and training. Once they saw how the survey research helped principals guide their work, teacher participation on the surveys soared — from a low of 30% to 79%. In Washoe County S EL staff works closely with the accountability department to help ensure a steady stream of insightful analyses. Using the results of a sophisticated 17-question survey, for example, they made the case that students with higher S EL skills did better on virtually every other outcome measure (test scores, GPAs, attendance, etc.). And they targeted staff development to address issues where students reported feeling the weakest, such as the ability to express feelings. In Metro Nashville Public Schools the resesarch and development department has contributed significantly to the school and classroom observational tools now being used in 28 schools to establish a baseline for an annual mid-year assessment of school climate and practice. The district also has used the tool to assess strengths and needs in roughly 50 other schools and to customize professional development accordingly. Ins i g ht 6 Data for continuous improvement are essential. Research and evaluation that are focused on improvement accelerate an d ra ise t he qual ity of t he rollout. To learn more, visit CASEL’s District Resource Center drc.casel.org CONTI N U OUS IMPR O V E MEN T Establish systems for continuous improvement 18 19 The CDI offers an opportunity for many of the country’s leading educators to intensively create and explore which approaches work best, then share that know-how with each other and the world. To accelerate learning among CDI districts, we created multiple peer learning communities, which foster long-term commitment and sustainability through regular opportunities to learn from each other. For example, the annual Cross-Districts Learning Event convenes educators and others from CDI districts to explore implementation topics such as mindsets, academic integration, adult SEL, financial sustainability, and assessment. More topic-specific work groups have emerged from these large sessions, such as our Equity Work Group, Research and Evaluation Professional Learning Community, and Professional Learning Series. Through a series of in-person meetings, webinars, and one-on-one phone calls, these groups are learning from their peers about successes, challenges, and innovations. A few districts have adapted the proactive social media communications and engagement strategies used by Austin and Atlanta, for example. Washoe County has benefitted from Chicago’s approach to adult SEL. Other districts have learned from Washoe’s innovative use of data and student voice to support climate and culture, using their student data summits. The CDI superintendents connect regularly through in-person opportunities, webinars, and one-on-one conversations, exploring a wide range of issues including stakeholder communication, budgeting, data use, and strategies for crisis intervention. Cross-district site visits occur regularly. For example, Anchorage visited Chicago to learn more about its MTSS implementation model and see SEL leadership teams and integrated instruction at schools. The Cleveland team members learned different strategies for implementing the Closing the Achievement Gap initiative from their visit to Oakland. Washoe and Oakland learned about Anchorage’s multiyear strategic plan for SEL implementation and saw SEL-academic integration in practice. Atlanta and El Paso Benefit Two of the newest members of the CDI are benefitting from the work of the first eight districts. Both Atlanta Public Schools and El Paso Independent School District heeded the recommendation to focus on adult SEL early. Atlanta is also focusing on parent engagement and will adapt resources from the CDI in its efforts. El Paso has made use of Sacramento’s approach to teaching a growth mindset. And other CDI districts have used El Paso’s “hidden backpack” activity, a facilitation approach designed to build empathy for the unseen daily burdens that affect students’ and adults’ ability to focus on their work. CROSS-DISTRICTS LEARNING EVENTs PARTICIPANTS SAY... Anchorage, Alaska 2011 Austin, TexAS 2012 Nashville, TennESSEE 2013 Cleveland, Ohio 2015 Reno, NevADA 2016 “I have a deeper appreciation for why we need to include adults in the SEL learning process and why districts elect to work with adult SEL first, as a foundation for districtwide implementation. GREAT!!” “I can’t wait to bring this back to our new teacher program as well.” OAKLAND, CALIFORNIA 2017 Insight 7 Districts benefit from collaborating with each other. From the start and in keeping with CASEL’S research roots, the CDI was — and is — a COLLABORATIVE learning lab. To learn more, visit CASEL’s District Resource Center drc.casel.org PROFESSIONAL DEVELOPMENT Design and implement effective professional development programs Academic achievement improved The three districts that use the National Assessment of Educational Progress (NAEP) (Austin, Chicago, and Cleveland) all improved their reading and math scores during the CDI implementation years. In Anchorage, Austin, Chicago, Cleveland, Oakland, and Nashville, GPAs were higher at the end of the 2015 school year than before the CDI started. The improvements were particularly noticeable in Chicago, going from an average of 2.19 in the three years before the CDI to 2.65 in 2015, an increase of nearly 21%. Nashville, the only district that used the same standardized tests across CDI years, showed improvements in both ELA and math achievement. All districts with relevant data showed gains in ELA and math in at least one grade band (elementary, middle, high). Chicago’s graduation rate increased 15% during the CDI years. Student engagement and behavior improved Attendance improved in four of six districts that collected this data. Chicago improved overall attendance by eight percentage points from before the CDI started through 2015. Anchorage (elementary, middle) and Nashville (middle, high) showed gains at two of three levels. Suspensions declined in all five of the districts that collected this data. For example, suspensions in Chicago declined 65 percent in two years. This translates to 44,000 fewer students being suspended from school in one recent year alone. In Sacramento suspension rates declined in the five years of systemic SEL implementation: 24% districtwide and 43% in high schools. 20 21 Impact on students and schools To assess the impact of the CDI’s efforts, CASEL entered into an ongoing data collection and evaluation partnership with the districts and American Institutes for Research (AIR). Data were collected to measure the implementation and resulting outcomes. While the availability of data varied by district, qualitative and quantitative outcomes are promising. The bottom line: Even very modest investments in SEL can pay off for individuals, schools, and society. CHAPTER 3 GPAs MATH & ELA SCORES GRADUATION RATES NAEP SCORES “I have seen high schools and middle schools really change the narrative on suspensions and expulsions. If we’re keeping students in schools and teaching them how to deal with things instead of just getting them out the door, we are making huge gains.” Alan Mather, Chief Officer, Office of College and Career Success, Chicago Public Schools 22 23 Student Social and emotional competence improved Districts also reported that students’ social and emotional competence improved, based on student and teacher surveys. In both Chicago and Nashville, elementary school students improved in all five social and emotional competencies: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, relationship skills, and responsible decision-making. In Austin, where only middle and high school data was collected, students at both levels also significantly improved in all five competencies. Middle and high school students in Cleveland also experienced growth, particularly in the areas of self-awareness and self-management. Sacramento (elementary only) and Anchorage (elementary, middle, and high school) collected an average measure of students’ overall social and emotional competence. For Sacramento, elementary students experienced significant gains in overall competence since the start of the CDI. Anchorage students experienced significant growth in overall competence even before the start of the CDI and maintained the same positive trajectory during the CDI years. School climate improved Climate, as measured by district surveys in Chicago and Cleveland, improved during the CDI years. In Anchorage climate began an upward trajectory before the CDI and sustained that same significant and positive growth during the CDI years. In the only district in which elementary school climate data was available for analysis (Chicago), students reported significant improvements on the “supportive environment” scale compared to the start of the CDI in 2010-2011. Districts use a variety of surveys to measure student and staff attitudes. This is an excerpt from Washoe County. THE POSITIVE IMPACTS OF Social and emotional COMPETENCE In collaboration with CASEL, Washoe County documented that students with higher SEL competencies perform better on multiple measures: higher academic achievement, attendance, GPAs, and graduation rates, and fewer suspensions. For example, students with high social and emotional competence had a math proficiency rate that was 21 percentage points higher than their counterparts with low social and emotional competence. Also, students with higher competence were 20 percentage points higher for English/Language Arts (ELA). Findings from the Washoe/CASEL partnership research team also showed that having high social and emotional competence might have buffered students from the negative impact of factors (e.g., suspensions, transiency, weak attendance) that often place them in a “high-risk” academic status. 2014-2015 Math and English Language Arts (ELA) Proficiency Rates among Students with Low vs. High Social and Emotional Competencies LOW SEC HIGH SEC MATH 23% MATH 44% ELA 40% ELA 60% VERY EASY EASY HARD VERY HARD RESPONSIBLE DECISION-MAKING RESPONSIBLE DECISION-MAKING: Thinking about what might happen before making a decision RELATIONSHIP SKILLS RELATIONSHIP SKILLS: Getting along with my classmates SOCIAL AWARENESS SOCIAL AWARENESS: Learning from people with different opinions than me SELF-AWARENESS EMOTIONAL KNOWLEDGE: Knowing when my feelings are making it hard for me to focus SELF-CONCEPT: Knowing what my strengths are SELF-MANAGEMENT SCHOOLWORK: Doing my school work even when i don’t feel like it EMOTIONAL REGULATION: Getting through something even when I feel frustrated GOAL MANAGEMENT: Finishing tasks even if they are hard for me 24 25 OUR GOALS: BY THE END OF 2017 ALL EDUCATORS IN THE COUNTRY WILL HAVE EASY ACCESS TO HUNDREDS OF PRACTICAL TOOLS THAT HAVE BEEN FIELD TESTED BY SOME OF THE LEADING DISTRICTS IN THE U.S. By 2025 50% of U.S. school districts will be systemically integrating high-quality SEL across their schools and classrooms. Demand for SEL is at an all-time high. Teachers recognize the importance of it. Employers are requiring it. Parents value it. Communities are being transformed by it. And, most important, millions of students already are benefitting from it. Based on the practical knowledge gleaned through the CDI and from the field at large, we have extensive knowledge about how to implement high-quality, evidence-based SEL. With our district and philanthropic partners, we at CASEL are uniquely poised to scale this know-how to many more districts nationally. Deepening SEL Know-HOW With an ongoing commitment to deepening the field’s expertise in the practical application of SEL, we plan to expand and formalize how we collect, document, analyze, and translate practices and strategies. We will continue to partner intensively with CDI districts, and deepen and extend partnerships in the broad field to improve implementation and student outcomes while increasing understanding of systemic SEL, piloting new innovations, and refining best practices. We will answer questions such as: • What instructional practices maximize learning, engagement, and achievement? • How can SEL help promote equity in the school and classroom? • How can after-school programs reinforce what’s happening in school? • How can schools engage families and community partners in promoting SEL? • How can schools best use data to improve SEL competencies and school climate? • How can districts allocate resources most effectively? We will amplify the case for systemic SEL with even more meaningful, compelling data, and cases – drawn from the CDI districts and from other districts and schools across the country. Sharing What We Know Our goal is to make knowledge usable. We will translate the knowledge and experiences from the CDI districts and others into actionable and innovative tools. We will offer support in using those tools to reach the maximum number of educators, scholars, policymakers, families, and community partners, all while maintaining a commitment to learning and continuously improving our tools, approaches, and models for implementation. For example: • The District Resource Center, which launched with nearly 500 practical, evidence-based, annotated tools from the CDI districts. • New online resources for schools and states addressing key implementation issues. • Virtual and online training and support for using the guides, coupled with data collection to track usage and impact. We will execute new, creative strategies for gathering input and insights from the field, building communities of learners, and packaging and disseminating knowledge. For example: • An interactive, online platform for districts to access tools and resources and track district needs, requests, and knowledge gaps. • Virtual communities connecting district personnel serving in similar roles. • In-person working groups to answer questions on specific topics such as SEL and equity, assessments, teacher practices, climate, and culture. Together, these strategies mark a significant and necessary evolution in our work—one that is focused on deepening and advancing SEL implementation knowledge and making that knowledge usable by any district nationwide. The beneficiaries: America’s schoolchildren. Scaling SEL know-how CHAPTER 4 COLLABORATIVE FOR ACADEMIC, SOCIAL, AND EMOTIONAL LEARNING 815 W VAN BUREN STREET, SUITE 210, CHICAGO IL 60607 | 312.226.3770 | CASEL.ORG The Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning (CASEL) is the world’s leading organization advancing one of the most important fields in education in decades: the practice of promoting integrated academic, social, and emotional learning for all children. The nonprofit, founded in 1994, provides a combination of research, practice, and policy to support high-quality social and emotional learning in districts and schools nationwide. Thank you to CASEL’s many critical collaborators — our partner educators, researchers, policymakers, civic leaders, program providers, funders, and others — for contributing to and supporting efforts to help make evidence-based social and emotional learning an integral part of education, preschool through high school. - 07:40 FB-EQE The Collaborative for Academic, Social and Emotional Learning (CASEL) just released a report sharing insights from 6 years supporting SEL implementation in 10 of the largest urban districts in the United States. I am so happy to see that many of these lessons are at the core of what Six Seconds does: importance of EQ for adults, SEL integration across school structures, use of assessments, and more. Read this post if you want to know more and get tips on what you can do to keep pushing SEL and EQ forward! - Wow, I just read this study, Lorea! "Today we are at a tipping point. The evidence is clear that SEL works. Models for implementation exist. Supportive policies are spreading. Most important, students are benefitting. Students with strong social and emotional competence not only do better academically in school, they lead healthier, happier, more fulfilling lives. They better understand themselves, build constructive relationships, are more kind and caring, and make more responsible decisions." Raises Student Performance (pro-social behaviours) • Higher academic achievement (EQ even helps IQ!!!) • Better social emotional skills • Improved attitudes about self, others, and school • Positive classroom behavior Reduces Risk for Failure (anti-social behaviours) • Fewer conduct problems • Less emotional distress Our goal: by 2025, 50% of districts are systemically integrating high-quality SEL across their schools and classrooms. “The CDI demonstrates that it is possible for large urban school districts to adopt and maintain SEL as an essential element of education, even amid budgetary stress and leadership turnover.” - American Institutes for Research (I repeat, wow!) :) - Highest rate of teen alcoholism, DV and child abuse in the country. The high schools had metal detectors… -- ND Breeds resentment. Fortunately, there is someone we can change—guess who? That’s right; only by focusing on ourselves can we set the boundaries that let us live harmoniously with others. I told Kelly that as soon as she’s finished hurling dessert plates, she should take a moment to sit down, get quiet, and lovingly ask herself what’s happening. Is she exhausted, enraged, grieving? Whatever Kelly’s feeling, she should offer her tired, sad, frustrated self permission to feel it, and then do something nurturing—nap, have a cup of tea, vent in her journal. Once she’s feeling calmer (and not a minute sooner), Kelly needs to reconstruct the events that led to her explosion. This is a bit like finding the black box from an airplane crash, then going through the flight recording to see when the pilot lost control. Kelly’s last outburst may be a good place to start: Chances are, right after she expressed her anger, she felt relieved for a while. The next time Paige was glued to her phone at dinner, I bet Kelly thought, Oh, well! What can you do? Let’s call this state of mind the green zone. As time wore on, though, she felt the familiar twinges of annoyance, working her way into the yellow zone. Eventually she got so hot under the collar that her nose hairs were singeing. Then she hit the red zone: tantrum time. Kelly needs to learn to monitor her feelings not only when she’s alone, but in real time, as she interacts with others. This takes practice because it’s easy to get caught up in big emotions rather than observe them. She’ll probably have to go through a period of trial and error (and a few more flare-ups). But after a while, she’ll be able to stay aware of her feelings as they arise, and notice the zone she’s in. Kelly’s goal should be to speak up for herself while she’s still calm and collected, using this script: “[Person’s name], when you do [frustrating behavior], I feel [name your emotion]. Next time it happens, I’ll have to walk away for a while. Otherwise, I’ll end up blowing my top over some little thing, and that hurts both of us.” This strategy isn’t about criticism or blame. Kelly’s taking responsibility for her own reactions and establishing boundaries around the sole territory where she has jurisdiction: her self. Next time someone in your life is getting your goat, I suggest trying this approach. Most people will at least hear you out. If they ignore you or get defensive, you have to create some physical and emotional distance—not to punish the offender, but to remain in tranquility. The good news is that Kelly has loving relationships with her daughter and her mother; given the choice to make Kelly happier, they’ll probably opt for peace and cooperation. As fallible human beings, they may need a few reminders—while Kelly’s still in the green zone, of course. But ultimately, their relationships will be even stronger. When we make a practice of caring for ourselves, we feel not only more serene, but more powerful. Knowing we can meet our own needs frees us to love without condition—and by staying open to love, we can drive ourselves sane. Want more stories like this delivered to your inbox? Sign up for the Oprah.com Spirit Newsletter! Read more: http://www.oprah.com/inspiration/martha-beck-how-to-confront-issues-with-your-family#ixzz4esuTj95D -- ND Brains. The Effects of Modern Lifestyle on Our Brains Our modern lifestyle is changing our brains. There’s some evidence it’s not all for the better. 21. Our brains are getting smaller. Over the past 10-20,000 years, the size of the average human brain has shrunk by the size of a tennis ball. 22. We are not getting smarter. Since the Victorian era, average IQs have gone down 1.6 points per decade for a total of 13.35 points. 23. Multitasking makes you less productive. When you multitask, your brain simply rapidly toggles back and forth between tasks. This results in decreases in attention span, learning, performance, and short-term memory. 24. Surprisingly, millennials (aged 18 to 34) are more forgetful than baby boomers. They are more likely to forget what day it is or where they put their keys than their parents! 25. The human brain is usually compared to the most advanced technology of the day. It’s been compared to a clock, a switchboard, a computer, and most recently to the internet. 26. Our attention spans are getting shorter. In 2000, the average attention span was 12 seconds. Now it’s 8 seconds. That’s shorter than the 9-second attention span of the average goldfish. 27. Brain cells cannibalize themselves as a last ditch source of energy to ward off starvation. So in very real ways dieting can force your brain to eat itself. 28. Your brain’s storage capacity is considered virtually unlimited. It doesn’t get “used up” like RAM in your computer. Brain Myths Debunked Rapid advancements in neuroscience means information gets outdated fast. That’s one of the reasons there’s a lot of misinformation floating around about the brain. Here are some well-accepted brain “facts” that have been proven to no longer be true. 29. The popular myth that we use only 10% of our brains is flat-out wrong. Brain scans clearly show that we use most of our brain most of the time, even when we’re sleeping. 30. There is no such thing as a left-brain or right-brain personality type. We are not left-brained or right-brained; we are “whole brained.” (See #29.) 31. In spite of what you’ve been told, alcohol doesn’t kill brain cells. It “only” damages the connective tissue at the end of neurons. 32. The Mozart Effect has been debunked. While listening to certain kinds of music can improve memory and concentration, there’s nothing unique about listening to Mozart. 33. You may have heard that we have more brain cells than there are stars in the Milky Way, but this is not true. Best guess estimates are that we have 86 billion neurons and there are 200-400 billion stars in the Milky Way. 34. It’s often said there are 10,0000 miles of blood vessels in the brain when, in fact, that number is closer to 400 miles. Still a substantial amount! 35. Contrary to prevailing medical belief, having high total cholesterol is not bad for your brain. In fact, it actually reduces your risk of dementia. Facts About Memory It was once thought our brain recorded memories like a camera, but this is not how memory works. Our memories work less like a digital recording and more like listening to live improvisational jazz. 36. Memories are shockingly unreliable. Emotions, motivation, cues, context and frequency of use can all affect how accurately you remember something. 37. Memory is more of an activity than a place. Any given memory is deconstructed and distributed in different parts of the brain. Then, for the memory to be recalled, it gets reconstructed from the individual fragments. 38. Your brain starts slowing down at the ripe old age of 24 but peaks for different cognitive skills at different ages. In fact at any given age, you’re likely getting better at some things and worse at others. 39. If you were drinking and don’t remember what you did last night, it’s not because you forgot. While you are drunk your brain is incapable of forming memories. Brain Facts That Are Just Plain Weird Some of these brain facts have been around for a while and some are brand new, but I think you’ll find at least a few of these mind-blowing. 40. The human brain is not solid. It’s soft and squishy similar to the consistency of soft tofu or soft gelatin. And it’s very fragile. (49) 41. Sometimes half a brain is a good as a whole one. When surgeons perform a hemispherectomy, they remove or disable half of the brain to stop seizures. Shockingly, patients experience no effect on personality or memory. 42. Think you’re in control of your life? Think again. 95% of your decisions take place in your subconscious mind. 43. The brain in your head isn’t your only brain. There’s a “second brain” in your intestines that contains 100,000 neurons. Gut bacteria are responsible for making over 30 neurotransmitters including the “happy molecule” serotonin. 44. Some scientists believe zombies could be real and that it’s possible a mutated virus or parasites could attack our brains and rapidly spread throughout large populations causing essentially a “zombie apocalypse.” 45. A blood-brain barrier protects your brain from foreign substances. But it doesn’t work perfectly. The nicotine in smoke rushes into the brain in a mere 7 seconds. Alcohol, on the other hand, takes 6 minutes. 46. Prescription sleeping pills don’t put you to sleep. They put your brain into a state similar to being in a coma, essentially bypassing any restorative value of sleep. 47. Our brains crave mental stimulation. Men especially would rather receive electric shocks than sit quietly in a room and think! 48. Over 140 proteins in the brain are negatively impacted by exposure to electromagnetic frequencies — the kind emitted by your cell phone and other electronic devices. 49. Although pain is processed in your brain, your brain has no pain receptors and feels no pain. This explains how brain surgery can be performed while the patient is awake with no pain or discomfort. 50. Few facts about the brain are as weird as the story of Albert Einstein’s brain. The pathologist who performed Einstein’s autopsy kept the brain in a jar in his basement for 40 years. Eventually he made a cross-country trip with the brain in a Tupperware container to deliver it to Einstein’s granddaughter. You can read the full story about one of the most bizarre road trips ever in Driving Mr. Albert: A Trip Across America with Einstein’s Brain. -- ND Breathe EQ (or @[1497733377132272:274:Emotional Intelligence]), as I believe EQ can, and will, change me, you and the world, from the inside out! Since we're in crazy California, and since I speak casually, honestly and directly about feelings and emotions (and anything else), I figure that makes me the "EQ Dude"! Whatcha think??' Matt Perelstein Project manager at Quintiles IMS 133 followers ?Aubree Medlock? to Matt Perelstein April 6 · Matt I hope you had a blessed birthday! LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments View all 2 comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Mary Long Hart? to Matt Perelstein April 6 · Hope you had an awesome birthday! LikeComment 2 You and Wela D Kathren Comments Matt Perelstein Matt Perelstein Thanks, Mary! It wasn't 'awesome'... I woke at 3:33, drove 3 hours, spent most of the day at UHaul (about 8 hours!), then packed (which was probably the funnest thing I did all day, with Patrick and Fayth's bro, Tyler -- neat kid!), and drove all night toward home, at 55-60mph (ahhh!), in a small UHaul truck, hauling my car on a trailer. So, it wasn't 'awesome', by any stretch, but the good thing is that I didn't get down, didn't complain, didn't feel sorry for myself. We really can keep our thoughts positive, given some practice. Heck, do we have something better to do than to find out how to be happy? I love EQ. #EQRocks! Thanks again, Mary! :) Like · Reply · 1 · April 11 at 5:53am · Edited Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Doc Downing? to Matt Perelstein April 6 · Happy Birthday, Matt. Keep up the good work. LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Matt Perelstein Thanks, Doc! You'll sure know if I am. Let's keep working on EQ 'til we figure out how to explain it well, so people 'get' the awesome power of knowing and accepting, and expressing ourselves (properly), You rock, sir! Like · Reply · 1 · April 11 at 5:55am Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Sandy Whitley Spiro? to Matt Perelstein April 6 · Happy birthday Matt!???? LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Matt Perelstein Hi Sandy! I remember you as one of the prettiest girls in our high school! still are, it seems! :) :) Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry · Reply · April 11 at 5:56am Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Richard Mack? to Matt Perelstein April 6 · Happy belated B-Day. LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Lynn Moore? to Matt Perelstein April 6 · Happy birthday Matt ! LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... 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HUGS! Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Sharon Fisher Davis? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · ¨) ¸.•´¸.•*´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Happy Birthday Matt! ???? Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Ging Ging Gumantaron? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Happy birthday LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Lucresha Renteria? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Happy birthday with many happy returns! Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Beverly Hatch Carr? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Happy Birthday Matt!! I hope you've had a great day!!! LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Lori Garrison Tilson? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Happy Birthday! 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Choose File ?Keyuri Joshi? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Happy Birthday! Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Patricia Ameijeira de Griese? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Happy birthday! ???????? LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Jack Zufelt? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! Know that a gazillion people are glad you were born! If I haven’t already done so, I want give you my #1 best-selling book, The DNA of Success, (in ebook format) for your Bday. PM me your email address and I’ll send it right out. Jack M. Zufelt "Mentor to Millions" Author of the #1 best-selling book, The DNA of Success (Now in 15 languages) Interviewed on over 2,000 Radio and TV Talk Shows including The TODAY SHOW and PBS www.jackmzufeltspeaks.com LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?William Montgomery? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Happy Birthday. :) LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Juanito John Davey? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Wishing you the happiest of birthdays Matt! Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Daniel Oppenheim? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · HB MP!!!! Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Tina Kovacs? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Norwalk, CT · Happy Birthday!!! LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Joe Pipe? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · wishing you a very happy birthday. stay blessed LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?David Gleason? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Plano, TX · Congratulations on another emotionally satisfying birthday. Happy birthday, Matt. Image may contain: text LikeCommentShare Buffer 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Amber Shuree Benardo? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Happy birthday Matt!! LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Leann Harris? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Happy birthday! Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Donna Anderson Follin? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Happy Birthday Matt! Hope you have a great day! LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Debbie Rogers? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Happy Birthday! 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Image may contain: food LikeCommentShare Buffer 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Deborah Havert? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Happy birthday, Matt! Have a super day! LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Granville Ed D'Souza? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Happy Birthday Matt. Stay healthy and active in your direction with EQ. LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Kamala Waidande? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Happy Birthday and may God bless your each day with lots of love and joy. LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Tim Everitt? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Chester, United Kingdom · Happy birthday, Matt. Enjoy! LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Gogo Shine? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Happy BD My Friend, May u be surrounded by your familys love in this wonderful day LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Yasmine Buraik? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Happy birthday Matt. Wishing you a hreat year filled with many blessings.???????????????? Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Chukwu Moses Ndubuisi? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Happy Birthday Sir, wishing you long and fruitful life ahead Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Umesh Kumar? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Many happy Return of the day Matt. . . LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... 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LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Urmi Chavan? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Matt !! Many many happy returns of the day!! Happy birthday!!???? LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Akhtar Kamal? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Karachi, Pakistan · Happy birthday Matt. LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?ViKram JaRugu? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy Bday my dear friend???? LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Sudeepa Akam? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy happy bday Matt Perelstein! Stay blessed! LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Ravi Gupta? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy birthday.. LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Arati Vijay Suryawanshi? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Many Many happy returns of the day Matt Perelstein, May the life shower upon you loads of happiness. Image may contain: food and text LikeCommentShare Buffer 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Anupriya Nayyar? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Birthday wishes Matt. May you always keep smiling and spread the sparkle in you. ?????? Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Ramesh Mahawar? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happybirthday from infinite depth of my heart. LikeComment Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Arundhati Banerjee Sanyal? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy Birthday LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Dhiram Shah? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy birthday Matt. Have a lovely year ahead. LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Thariq Tarh? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy birthday LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Sarika Gupta? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy birthday LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Glori Celis? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Clovis · Happy Birthday ?????? Matt! I hope you had a very special day because you are a very special person and I for one appreciate you so much for being such a shining example of how to change your circumstances for the better by changing your perspective! You are an awesome and inspiring person and who is loved and lovable! Love ?? you Glori Celis LikeComment 2 You and Peggy Mitchell Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Divya Sri? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Wish u a happy birthday uncle...keep smiling forever... Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Steve Nolan? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · ??????????????happy birthiversary bro! ?????????????? LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Jasen Mayersky? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy Birthday!!!! LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Sherise D'souza? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy birthday! Have an awesome time :-) LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Aniruddha Sen? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Wish you a very Happy Birthday Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Basant Dash? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy Birthday. Have a great year ahead. LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Dipti Taluja? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Gurgaon, India · Hey Matt Perelstein....wish you a very blessed birthday...stay strong and healthy Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Janusz Tobijasiewicz? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy Birth day Matt!!! God Bless You!! Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Glenn McGrew II? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy birthday! LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Bhawana Dubey? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Many wishes ..stay healthy ..stay blessed Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Azhar Ajju? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy birthday LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Ram Narayan? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Heartiest wishes of birth day. God is praying that he may give you health longevity and prosperity. · See original · Rate this translation LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Dexter John Valles? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Mumbai, India · Happy Birthday Matt Perelstein !! Thought it just went by recently. Time flies by all too quickly. God Bless you and your journey of courage, strength and hope !! Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Viraja Maganti? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Yay!!! It's your Birthday! ????Happy Birthday Matt!! Have a super duper day with your loved ones! Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Aruna Nair? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · A very Happy Birthday to you! Happiness, good health, and peace be yours. Always! LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Stephen W. Oliver? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy Birthday my EQ co-teacher! All the very best! Cheers! Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Sudha G Narayan? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy birthday Matt and wish you a year full of happiness and good health as you spread to the world the joy of EQ! Hugs! Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Srinivas Mohan? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy Birthday Matt & Many More Happy Returns Of The Day. Image may contain: flower and text LikeCommentShare Buffer 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Yobrotha Fromanotha Keef? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happiest of Birfday Wishes Brougham ?????? LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Tomohiro Mitsumori? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Yokohama, Kanagawa, Japan · Happy birthday. Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Debaleena Das? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy birthday Matt wish u a long happy healthy life.Keep smiling always god bless u. — with Lynda Abraugh and 13 others. Image may contain: 3 people, people smiling, outdoor and closeup LikeCommentShare Buffer 18 You, Briana Lobue, Patrick Mccauley and 15 others Comments Srinivas Mohan Srinivas Mohan Happy birthday Matt Perelstein. May God bless you with health & happiness. Like · Reply · 3 · April 4 at 7:13pm Sathi GH Sathi GH Gosh its another year already?!! nice pic ( one on the left). HAPPY BIRTHDAY Matt Perelstein Like · Reply · 3 · April 4 at 7:38pm · Edited Dexter John Valles Dexter John Valles Happy Birthday Matt Perelstein !! Thought it just went by recently. Time flies by all too quickly. God Bless you and your journey of courage, strength and hope !! Like · Reply · 2 · April 4 at 7:54pm Reena Parekh Reena Parekh Happy birthday Matt Perelstein . Handsome pic ,??? Image may contain: flower, text and nature Like · Reply · 4 · April 4 at 8:04pm Dattatreya Yellapantula Dattatreya Yellapantula Many Happy Returns of The Day ...Matt Perelstein Like · Reply · 3 · April 4 at 8:05pm Lilla Hill Lilla Hill Happy birthday and many more Like · Reply · 2 · April 4 at 8:14pm Lynda Abraugh Lynda Abraugh Blessings galore. No automatic alt text available. Like · Reply · 2 · April 4 at 8:25pm Peggy Mitchell Peggy Mitchell Happy Birthday!! Like · Reply · 3 · April 4 at 8:32pm Ashok Kumar Verma Ashok Kumar Verma Happy birthday Matt Perelstein Like · Reply · 3 · April 4 at 8:35pm Chris Mcewen Chris Mcewen Happy B-DAY YOU AMAZING MAN. May this be the best year of your life Like · Reply · 3 · April 4 at 8:56pm Freve Frnz Freve Frnz Happy Birthday Matt.. God bless you with happiness health and all good things..stay smiling! Like · Reply · 2 · April 4 at 10:52pm Urmi Chavan Urmi Chavan Happy birthday matt! Like · Reply · 2 · April 4 at 11:19pm Joshua Freedman Joshua Freedman Happy birthday Matt! Like · Reply · 2 · April 5 at 5:56am Janet MacGregor Janet MacGregor Happy birthday! Like · Reply · 2 · April 5 at 6:17am Sivaram Prasad. K Sivaram Prasad. K Very Happy birthday and many happy returns of the day, Matt! Like · Reply · 4 · April 6 at 10:00am Sivaram Prasad. K Sivaram Prasad. K Hi matt. Happy birthday! Like · Reply · 4 · April 9 at 1:08am Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?F.c. Law? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy, happy birthday Matt! ???? LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Balaji Sundaram? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · many happy returns of the day LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Alex Zemkus? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy Birthday Matt, all the best for the day ?? LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Elise Balcombe? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy birthday Matt xx LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File Joyce Saun added a new photo to Matt Perelstein's Timeline. April 4 · Melbourne, VIC, Australia · Image may contain: drink LikeCommentShare Buffer 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Michele Soplata? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy Birthday No automatic alt text available. LikeCommentShare Buffer 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File Rachel Perelstein with Matt Perelstein. April 5 · Happy birthday to the greatest dad a girl could ask for! LikeCommentShare Buffer 36 You, Sean McDaniel, Jasen Mayersky and 33 others Comments Hilary Petrella Hilary Petrella Happy Birthday to him Like · Reply · 2 · April 5 at 8:34am Kaylah Korhummel Kaylah Korhummel Happy happy birthday!!! Like · Reply · 2 · April 5 at 9:02pm Matt Perelstein Matt Perelstein aww shucks, Rachel! (as you know) You're a wonderful daughter, too!! (did you make this graphic? if so, how?) LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Like · Reply · 1 · April 11 at 5:58am Rachel Perelstein Rachel Perelstein When I write in "what's on my mind" it asks me if I'd like to put a color background on..With little colored bubbles at the bottom of the writing Like · Reply · 1 · April 11 at 7:52am Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File Tom O'Callaghan sent a card on Birthday Calendar by Davia. April 5 · Birthday Calendar by Davia · Happy birthdayMatt. Have fun today! Hugs! ?? Matt Perelstein Happy Birthday Matt Perelstein! Best wishes to you on your birthday! BIRTHDAY CALENDAR BY DAVIA LikeCommentShare Buffer 2 You and Alice Tubley Comments Matt Perelstein Matt Perelstein Thanks, Tom! Hope you're still rockin'!! Like · Reply · April 11 at 5:58am Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File Matt Perelstein April 5 · Image may contain: 1 person, text and closeup LikeCommentShare Buffer 51 Julie Cook, Marleaux Flournoy and 49 others Comments View 11 more comments Girija Gopinath Girija Gopinath Happy birthday ? Like · Reply · 1 · April 6 at 10:19am Michelle Donaldson Michelle Donaldson Happy Birthday!!!! Like · Reply · 1 · April 6 at 11:21am Sandy LaBelle Sandy LaBelle Yay! Happy Birthday to you... Rock on!!! Like · Reply · 1 · April 7 at 2:29am Matt Perelstein replied · 1 Reply Janie Monsalve Shogren Janie Monsalve Shogren Happy birthday, good looking. Where is the cake? Like · Reply · 1 · April 11 at 5:48pm Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File Rima Chaturvedi with Matt Perelstein. April 4 · Happy Birthday to Sir Matt Perelstein...Have a great year ahead. LikeCommentShare Buffer 14 You, Debaleena Das and 12 others Comments Matt Perelstein Matt Perelstein THANKS, Rima! You've been a great fan, and I appreciate you and your kindness! Be well. :) Like · Reply · April 11 at 6:01am Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File 3 friends posted on your Timeline for your birthday. Matt Perelstein 'I definitely live and breathe EQ (or @[1497733377132272:274:Emotional Intelligence]), as I believe EQ can, and will, change me, you and the world, from the inside out! Since we're in crazy California, and since I speak casually, honestly and directly about feelings and emotions (and anything else), I figure that makes me the "EQ Dude"! Whatcha think??' Matt Perelstein Project manager at Quintiles IMS 133 followers ?Karen Davis-Haro? to Matt Perelstein April 3 · Happy EARLY Birthday, Matt! ?? LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Vickie Anderson Kidwell? to Matt Perelstein April 2 · I hope you will have a wonderful day and a very Happy Birthday??????????? LikeComment 2 You and Gloria Watson Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File Steve Nolan shared a video to your Timeline. April 2 · It's kinda scrappy, the drawings are messy, Play -2:53Unmute Additional Visual SettingsEnter Fullscreen 2,187,015 Views Montague Workshop added a new video: a story about a bird.Like Page January 3 · We made a video. It’s a little story to encourage us all as we start this new year. Be sure to share with someone whose voice you believe in. LikeCommentShare Buffer 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Matt Perelstein It's cute, Stevie boy. thanks for thinking of me! what did you want me to get from it? Like · Reply · April 11 at 6:02am Steve Nolan Steve Nolan Nothing but what you want to get from it. Just that whatever kind of music you like enjoy it, and accept that there are always going to be types of music and communication that don't fit our demographic, and that's cool too. Just go with the flow, Bro. Like · Reply · 1 · April 12 at 2:33am · Edited -- ND Brisbane during the January floods. I continue to replay the many inspirational conversations and stories I heard. To those of you who came to visit us, thank you for your questions, stories and interest in Emotional Intelligence. I’d be keen to hear other ways you’ve used the Plutchik model or how you could use it with your clients. About Latest Posts Melissa Donaldson For the past 15 years, I've partnered with senior executives and leaders in public and private sector organisations to execute significant change, design and implement leadership capability programs, renegotiate complex industrial agreements and build leader and team performance. -- ND Brings down the whole team," he said. He also looks for employees who recognize the strengths of others and act in the best interest of the organization as a whole. The final thing Costa said he is key in a leader is the ability to motivate others. "Someone who understands the power of recognition and knows how to make team members and employees feel valued. Managers who are sincere and appreciative can help employees thrive at work by acknowledging their contributions," he added. Santiesteban looks for employees with a mix of technical skills and EQ. "A team member's ability to participate in meetings and extract what's really important is a skill reliant on emotional intelligence," he said. "Self-starters who are always sought after in job descriptions are usually individuals who fit this profile." Based on the statistics, and the feedback shared by these IT and business project leaders, it seems clear that emotional intelligence is a high-value, high-level need, regarding project leadership skills. Further, team cohesion and successful project outcomes are likely to become more reliant on its existence going forward. Subscribe to TechRepublic's Executive Briefing newsletter and get tips on project management, budgets, and dealing with day-to-day challenges. SUBSCRIBE Also see: 4 ways sponsors can improve project success rates 8 steps to breaking bad news to difficult project stakeholders How to resolve project sponsors' conflicting goals 8 assumptions that can derail projects and leaders About Moira Alexander Moira Alexander is the author of "LEAD or LAG: Linking Strategic Project Management & Thought Leadership" and Founder & President of Lead-Her-Ship Group. She's also a project management and IT freelance columnist for various publications and a former... Full BioContactSee all of Moira's contentGoogle+Lead_Her_Ship -- ND Branches are awesome! I enjoy the aroma and they make Ozzy and Skittles cage smell great! I am attempting to sprout the seeds you sent in my last order.. fingers crossed! Starla -- ND Branchless banking startup to millions of users and evaluated innovative early stage startups at the Khosla Impact Fund. Currently, she is the Founder & CEO of Lily where she is on a mission to help women discover clothes that make them look & feel their best using their emotions & perceptions about their body. Purva is an alum of the Yale Entrepreneurial Institute, has an MBA from Indian School of Business with the Young Leader Award for 2013 and Bachelors in Economics from Shri Ram College of Commerce (India). She aspires to use emotional intelligence and artificial intelligence to understand a woman's psychology to predict what products & services will make her happy. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx Category Nonprofits & Activism License Standard YouTube License - I'm not good enough what were they feeling why they buy what they buy at 2, girls start disliking parts of their body teens young adult, I'm fat, not good enough negative thoughts every day 6 on 10 girls choose not to do something bec. they don't feel good enough how they look doesn't matter, it's how they THINK they look consciously or subconsciously deal buying clothes via perceptions -- ND Briefly explain each one) - ND ok, here's where I learned most of this stuff. face-to-face, in front of people for 30 years. doing emotions, bigger and deeper, than most anyone. "I've pissed off more people than most anyone on the planet" "but the difference is that they come back and HUG me, afterwards!" Emotional Healing Doc CABT I'm not a therapist. Like I said, I was disappointed with my schooling. I was even accepted to 2 law schools, but didn't go, because I wanted (needed!) to learn life, first. when I first found out that my problems were mostly Emotional in nature, and so-so simple to resolve, I was / am so encouraged! since taking the class, 30 years ago, I have immersed myself in EQ I manage or own social media groups on Facebook and LinkedIn with over 150,000 members - it might be kinda long. tuff say it - read it? yes, some over bullets / PPT slides - I'm not that smart, so I need things simplified, dumbed down, a lot! so, for 30 years, I've been trying to "sum up" EQ. to just a few words so people 'get it', quickly and profoundly and simply. Bumper sticker stuff that's memorable but even kids can read it, understand it, and (maybe) take it with them, as they go. (cool thing about education... no one can take it away from you... it's yours, forever.) - more art than science here's my art the art of connecting the art of feeling the art of EQ - Doc has over 100 EQ quotes which I made into graphics so we can Share them on Facebook, LinkedIn, Pintrest and Twitter (we're mostly Facebookers, tho) So much of Facebook is a quote on a graphic that now we can make them on-the-fly, but applying a color background to your profound words. :) (show some examples) "Feel guilty - setup to be punished" "negative feelings expresses as intensely..." "Feelings aren't good or bad, they just are" "EMFB" I have another 100. (show some more examples) ... and I have a collection of thousands. (show some of my faves!) https://drive.google.com/drive/u/0/folders/0B_8MWGohTkr-R2ZwSE5aU0VyajA "Every Dollar ever made, based on a relationship" - Certified State of CA Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault Crisis Counselor NLP Practioner Nurturing Parenting Instructor Microsoft Certified Professional 6 Seconds (in Menlo Park) EQ for Educators (EQEC - 2013) EQ Assessment Test and Debrief: Social-Emotional Inventory (SEI) Ex-Board Member for 2 non-profits - here's one of my faves (and very popular with folks when they learn it) The 4 Steps to Learning 1. Unconsciously Incompetent - We don't know that we don't know 2. Consciously Incompetent - We find out that we don't know 3. Consciously Competent - We figure out how to know, but we gotta think about it 4. Unconsciously Competent - We know, and act like we know, without having to think much about it. - Teach EQ: hashtags #FeelIt2HealIt #NameIt2TameIt #NameIt2FrameIt #SpinIt2WinIt #ClaimIt2FrameIt (ER!) #FakeIt2MakeIt #AcceptIt2ProjectIt or #AcceptIt2DigestIt #LetItFlow2LetItGo -- ND Briefly explain each one) - ND ok, here's where I learned most of this stuff. face-to-face, in front of people for 30 years. doing emotions, bigger and deeper, than most anyone. "I've pissed off more people than most anyone on the planet" "but the difference is that they come back and HUG me, afterwards!" - it might be kinda long. tuff say it - I'm not that smart, so I need things simplified, dumbed down, a lot! so, for 30 years, I've been trying to "sum up" EQ. to just a few words so people 'get it', quickly and profoundly and simply. Bumper sticker stuff that's memorable but even kids can read it, understand it, and (maybe) take it with them, as they go. (cool thing about education... no one can take it away from you... it's yours, forever.) - Doc has over 100 EQ quotes (show some examples) which I made into graphics so we can Share them on Facebook, LinkedIn, Pintrest and Twitter (we're mostly Facebookers, tho) So much of Facebook is a quote on a graphic that now we can make them on-the-fly, but applying a color background to your profound words. :) I have another 100. (show some more examples) ... and I have a collection of thousands. (show some of my faves!) - Teach EQ: #FeelIt2HealIt #NameIt2TameIt #NameIt2FrameIt #SpinIt2WinIt #ClaimIt2FrameIt (ER!) #FakeIt2MakeIt #AcceptIt2ProjectIt or #AcceptIt2DigestIt #LetItFlow2LetItGo -- ND Breast cancer. After many years of pain, grief and sadness, this lady has learned to enjoy life in a new way. With many ways of learning about herself—she has learned acceptance, resilience and contentment. LOVE is her answer—-know how to love and cherish yourself, then learning to love others. True loving kindness can take you to a higher place than living a normal life. Reply Ladonna Zimmerman says: Very validating of my personal experience with traumatic events and in my professional life as an LCSW. I’m the Trauma Informed Care Coordinator in a maximum/high/ minimum security Forensic Mental Health facility in Missouri, Fulton State Hospital. I definitely see individuals who grow and mature and find meaning in their lives. The other thing I believe we also know is the importance of connection and having at least one person that believes in you. Reply Marta Luzim says: I work with clients who are challenged with complex trauma and PTSD. I myself have experienced both. Trauma is a dark night of the soul. A heroine’s/heros journey, resourcing deep faith, surrender to what you cannot control and re-directing energy into positive action, being able to tolerate pain and passion, finding your tribe and where you belong, and choosing creative inspired living. Personally and professionally I don’t know why one person recovers meaning and happiness and others do not. I believe it has to do with something spiritual, karmic and beyond our knowing. My sister committed suicide. I fought for my happiness, meaning and love. I am still standing. Still passionate. What I have witnessed throughout my life and career are those who can reach a recovery of love and passion are those who can internalize their resources of faith, radical self acceptance, loving-kindness, relearning trust and re-building and re-patterning the fragmented self into wholeness. They never give up. They want to receive love and give love. It takes a deep hunger desire and practice to reach new levels of happiness after trauma. I don’t know, in this research, what those individuals did to find happiness after trauma. What I do know it take alot of strength, vulnerability, ability to receive your worthiness and establish healthy attachments and find meaning. Your organization has helped me to understand trauma in so many meaningful and healing ways, I am grateful for you passion and dedication to healing trauma. Deeply humbled and thankful Reply Suzanne Fageol says: Thank you for your words Marta. Namaste Reply claire says: I think it’s great that this is scientifically validated now, because it must be part of our job as therapists to totally believe in the person’s ability not only to bounce back but also to go way beyond themselves, their expectations of themselves and even our own expectations of them. I have seen this happen so many times – and it’s exciting! It shows us that we really are living in a space of infinite possibilities and if we can bring that energy to our work then we are hopefully not limiting our clients by our own limited mindset about what is possible for them – we are actually holding a space which supports and encourgages them to go as far as they will. Reply Fi says: Trauma enables a person to discover just what they are made of and how far their limits or boundaries of what is possible go, it can be empowering to get to know a part of ourselves hidden until trauma happens to let us see what we are made of! Reply Laura Kearney says: I did my advanced project in undergrad about Posttraumatic Growth (PTG), and I am so happy to see you talking about this! I think it is a fascinating and hopeful topic, and it is something I have experienced myself. 5 years ago I was immersed in research by the PTG Group at University of North Carolina (Tedeschi & Calhoun), and Dr. Stephen Joseph’s book “What Doesn’t Kill Us.” I am so pleased to see that body of work continuing and growing. I think the specific areas of growth involved in PTG are important to know, in order to recognize and support them in our clients (and in ourselves). Research has shown the 5 top areas of growth in PTG are: – Increased Sense of Personal Strengths – Greater Appreciation of Life – Seeing New Possibilities – Increased Intimacy in Relationships – Spiritual Development. Reply Linh says: Thank you for sharing, Laura. I greatly appreciate it. Reply Minky Motlhale says: This sounds interesting, any possibility of sending a link or more information on the subject? I find that I’ve grown so much from surviving domestic violence in my marriage and nursing my son back to life from his long stay in ICU. I’I’ve also witnessed how most of my clients grow after sessions of TRE with them. Now I know how this is possible. Reply Laura Kearney, LPC says: Here is an article I like that gives a nice breakdown of PTG growth areas, how/why they may occur, and other factors and concepts related to PTG. Posttraumatic Growth in the Aftermath of Trauma: A Literature Review About Related Factors and Application Contexts (Ramos & Leal, 2013) – http://citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/viewdoc/download?doi=10.1.1.299.4795&rep=rep1&type=pdf Reply Bob Dale says: After experiencing my daughter’s protected illness and subsequent death, I can say with unfortunate authority that parents of children with disabilities do experience life with greater complexity. That can often be overwhelming since complexity can be positive or negatively perceived. As a therapist, my task is to normalize that complexity in the context of redefining existence and meaning. Those who get stuck in the negative end of the pool are the challenge. Reply Prithwiraj Sinha says: I think happiness depends on fulfilment of the physical and psychological needs of a person. This is explained well in Human Givens psychology. Reply Margaret Walsh says: Can you please send me the link please, I am studying Hypnotherapy/Psychotherapy/Neuro Linguistic Programming and Counselling at the Diploma level and onto Masters after , as a previous employee of Correctional Services, I wish to learn and develop as much knowledge to help Police Officers/Correctional Officers and anyone with more sound knowledge of this field. Also this link “Human givens Psychology” could you provide link please. South Australia. Reply HUTCHERSON WILLIAM says: I love the quote which has made so much sense and growth in my own life… “There are places in the heart that do not yet exist, pain must be for them to be.” Reply Michael Lederman says: My parents were in the Holocaust & I am totally amazed by their tremendous resilience! I have come to learn that no one can take my spirit away! Reply David McGough says: I live with C-PTSD – Although i have a huge vulnerability on the other side Superhuman strengths – Trauma can be very educative because even though the events are truly staggering the person by living such a tough battle becomes a very impressive entity – re-defines their own life and uses Trauma to get not only your life story told but to emerge out the other side (this isn’t easy) superior than before Reply Genevieve says: In order to come through and thrive, after severe trauma, it is not unreasonable to suggest that a viable and supportive network is required. I can well imagine, from lived experience, that those with a positive and viable support network do better than those who live in relative or complete isolation. Reply Dr. Jeanne Zehr says: Our center uses the Feuerstein program, created to help holocaust survivors move out of a limbic system hijacked state by developing frontal lobe cogitive growth. We are getting some good results. Some people, of course, need more time and intensity. Reply Nicole Ditz says: Could you provide a link to information on this feuerstein program and its methodology? Thank you! Reply Denise Morett says: I always say to my patients, family, friends and myself: there’s nothing good about trauma, tragedy and crisis, and yet, it’s happened/happening, so you may as well grow. Looking for small and big miracles helps. I’ve used the idea of PT growth in my work and in my book as the thing that can make all the difference. I find that perspective, thoughts about events and loving kindness from self and others, will make all the difference. It did for me. Reply Elsa says: Hi Ruth, The person who came to mind, listening to the research on people growing after and/or through a traumatic event, was you. I remember hearing of your huge loss – the loss of your partner. And I wondered: are you more daring, more complex, now. For example, has NICABM is some way come about in part in response to the loss – that you have taken on this enormous challenge, to share what you know with ever so many more people. All the best to you – to all of us. Reply Ruth Buczynski says: Thanks for thinking of me, Elsa. And yes, it was a huge loss that I grow from continually. Reply Bridget Herod says: I will take these examples and applying them. I value you information. I teach students who experience trauma and I will modify and adapt. Reply kathy says: What causes differences between each group? Again what determines the outcome of advestiry? Did they check what kind of thinking styles the people had before the adversity? Reply - -- ND Brochure you have good left-brain add right-brain! right-brain is ignored but right-brain is where life lives!! -- ND Brochure) Top 10 Reasons to do an ND weekend - Emotional Recognition - Emotional Agility - Emotional Literacy - Connection - Intimacy - Healing - Transform yourself, Emotionally - Changing Negative Emotions into Positives (or at least neutral) - Practice - Safety - Emotional Understanding (IQ + EQ) I call it meta-analysis, our thoughts about our thoughts. our thoughts about our feelings. our feelings about our thoughts, and our thoughts about them. etc. thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings become aware of 'em learn 'em understand 'em accept 'em then, adjust 'em effect / affect 'em change 'em manage 'em so we can enjoy 'em use 'em to help us get results succeed find / create happiness live, love, laugh esp. Live! -- ND Brochure) Top 10 Reasons to do an ND weekend - Emotional Recognition notice - Emotional Agility - Emotional Literacy identification, separation, understanding - Acceptance, Forgiveness and Compassion for YOU! - Connection - Intimacy - Healing - Transform yourself, Emotionally - Changing Negative Emotions into Positives (or at least neutral) - Practice feelings are uncomfortable (HINT: much worse so, if you fight 'em and deny 'em) Get comfortable being uncomfortable try new things, emotionally shopping - Self-integration: U, u and UU - Safety Experience the safest, most loving place on the planet. the room is silent, as you talk/share/feel/heal. everyone, everyone is listening to you. and only you. for a little while, YOU are the most important person in the world. as far as you can see. what that does is to validate, and integrate, and accept people/me/us at a 'soul level'. we try to live a life of high EQ. what does that look like? what does that feel like? how does it sound? what do I do? what do I say? DoUEQ? I do. Once we feel something positive... it is MUCH easier to replicate that feeling. "A mind, once stretched to a new dimension, never retains it's former shape. "A heart, once stretched to it's fullest limits, never returns to it's former shape." - Mcp Quote once you can FEEL a certain feeling... ALL of it... on Purpose... and you LIVE thru it... You won! you ain't afraid of your own fear, any longer... ever. boom. once you feel ANGER... ALL of it... on Purpose... and NO one gets hurt... and you feel SOOOOOOO much better... then, boom, you're not afraid of your anger no mo', either. once you feel your Sadness... as deeply as your purest little heart feels it... on Purpose... and you don't get lost there, you don't drown, and you find that it does end.... from then on, you get to Enjoy, yes Enjoy your sadness... why? 'cause Sadness is the closest to Love. We are sad about losing stuff/people/pets/parents/kids/friends who we love. Sad and love are very close. To me, my sadness shows me the depth of my love. If I cut off my sadness, I'm cutting off my ability, and my flexibility, to Love, as deeply and cleanly and fully as I possibly can! (make friends with your sadness. honor and respect it, and it won't need to keep coming back quite so often.) - Emotional Understanding (IQ + EQ) I call it meta-analysis, our thoughts about our thoughts. our thoughts about our feelings. our feelings about our thoughts, and our thoughts about them. etc. thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings become aware of 'em learn 'em understand 'em accept 'em then, adjust 'em effect / affect 'em change 'em manage 'em so we can enjoy 'em use 'em to help us get results succeed find / create happiness live, love, laugh esp. Live! - Ever had the same feeling, most days, for many days, and you just can't shake it? Do you have some HUGE events from your childhood... yeah, that one... that is STILL buggin' you? Are you feeling Flat, or Numb, or bored, or disconnected, or depressed (and you're sick of it)? I think we can help you. Actually, you can help you. We can help you, help you. we can show you how to help you. how to heal how to feel, to a great depth, to give life a fuller experience, to manage your feelings and emotions like never before. I'm not going to say that you will be magically cured of every negative emotion after only 1 weekend... this stuff is a life-style choice, so if you come to class, and you're ready to 'feel'... really feel, the REST OF YOUR LIFE will be different (hopefully, better). The reality is that, once you 'feel', you can't really 'go back'... well, you can, but a) it takes more denial, to deny it from here on, 'cause now you know, and it's tuff to un-know something once you know it, and b) I think you'll find, as we have, that it's now your CHOICE to feel... because you CAN feel, cause it's Cool to feel, 'cause it brings Life, and Love, and Laughter, and Peace, and Joy, and Excitement, and Wonder, and Awe, and Power, and Control, and Results, and Success, and Happiness to my life. - Did you know that you CAN change your negative feelings into Positives. we can show you how. but you can do this at home, too. it's about ALLOWing yourself to feel what you feel. now, you may have heard this before, but we do it in the only way it can be done properly... from the beginning. You (u) as a child, had pain. u, as a child, had traumatic things happen. some more than others (and some of the most horrifying stories imaginable) but EVERY kid has traumas. every kid has big negative feelings that they never got to express. we all have stuff that happened (and is maybe still happening) that hurts... a Lot. and you know you're not dealing with it, directly. You know. we ask people in class, about, what Dr. Phil calls, their Defining Moments (we call Early Recollections) we know what messed us up. we know what is still effecting us. we know what we're not 'over'. (mostly) I'd say 80-90% of our students, when asked, knew. there are thoughts and there are feelings Trauma creates both BIG, nasty, generalized, negative Thoughts accompanied by BIG, nasty, negative, incredibly LARGE Feelings fueled by pictures, sounds, smells, and touches, often horrific ones, that Shock the system. - (one young lady remembered events, a fight between her parents, that got physical, while she was STILL IN HER MOM's TUMMY! Her mom was there with her in class, in shock, as girl recounted the story, even the words that were said, perfectly (talk about getting to the core of it all -- totally changed her life, afterwards!) (btw, in DV situations, studies prove that kids' brains kinda STOP growing when their violence and utter fear and unsafety in the home... EVEN if the child was not in the room, and never saw it happen. if this happened to you, there's still pain there, I guarantee it... let us help you get started in cleaning it all outta there) New Directions Emotional Intelligence Breakthrough Weekend we're not "doing" anything to you. we will support you. We have a format that we usually take, because it usually works, beautifully. Everyone's different, so sometimes we have to modify it, in the present. which is fine. it's not about you doing our process... it's about you getting what you want and need, to heal. (or enhance, or extend, or expand, or extract, or create, or appreciate, or fulfill) - kinda like an exorcism there is yucky, negative, black (or red or brown) energy inside you. if you don't want it there, we can help you get it out of you. it won't hurt us, 'cause it's yours... but it you also don't need to carry it around anymore, either. it is my/our theory that little kids are pure, clean, loving little vessels. sometimes, unhappy, unfulfilled, emotionally-clueless parents consciously or unconsciously off-load some of THEIR yuckiness into their sweet, trusting kid(s), so they get a little relief, and validation, and company. and we, as loving children choose to CARRY that yucky energy around with us, from that day forward. a. no bueno... it's not ours to carry! b. ouch... if we're still carrying it, it's still hurting us. c. there's hope... you don't HAVE to carry it. Discover: Where, in your body, do you carry your anger? your fear? your pain? your sadness? Go there. Uncover: Find the pain, stain, rage, pressure, etc. Imagine the size, texture, color, hardness, weight, etc. Recover: Let it go, somehow... Take your hand and grab it and either pull it straight out, let it drop out of you onto the ground via gravity, turn it to a liquid and let it flow out, scream and fight it if necessary... whatever you need to do, to get it out of you. or choose to keep it, for now, and listen to it, learn from it, grow from it. Post-Traumatic Stress or Post-Traumatic Growth it's up to you! Which do you choose? - -- ND Brainstorm ways to support the development of EQ competencies in school leaders around the world. What: Online Webinar presentation When: June 13 at 9 am PST (San Francisco) World Times How: Register for the Live Webinar (includes a link to the recording) or the Recording Only Presenters: Lorea Martinez Social Emotional Learning Consultant. Lorea supports schools and teachers integrate SEL practices in their educational programs. She partners with schools to identify their strengths, core values and the challenges they want to address, and provides customized recommendations for SEL implementation. Recommendations are based on research-validated strategies to successfully implement SEL programs and incorporate the particular needs of schools and students. Lorea regularly blogs about SEL in schools. Susan Stillman Director, Education, Global Office: With years of experience as an educational leader, scholar-practitioner, K-12 school counselor, and higher ed faculty, Susan brings a diverse background and set ofskills to bear on her mission to build and sustain the Six Seconds’ educational programs. Paul Stillman, Ph.D., LFACHE, Director of Organizational Vitality Paul has over 30 years of experience as a healthcare executive and consultant, with a focus on strategic planning, hospital operations, and cultural transformation around an ethic of patient-centered care. He has a doctorate in human and organizational systems and a research interest in sustainability. Paul is currently the Director of Organizational Vitality for Six Seconds. - 6Sec Webinar (this morning... missed it) Susan, Paul, Lorea Developing Principals' Emotional Intelligence Here is a link to the recording: https://zoom.us/recording/play/SH0oAUSsppLo-MfZqtDGwB2ybY7tG5kP_kyGl0QC5N1xC4iyZIBitvGuRuhyE--B -- ND Bring the depth, and color, and passions to life. but it's NOT just about feelings. Our thoughts drive our feelings, so we canNOT ignore our thoughts in favor of our feelings (well, sometimes, but not as a rule or habit) (unused wording) #EQRocks <-- click here to read other EQ-related FB posts (...and if you see something that exemplifies EQ, tag it #EQRocks, please... it's a cool, easy way to share!) -- ND Brochure Focus we need to focus, to get things done, right? strong emotions cause us to lose our focus. that's because we don't know what to DO with them. #FeelIt2HealIt, I say. No, I don't curl up in a ball and cry my heart out at every sadness, disappointment or mis-step. I'd be crying all day long. but I do cry. I let myself cry. when a feeling gets big(ger), or repeats ah, that's what it is... if I feel it in the moment, when and while I'm first finding out about it... then, it lessons the impact later... maybe permanently. I've had some issues, NDers have had some issues, that, once felt, and released. NEVER bothered them/us again. ever. in fact, there are some things that have bothered us for some time, that, JUST the acknowledgment of the fact, just knowing that that I had had that thought and made that decision Awareness + Feelings = Clarity We have Thoughts, pretty much every minute, of every day, all day, every day. We have Feelings, pretty much every minute, of every day, all day, every day. We pay attention to Thoughts, not so much our Feelings. 'cause we don't UNDERSTAND them. we don't recognize them. we can't separate them... To most people, they're feelings and emotions are a big mess and a big mystery. both are no bueno. People are afraid of what they don't understand. oh, don't go for the 'people', go for their friends. have the people ask other people. - I'm late to the discussion, - do NDers take less meds? some do. many don't people I know on meds -- ND Brochure I wouldn't say always be "careful" of what you say, For me, with the 'right people' (which most NDers turn out to be!) I am free to be honest about my true feelings, and judgments, and you seem to love me, so I am trusting that you're gonna keep on loving me, even if I am real with you. It's being real, being honest, sharing thoughts, but more importantly sharing feelings. In our meetings, we're not really looking for what's going really well... although we're happy for you... those are working. What we focus on, and go right to, on Friday night... is what are you FEELING? and the choices most are Fear, Anger, Sadness, or all 3? Not, 'what are you feeling' from what happened to you yesterday... we go right for the ROOT of it all... back to childhood... as far back as you can go. -- ND Branches -- thanks!! Your order should go out on Tuesday. Any special requests? Would you like some longer branches, as well? I can send up to 6-footers, if you'd like! Thanks again, and sorry again for the non-reply. Enjoy your Eucs! - Matt www.EucProducts.com www.Facebook.com/EucProducts -- ND Branches -- thanks!! Your order should go out on Tuesday. Any special requests? Would you like some longer branches, as well? I can send up to 6-footers, if you'd like! Thanks again, and sorry again for the non-reply. Enjoy your Eucs! - Matt www.EucProducts.com www.Facebook.com/EucProducts -- ND Brochure) Top 10 Reasons to do an ND weekend - Emotional Recognition notice - Emotional Agility whatever comes up, you can handle it / face it / get thru it! - Emotional Literacy identification, separation, understanding, recognition, feedback - Acceptance, Forgiveness and Compassion for YOU! - Super GOOD NEWS! you have WAY more Choices, emotionally, than you ever thought possible! - Hope! there IS help there IS hope there ARE some people who care you CAN heal you CAN feel better, emotionally (in just 1 weekend!) - Connection Magic of the group Connect with self, too! - Anger with Love - Relationship Tools - Body Relief - Take control of your emotional life - Learn how to succeed - Intimacy no walls, no hidden agenda, just love, care and concern.... nothung more - Healing wow, we/you can do sooo much in one weekend... and, in so doing, you'll know, from then on, how to heal yourself... AND your loved ones! - Transform yourself, Emotionally From shut-down and numb, to Alive-Alert-&-Feeling GREAT! from victim to victor from powerless to powerful from shame-based to love-based from I-hate-my-feelings to I-Love-My-Feelings_They-Set-me-FREE! from petrified or prosperous from survivin' to thrivin' from guilt to pride from weighed-down to fired-up from clueless to clueful (is that even a word? :) ) from blaming to claiming from whining to venting - #FeelIt2HealIt - #SpinIt2WinIt - #NameIt2ClaimIt - Changing Negative Emotions into Positives (or at least neutral) ability to - L vs R brain understand and experience the difference esp. R brain - What it's like to BE there, in your feelings - Over 30 years of experience - Full Expression - Equality no longer put down as a little kid, you stand, you grow, you are equal, you are powerful, and you are free! - Guidance toward where you don't want to go - Honest Feedback (but always respectful, and loving) - Validation you are you, and you are ok... with at least somebody/people - Become a therapeutic person - Practice feelings are uncomfortable (HINT: much worse so, if you fight 'em and deny 'em) Get comfortable being uncomfortable try new things, emotionally shopping - Self-integration: U, u and UU - Personal Power(!) - Emotional Tools toolbox - Emotional Skills - Emotional Resilience - Persistance - Grit! - Guilt reduction - Anger / rage reduction - Fear and anxiety Relief - Safety Experience the safest, most loving place on the planet. the room is silent, as you talk/share/feel/heal. everyone, everyone is listening to you. and only you. for a little while, YOU are the most important person in the world. as far as you can see. what that does is to validate, and integrate, and accept people/me/us at a 'soul level'. we try to live a life of high EQ. what does that look like? what does that feel like? how does it sound? what do I do? what do I say? DoUEQ? I do. Once we feel something positive... it is MUCH easier to replicate that feeling. "A mind, once stretched to a new dimension, never retains it's former shape. "A heart, once stretched to it's fullest limits, never returns to it's former shape." - Mcp Quote once you can FEEL a certain feeling... ALL of it... on Purpose... and you LIVE thru it... You won! you ain't afraid of your own fear, any longer... ever. boom. once you feel ANGER... ALL of it... on Purpose... and NO one gets hurt... and you feel SOOOOOOO much better... then, boom, you're not afraid of your anger no mo', either. once you feel your Sadness... as deeply as your pure little heart feels it... on Purpose... and you don't get lost there, you don't drown, and you find that it does end.... from then on, you get to Enjoy, yes Enjoy your sadness... why? 'cause Sadness is the closest to Love. We are sad about losing stuff/people/pets/parents/kids/friends who we love. Sad and love are very close. To me, my sadness shows me the depth of my love. If I cut off my sadness, I'm cutting off my ability, and my flexibility, to Love, as deeply and cleanly and fully as I possibly can! (make friends with your sadness. honor and respect it, and it won't need to keep coming back quite so often.) - Free book - Free heart - Your very own free NDW pencil(!) last - Emotional Understanding (IQ + EQ) I call it meta-analysis, our thoughts about our thoughts. our thoughts about our feelings. our feelings about our thoughts, and our thoughts about them. etc. thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings become aware of 'em learn 'em understand 'em accept 'em then, adjust 'em effect / affect 'em change 'em manage 'em so we can enjoy 'em use 'em to help us get results succeed find / create happiness live, love, laugh esp. Live! - - Ever had the same feeling, most days, for many days, and you just can't shake it? - Do you have some HUGE events from your childhood... yeah, that one... that is STILL buggin' you? - Are you feeling flat, or numb, or blah, or bored, or disconnected, or depressed (and you're sick of it)? I think we can help you. Actually, you can help you. We can help you, help you. We can show you how to help yourself in ways that are kind, respectful, responsible, effective, powerful, lasting, freeing, empowering and very, very cool! We can show you: how to deal how to heal how to feel, to a great depth, to give life a fuller experience, to manage your feelings and emotions like never before. how to squeel, with delight, whenever you feel like it, just 'cause it's fun! - I'm not going to say that you will be magically cured of every negative emotion after only 1 weekend... this stuff is a life-style choice, so if you come to class, and you're ready to 'feel'... really feel, the REST OF YOUR LIFE will be different (hopefully, better). The reality is that, once you 'feel', you can't really 'go back'... well, you can, but a) it takes more denial, to deny it from here on, 'cause now you know, and it's tuff to un-know something once you know it, and b) I think you'll find, as we have, that it's now your CHOICE to feel... because you CAN feel, cause it's Cool to feel, 'cause it brings Life, and Love, and Laughter, and Peace, and Joy, and Excitement, and Wonder, and Awe, and Power, and Control, and Results, and Success, and Happiness to my life. - Did you know that you CAN change your negative feelings into Positives. we can show you how. but you can do this at home, too. it's about ALLOWing yourself to feel what you feel. now, you may have heard this before, but we do it in the only way it can be done properly... from the beginning. You (u) as a child, had pain. u, as a child, had traumatic things happen. some more than others (and some of the most horrifying stories imaginable) but EVERY kid has traumas. every kid has big negative feelings that they never got to express. we all have stuff that happened (and is maybe still happening) that hurts... a Lot. and you know you're not dealing with it, directly. You know. we ask people in class, about, what Dr. Phil calls, their Defining Moments (we call Early Recollections) we know what messed us up. we know what is still effecting us. we know what we're not 'over'. (mostly) I'd say 80-90% of our students, when asked, knew. there are thoughts and there are feelings Trauma creates both BIG, nasty, generalized, negative Thoughts accompanied by BIG, nasty, negative, incredibly LARGE Feelings fueled by pictures, sounds, smells, and touches, often horrific ones, that Shock the system. - (one young lady remembered events, a fight between her parents, that got physical, while she was STILL IN HER MOM's TUMMY! Her mom was there with her in class, in shock, as girl recounted the story, even the words that were said, perfectly (talk about getting to the core of it all -- totally changed her life, afterwards!) (btw, in DV situations, studies prove that kids' brains kinda STOP growing when their violence and utter fear and unsafety in the home... EVEN if the child was not in the room, and never saw it happen. if this happened to you, there's still pain there, I guarantee it... let us help you get started in cleaning it all outta there) New Directions Emotional Intelligence Breakthrough Weekend we're not "doing" anything to you. we will support you. We have a format that we usually take, because it usually works, beautifully. Everyone's different, so sometimes we have to modify it, in the present. which is fine. it's not about you doing our process... it's about you getting what you want and need, to heal. (or enhance, or extend, or expand, or extract, or create, or appreciate, or fulfill) - kinda like an exorcism there is yucky, negative, black (or red or brown) energy inside you. if you don't want it there, we can help you get it out of you. it won't hurt us, 'cause it's yours... but it you also don't need to carry it around anymore, either. it is my/our theory that little kids are pure, clean, loving little vessels. sometimes, unhappy, unfulfilled, emotionally-clueless parents consciously or unconsciously off-load some of THEIR yuckiness into their sweet, trusting kid(s), so they get a little relief, and validation, and company. and we, as loving children choose to CARRY that yucky energy around with us, from that day forward. a. no bueno... it's not ours to carry! b. ouch... if we're still carrying it, it's still hurting us. c. there's hope... you don't HAVE to carry it. Discover: Where, in your body, do you carry your anger? your fear? your pain? your sadness? Go there. Uncover: Find the pain, stain, rage, pressure, etc. Imagine the size, texture, color, hardness, weight, etc. Recover: Let it go, somehow... Take your hand and grab it and either pull it straight out, let it drop out of you onto the ground via gravity, turn it to a liquid and let it flow out, scream and fight it if necessary... whatever you need to do, to get it out of you. or choose to keep it, for now, and listen to it, learn from it, grow from it. Post-Traumatic Stress or Post-Traumatic Growth it's up to you! Which do you choose? - Learn the IQ of EQ cognitively, how emotions work (and don't work) steps (lots of steps) - Self-empowerment - Self-esteem - Self-motorvation - Self-Acceptance (!) - Self-Integration no more having wars with yourself -- ND Brochure) do you want to be a schlump? do you want to drag your tired a$$ thru life, dreading the day, and disappointed with the people? are you excited about your life, or not so much? are you scared and angry at the new administration? what do you DO with all those feelings? How can you #SpinIt2WinIt? -- ND Brochure -- ND Brain interactions where Heart sends more signals to Brain than the Brain the Signals; 2. HRV affecting Psychological Coherence - Heartmath has done wonderful research in this area and gave us devices to maintain the coherence (emwave); 3. The article says 6 feet distance whereas Heartmath found it to be 10 feet; 4. Through 0.1HZ, we achieve wonderful coherence promoting DHEA production; 5. Collective Consciousness has capability to affect Electromagnetic waves of the Earth. Greg Braden is one of my favourites whose reference in the article I loved most. I will try to post the coherence video in this thread. Like · Reply · 4 · 6 hrs Remove Lynda Abraugh Lynda Abraugh Amazing! So, in reality, the heart sends more signals to the brain than the brain does to the heart, which influence our emotions, our memories, our problem-solving and high-level cognitive functions. (Wow!)" And,, In fact, the heart has its own network of neurons. This network is so sensitive that our heart rhythms become highly ordered when we experience positive emotions, love and joy. But it is On the contrary! NEGATIVE emotions and psychological activity cause erratic and jerky heart function, leading to inefficiency, lack of energy..." Wow!!! Thank you for sharing Matt Perelstein. Like · Reply · 2 · 1 hr Remove Lynda Abraugh Lynda Abraugh Sharing. Thank you Matt Perelstein Like · Reply · 1 · 1 hr Remove Jano Zak Jano Zak Fabulous post! Heartfelt gratitude for sharing! Like · Reply · 1 · 1 hr Remove -- ND Brochure" (Notebook from Garage) ND Brochure How can you feel love(d), if you cannot feel? Want to feel love(d), deeper, more colorful and more satisfying? Learn EQ. Let yourself feel. Cry. Release. Open up. Expand! Free yourself Allow. REJOICE! Feel! - (5.27.2016 00:22) Do you trust your fear? (I didn't, but I do now.) Fear exaggerates. 1 fear gets your mind going on possible negative scenarios Do you believe them? Do you trust them? Left unchecked, our fears can make a bad thing much worse. (and bigger, and jumpier, and more dangerous and us more powerless!) Learn to tell yourself the truth. So that you do trust your fear(s). - If you can open up and let the sun, and light and love GROW HOT inside you, you already won! and chances are... it (you) will Spill out onto others around you. Wanna bring love and joy to those you love and enjoy? Be Love. Be the Joy. Bring you to the table, full and radiant. Bring it! - http://www.newdirectionsworkshop.com/testimonials/ -- ND Branches (not chew branches) I have three big cages and 5 small cages (bird cages) was wondering if you could advise me on what would be a good number to order? Please also let me know a price for the quantity. I appreciate your advise in advanced. Thanks, Christina Lane 1603 Bethany Church Road Princeton, KY 42445 970-261-2951 -- ND Bridges where people tend to jump off of) who offer help (again, mostly listening, and caring) to those about to end it all? Some great stories! One guy, who 'patrols' the Golden Gate Bridge has saved MANY folks... -- ND Breadth of inner experience can be actively explored and interpersonal relationship skills can be enhanced. Participants can expand their repertoire of dramatic roles to find that their own life roles have been strengthened. Quotes "Under the guise of play and pretend, we can - at least once - act in new ways. The bit of distance from real life afforded by drama enables us to gain perspective on our real-life roles and patterns and actions, and to experiment actively with alternatives." - Renee Emunah, PhD, RDT/BCT Director, Drama Therapy Program, California Institute of Integral Studies "(Drama therapy) values the possibilities of the unadorned encounter between a therapist and a client in the play space. Here, the world of imagination with all its contradictions and mysteries can be revealed through the embodied play of two free consciousnesses." - David Read Johnson, PhD, RDT/BCT Director, The Institutes for the Arts in Psychotherapy "Unlike talk therapy, drama therapy gets there really fast. Role-playing -acting out issues and problems - is more effective than talking." - Robert Landy, PhD, RDT/BCT Director, Drama Therapy Program, New York University "Participants can enjoy the feelings of being in another person's shoes - playing another role - as well as learn the liberating experience of expanding their own primary roles in life." - Patricia Sternberg, MA, RDT/BCT Director, Developmental Drama Program, Hunter College "In the aftermath of September 11th, I witnessed the enormous benefits of these modalities [creative arts therapies] in helping people to express their emotions and have seen Capital Hill exhibits illustrating the meaningful gains through artistic process." - Hillary Rodham Clinton ex-First lady and Democratic Presidential Candidate, 2016 - Billie Corbett says: As a child in school, I had an experience where I was able to explore myself creatively and I got to taste the freedom of self expression. The context was a P.E. class where the class was assigned a project. We had to choose a piece of music and choreograph a number which would involve all of us and selected piece of gym equipment. (Balls, hula hoops, skipping ropes etc.) During this class experience I learned alot. I loved the experience. We all had to collaborate with one another. We choose the music together and selected the gym equipment together. Then, we all contributed our ideas to choreographing our movements. We created a beautiful number we eventually performed. It was a wonderful experience. I found I could express myself individually as well as be a team player. Later, in life I found myself deeply stuck in a limiting, controlling relationship with a spouse and a faith based group. I had begun to reach out for help and healing through professional means, while at the same time I intuitively, went outside of my limiting circumstances to join a community choir. Much to my horror to begin with, the choir morphed into putting on musicals for our community. This was very challenging for me. I was quite musical and had a fairly good singing voice, but, I was deeply insecure and anxious. The choir director was the person who cast the roles. (Retrospectively, I see she was quite brilliant. Probably in ways she wasn’t consciously aware of.) Regarding myself, she never put me in a role that would make me collapse in on myself. (I am sure she was acting intuitively.) She always chose for me very small insignificant supporting bits. These roles contained just enough responsibility where if I faultered I would not be crushed or devastate the flow of the production. Yet, the responsibility was enough to stress me. It would confront me with the fact that I would need to stretch myself out of my existing comfort zone to accomplish it. I would often find myself quite conflicted because I was really scared, but, to succeed, I had to push through the fear and do it inspite of the fear. I would go through this process many times and find that I was able to succeed. Thus, it reduced my fear / anxiety levels and build inner self confidence. A major side benefit to participating in the creation of a successful musical theatre production was: I began to sort out some very complex aspects of my personal life. In my spousal relationship and faith based relationships I was being told I was: disruptive, uncooperative, non compliant…etc. In other words…I was “the” problem…as to why things were not working very well in the marriage and in the faith based group. Once I was involved in musical theater, I began to compare the perceptions of others. The community experience of me with the spousal/faithbased perception. The perceptions and experience of me as a person didn’t line up. There was no congruency between the two. In the choir/musical theatre, I was well liked, enjoyed and seen as a part of the whole.( I wasn’t a problem.) I was seen as being dependable, reliable, co-operative, friendly, likeable and valued. This caused me to then question and doubt the “role and relationship” I had with myself and with others in my personal life. Intuitively I began to become aware of and understand projection. I began to see that I was not who I was being told I was in my personal life. I began to see how others were projecting their unwanted, denied parts onto me, because I was vulnerable to absorbing them. This was quite life altering. In time, I left the marriage and the faith based community that I was in. I started to align myself with the truth of who I was as a person (which was revealed to me by contrast, reflection, introspection and self awareness.) Through musical theatre I learned to take responsibility for myself in a deep way. I learned to create congruency in my personal life. The lessons I learned through participating in musical theatre were and still are extremely valuable to me. I continue to challenge myself and grow in all aspects of my life. It helped me to solidify a congruent sense of self. This is small bit of my experience…shared to confirn and validate what Bessel van de Kolk has referenced in this video. I definitely believe theatre create an environment conducive to personal reflection and introspection. They can observe themselves from a different perspective. It is helpful to get outside themselves…so to speak for a bit. Theatre can facilitate growth in the ability to absorb complex intrapersonal and interpersonal realities. It helps to expand an individuals perception of choices and their ability to choose who they want to be. - Genevieve E. Chandler says: We have demonstrated and increase in resilience, managing stress and an increase in emotional awareness through the Changing Minds Changing Lives (CMCL) program using an Empower Resilience Intervention, an ACE aware, trauma-informed, 5 week, 2x/week course. ERI incorporates the 4 R’s: Relaxation (mindfulness) Research, Reflection and Recognition. The key is Reflection through a group writing method based on Amherst Writers and Artist’s practice (AWA) where participants free write their story in response to an open-ended prompt and receive feedback on their writing from peers and facilitators. The CMCL program has demonstrated efficacy with young adults, diverse community college students and incoming athletes. CMCL is funded by the NCAA and recently, a Public Service Endowment Grant to implement the program in a Springfield, MA high school. I believe writing & reading their stories with genuine feedback produces similar outcomes as acting. This sounds awesome, Genevieve! I'm a fanatic EQer (emotional intelligence trainer) and I would love to use this technique. Do you mind sharing the wording of the open-ended prompt? Thanks! - Matt -- ND Bring clarity to your everyday life. My productivity increases whenever I meditate consistently and noticeably declines when I fall out of my routine. Watch a YouTube video or read a quick blog post on how to meditate. It's easy. <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> 5. Memorization techniques If you think of your brain as a set of computer folders, then you can see that forgetting is not really possible. If you forget something, it's either it wasn't saved, to begin with or you put it somewhere hard to retrieve. Concentration and recall are what makes memories. Focus in order to concentrate, and test yourself in order to recall. "Backspace" new info by using a pencil and eraser. <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> 6. How to triple your reading speed Read at least one book per week. How? Audiobook apps (like Audible's) often have a feature where you can listen to a book at three times the normal speed. It only takes about 10 minutes for your brain to adjust, and then you're good. <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> 7. How to take responsibility Too often people try to come up with reasons why they can't get something done, why a project is over budget, how an accident happened, etc. Learning to take responsibility for your actions will make doing business much smoother. It's easier to solve a problem when you aren't spending a ton of time getting to the root of it. Take responsibility and move forward. <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> 8. How to organize critical versus important tasks Piling things on your to-do lists feels productive. Eventually, though, the list gets too massive and all the tasks suffer since you don't have enough time and energy to allocate to each. While you can delegate, it's easier to divide the mix of critical tasks (tasks that you need to do now to improve the business) and important tasks (tasks that you can do whenever to improve the business.) <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> 9. Shoulder, wrist, and arm stretches Putting in long hours typing at your desk is bound to lead to health problems if you don't learn easy, quick stretches to counteract the strain. Simple exercises to prevent carpal tunnel syndrome and back pain take less than 10 minutes to learn but save you hundreds of hours you might have lost otherwise. Just five to 10 minutes a day is a good start to protecting your health and productivity. <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> 10. How to delegate time blocks It is so easy to fall into the daily distractions, forcing you to play catch-up the next day. Time blocking is such a huge part of my day that keeps me on track. I schedule a time frame where I am responding to emails, and then I block the next hour for meetings. I would recommend everyone break time into segments. <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> -- ND Brochure) Ever felt like you wanted to 'be there' for others, like never before? (hint: It has a LOT to do with YOUR feelings and emotions!) -- ND Brochure"... so I can compile that into something workable. There's the current file I just sent (2 MB, 3.1.2017 -present) and my archive file (52 MB, 4.1.2004 - 2.28.2017). Can you write some code to open the file, search for "ND Brochure", and then Copy the text from the next line to the end-of-entry marker "-- ND Brochure"... This is not the place they get to come each week to whine about how they feel - this is where they come to examine what is working in the present, what is not, and to go through the process of changing the "is not" part of that by taking action. - Penny R. Tupy, Life Coach Feelings expressed for the following reasons are fine: Clarity Release Acceptance Remove Judgments Go for deeper feelings (ex: express anger to get to the hurt underneath) not Ok: whining blaming (short-term is fine, in an effort to find your part in it all) one-up-manship / competition poor me (if you want people to feel sorry for you, you're not looking for results) victim (to explain how there really is NOthing you can do about it... and it's all their fault, anyhow) -- ND Br -- ND Br-- ND Br-- ND Br-- ND Br-- ND Br-- ND Br-- ND Br- anches, no CS) thins = thin, flexible branches vase = pretties, for display, 2-3', prob. both ()) = banana leaves only (R) or (r) = oval leaves only (b) = both oval and banana leaves (!) = replacement order, whoops, make it nice, give extra :) = freebie (:) = (R) shower order, long strands of oval leaves (e) or (eco) = eco dying, colorful, in-tact leaves, smaller is better different, spots are fine/preferred! 10.21.2015 lol = lots of leaves(!) 11.27.2015 (thins) - what's most important to the customer (aroma) S(noB) = Starter with only Leaves and CS, no Branch -- ND Brochure (!) EQ101 D-R (!) -- ND Breadth 3. Acceptance - #FrameIt2ClaimIt 4. Expression (or NOT!)- #FeelIt2HealIt 5. Release of Negatives - #LetItFlowLetItGo 6. Replace with Positives - #SpinIt2WinIt 7. REJOICE! - #ExaggerateEnthusiasm 4 Steps to Learning EQ 1. Unconsciously Incompetent 2. Consciously Incompetent 3. Consciously Competent 4. Unconsciously Competent There's a process that we all go thru when learning anything new. 1. Unconsciously Incompetent “We don’t know that we don’t know.” Clueless, unaware, no idea 2. Consciously Incompetent “We find out that we don’t know.” Oh, I see. Makes sense. Can't do it, but I see how it works. 3. Consciously Competent “We learn how to do it different.” Practice. Do. Think. Feel. Learn! Ask! Try. Experience. Grow. Fly. On Purpose. 4. Unconsciously Competent “We do it different, without having to think about it (much).” Soar. Sail. Drift. Enjoy! Connect. Be. Do. Have. Smile. - 3 Steps to Dealing with Feelings Knowledge Acceptance Expression (or NOT!) - 3 Steps to High EQ Awareness Acceptance Action (or NOT!) - WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE (WTD) posted: holding someone accountable and blaming them guilt and shame positive and negative emotions ("Nothing" - Josh Freedman) negative-to-positive 10.2.2016 feelings and emotions Faith and Trust Love and Hate 10.20.2016 Thoughts and Feelings 10.27.2016 Fear and Anxiety FB-EIA, 1.30.2017 Venting vs. Whining FB-EIA, 2.15.2017 I don't mind venting (outta me), but not dumping (onto you)... there's a dif... and I appreciate the differentiation. venting = responsibility, maturity, awareness. Whining = victim, denial, misplacement, transferrance What's the opposite of "victim"? 3.4.2017 surviving and thriving FB-EIA, 3.22.2017 unposted, as of yet: bossy and bullying being bossy and being a leader thoughts vs. thinking vs. Thots (Mcp) victim or victor petrified or prosperous(?) powerless and powerful EQ and IQ judgment and discernment forgiving and forgetting forgiving and not forgiving - AR = AutoResponder (automated email sendouts, like the 100 Emotional Lessons in 100 Days) w/ = with, w/o = without (but you knew those already...) I'll sometimes put hyp-hens where they don't belong... it's ok. one of my Worst, is that I often CAPITALIZE stuff that Ain't supposed to be Capped, just for Emphasis. I'll try not to overdo it, as some find it annoying, and yelling, but I still like it. tuff. "t" "u" "fuff" "fuff" = tuff, and tough. (,R#) = Audio recording from my Sony transcriber. # = order downloaded ~ -> mcp or 2gh/nd ~mcp, ~2GetHelp My -> subfolders MyApps, MyMusic, MyPictures, MyInvoices other biz TLM, Autodesk, EPA, CDPH z -> system zArchive, zLog >> = ToDo, by me (slammed left) << = ToDue, by others (never used, yet 7.7.2016) >>> = To Become(!) long term. big picture. big me. UU >> orders euc orders, make sure no others with >(space)o Acronyms: PKP = Paula Kay PP = PayPal D-R = Draper-Richards http://www.drkfoundation.org/ MT = Madisyn Taylor NDW = Neill Donald Walsch CK = Christine Kenton CT/PC = Christina Tate CH = Christine Helman SP = SharePoint HHH = Helen's Health Hints (Tips) LindaD = Linda Dessault File and folder names go from largest to smallest (ex: Facebook_MCP_20121125.txt) FB = Facebook (or Fort Bragg) LI-EIN = LinkedIn, The Emotional Intelligence Network a number on the next line, ex: 20/30 = 20 requests to join/30 in submission queue (RTJ = Request to Join) FB-EIN = The Emotional Intelligence Network FB-EQE = EQ Educators and Parents Network was EQ Educators Network, until 12.19.2016 FB-ND FB-NDG = NewDirections Closed Group FB-Mcp - Facebook.com/MattPerelstein FB-EQ or FB-EQR- emotionalintelligencerocks FB-EP = EucProducts FB-2GH FB-IM instant message FB-MCRB (racquetball) TW-MCP (nd) TW-2GH EP = EucProducts.com MP.com = MattPerelstein.com NDW = NewDirectionsWorkshop.com EQR = EQRocks.com 2GH = 2GetHelp.com 2VH = 2GiveHelp.com 2SH = 2SellHelp.com 2GHTC = 2GetHelp Therapy Center 2GH4Vets... guess. - 01:37 ^^:^^ Timestamps: new standard convention a few days ago... usually on a line by themselves, after a -- ND Branches... like we asked!) 2.22.2017 9.17.2016 Curtis Petty $12.95 1/2C * garbageman65@gmail.com 2047 Oxford Ct. 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Cancelled 1 mo. later! ?? 2.6.2017 9.28.2016 Joshua Rule $29.95 2B 16-1' * anewdirective@gmail.com 3814 Shadow Canyon Trail Broomfield, CO 80020 WBB 1.27.2017 9.28.2016 Annie Anderson $19.95x2 3C * anniekanderson@gmail.com 6116 Lyndale Ave S Apt 319 Minneapolis, MN 55419 love it, but not using fast enuf 1.23.2017 1.11.2017 Richard Fenner $19.95 1L (O) * rickfenner@yahoo.com 525 Gregory Ave Apt 6C Weehawken, NJ 07086 (only 1 order) ?? 1.6.2017 10.30.2016 Patricia Bergin $12.95 1/2C (O)* pbergindy@aol.com 165 Crystal Oak Dr Deland, FL 32720 lost interest, will order quarterly 12.24.2016 1.16.2015 Candace Johnson $12.95 1/2B, 2-2' * candacej3333@yahoo.com 115 W Powell Road Collierville, TN 38017 ?? 12.19.2016 11.10.2016 Karen Attson $29.95 2B 2-2'x1" * krw716@hotmail.com 5190 E Kensington Ave Castle Rock, CO 80104 will start again... smaller branches 12.9.2016 5.18.2016 Peaches Corner $19.95 1L * peachescorner@att.net Barbara Martin 6126 Winview Dr Forest Park, GA 30297 ?? ?.?.08 Bob Wirth Starter 11.95 2 rwirth@frontiernet.net 6856 Sy Road Niagara Falls, NY 143040 4.22.08 Jane Thibeault 1L 19.95 3 lunamystab@hotmail.com 1641 Monty's Circle North, Southaven, MS 38672 8.06.08 Sherry Cannon 1/4L 9.95 1 11.12.08 10.26.08 Terri Woodburn 11.95 S terriw@ku.edu 16140 NW 124th St, Platte City, MO 64079 11.29.08 Sheri Starter 11.95 1 sherilb31@earthlink.net 6188 W Settlers Point Dr, West Valley City, UT 84128 ?.?.09 Linda Lackey S 11.95 ? lclackey@gmail.com 1201 McCain Place, High Point, NC 27262 3.16.10 Steve Bugge / Rachel 2C 29.95 4 steve@stevebugge.com 1702 Rainier Ave. Everett, WA 98201 3.21.10 Jen Bailey S logo contest/ChrisHamman 530 So. 70 E #26, Kamas, UT 84036 (sent 9.18.10) 4.24.10 Ryan Hoffman $19.95 1C sk8erpunk_ryan@yahoo.com 6001 Old Shell Rd. , Robinwood Apts. , Apt#M97, Mobile, AL 36608 11.25.10 Sonja Earnest $11.95 1/2L-round searnest@cmpd.org 5833 Falls Ridge Lane Charlotte, NC 28269 1.27.11 Rudy & Lisa Gazarek $11.95 S gazuccio@verizon.net 42108 Flowering Path Place Aldie, VA 20105-2653 2.18.11 Lenetta Lefko $11.95 HOLD! (S, 2B's, no CS) TouchandSee@live.com 17720 S Sonoita Hwy Vail, AZ 85641-9104 3.18.11 Jared Dahlgren $11.95 SS boomoogoohoo@gmail.com 2318 San Marcos Drive Colorado Springs, CO 80910 x7.20.11 Jana Grabill $11.95 S (no CS)* jgrabill@comcast.net 13509 Early Frost Circle Orlando, FL 32828 x8.15.11 Carrie Martinez $29.95 2C * keytoyourloan@yahoo.com 10700 Thrift Rd. Clinton, MD 20735 x9.17.11 Blythe Smith $11.95, 1/2B,1'* blythe891@yahoo.com 6117 Whitman Ave Fort Worth, TX 76133 North Ulmer Street Greenwood, AR 72936 x12.23.11 Sandra Vercillo $11.95 S s.vercillo@gmail.com 306 old farmingdale road west babylon, NY 11704 x2.11.12 Carin Wolfe $11.95 S carin.wolfe@msu.montana.edu 425 N 16th Ave Bozeman, MT 59715 (semi-mo.) x2.23.10 Dorothy Hill $19.95 1L counselorda@comcast.net 6771 SE Lillian Court Stuart, FL 34997 x6.4.12 Ashley Cooper $11.95 S ACOOPER387@AOL.COM 11681 SW 3rd St Plantation, FL 33325 x7.2.12 Mickey Lin $29.95 2B, 4-2'x1/4-1/2", ()), X Svcs4You@yahoo.com 4236 BOXWOOD LANE Williamsburg, VA 23188 (mickey.rodriguez88@yahoo.com) x8.19.12 Angela Scott $11.95 1/2B 2-2' ibiubu1334@hotmail.com angela scott 2203 garden drive janesville, WI 53546 x9.13.12 Desiree Chambers $11.95 1/2B 2' d17tweety@yahoo.com 10216 La Vista, El Paso, TX 79924 x9.15.12 Celeste Sotola $49.95 5B (arrangements)* sotola7@aol.com 111 west Basin Street Basin, MT 59631 x10.2.12 Dianna Miller $29.95 4-2'x1" (seeds, once, no bag!) dmjewelry@yahoo.com 5422 South 4178 Road Chelsea, OK 74016 x1.21.13 Sarah Brahm $11.95 S sarahbrahm@hotmail.com 521 Fernando Drive De Pere, WI 54115 x2.2.13 Constance Moss $11.95 1/2L (pd Feb-Apr) 775-423-1162 1925 Gummow Dr. Fallon, NV 89406-6421 x5.9.13 Sharon Fiegle $29.95 2C * library365@windstream.net 460 Log Cabin Lane Aberdeen, NC 28315 x8.23.13 Marion Moon $19.95 1B, 8-1' * thistinyplace@gmail.com 1222 Hustis Drive, Fishkill, NY 12524 Parrish Fl 34219 (NEW ADDRESS, 12.1.2014) x11.1.13 Hazel Leavelle $39.95 3B, 9-4' * hazel.leavelle@gmail.com 205 W Wellons St Smithfield, NC 27577 (REFUND AUG/SEPT) x11.27.13 Anthony Rivera $19.95 1C * rivera5305@sbcglobal.net 1719 Belle Plaine Gurnee, IL 60031 (12 budgies) x12.8.13 Michael Austin $19.95 1L * michaelaustin1993@me.com 1741 Melody Lane Arnold, MO 63010 x12.17.13 Jude Jett/Charles Burke $19.95 1/2L (b) GPSI fleurdejoo@gmail.com Jude Jett 414 Baxter Ave. #265 Louisville, KY 40204 (disconnected, reconnected 12.1.13, sub since 11.23.12 whoops) x1.7.14 Beth Tadalgo $12.95 1/2C, 2', CS, (b) * jade521@gmail.com Beth Simons 2063 Sycamore Fork Salem, WV 26426 x3.11.14 Jared Cavaliere $12.95 1/2C * jcrio118@hotmail.com 1731 Sample Rd Allison park, PA 15101 x4.30.2014 Tina Zelaya $19.95 1B * zelaya1@comcast.net 12625 Memorial Drive #93 Houston, TX 77024 x5.31.2014 Robin Carte $19.95 1B, 8-1' (clean) * robincarte@gmail.com 41 Riverside Dr New Albany, IN 47150 x7.6.2014 Christine Stranz $19.95 1C * christistranz@gmail.com Christine Stranz 417 RIDGEWOOD DR VILLA RICA, GA 30180 x7.16.2014 Andrea Pena $29.95 2C, L ()) & CS* andiesworld27@yahoo.com 2 Gold St Apt 1408 New York, NY 10038 (bird) Las Cruces, NM 88005, 1 Sue Bird x8.6.2014 Rosemarie Greaves $12.95 1/2L(aroma) * myghost09@yahoo.com 391 Main St Easthampton, MA 01027 x10.1.2014 Mark Shirley $12.95 1/2L * muellers820@hotmail.com 1636 Cowslip Lane Honolulu, HI 96819 x12.11.2014 Trina Marie Finch $27.95 2C, 3', pods, CS * trinastinytreasures@gmail.com Trina's Tiny Treasures 6705 County Hwy 21 Walton, NY 13856 x4.28.2015 Michael Schwartz $19.95 1B, 8-1' * (half w/) hobbes626@gmail.com 1165 SW 5th Ter Cape Coral, FL 33991 x5.24.2015 Celesta Summers $12.95 1/2L (R) * (NEW ADDRESS!) LuckieDragon7@gmail.com 350 N Harrison Blvd Apt 7208 Tucson AZ 85748 x8.29.2015 Jill Gawronski $12.95 1/2C * jkgawronski@hotmail.com 2416 Concord Rd. Lansing, MI 48910 x9.10.2015 Christa Krasneck $19.95 1C * toeinked@gmail.com 3555 Bell Road, B208 Nashville, TN 37214 x12.1.2015 Susan Brown $19.95 1L/CS * susan31075@aol.com 1161 Coleman Farm Road Rentz, GA 31075 478-697-2869, birds x1.17.2016 Christie Marchesseault $49.95 5B * suncrestgoldens@yahoo.com 328 138th St NW Tulalip, WA 98271 1.18.2016 SOAChain, LLC $39.95/2mo. 4B, 12-2', 2L * warrendhampton@gmail.com Warren Hampton 3008 Whisperfield Lane Matthews, NC 28104 x2.10.2016 KaylinnaMarie Young $12.95 1/2L * kaylinnamarie.young@gmail.com O Box 1221 Fort Collins, CO 80522 x 11.30.2016 2.10.2016 Diana Bushard $19.95 1C * (every 2 months) diana.sturm@gmail.com 219 Ridgewood Road, Coral Gables, FL 33133 (originally 8.14.13 - 9.23.2015, 2nd subscription is for add'l postage) x10.29.2016 Nancy Winchel $19.95/2mo. 1C * nwinchel@hctc.com 80 E. Herron Dr. Shelton, WA 98584 11.1.2016 11.24.10 Theresa Chambers 11.95 1/2L (aroma!) * tcdragonfly@hotmail.com 2005 Breitwert Ave Baltimore, MD 21230 ?? Longest ever (6 years!) 10.28.2016 8.31.2016 Megan Glide $12.95 1/2C * hq2bowmg@gmail.com Megan Wright 1344 springer Street Westland, MI 48186 ?? 10.27.2016 8.22.2016 Gustave Husenitza IV $12.95 1/2C * crittermom910@gmail.com 167 Partridge Lane Saint George, SC 29477 ?? 10.27.2016 10.16.2016 Julia Luttrell $12.95 1/2C * julieluttrell@hotmail.com 4482 fm 697 Sherman, TX 75090 ?? 10.1.2016 10.23.2015 Brian Dunbar $19.95 1C * brian.dunbar@yahoo.com 2815 Iowa Street Baton Rouge, LA 70802 (sub before ??) 9.29.2016 10.9.2012 Laurie Ramos $12.95 1/2C (R) * ramoslaurie@yahoo.com 305 W Oltorf St, Austin, TX 78704 (gone for awhile, then back again 1.25.2016!) 9.24.2016 10.6.2015 Abigail Melvin (Abby Menagerie) $19.95 1L * (JUNE ONLY 1B *) billnabby@gmail.com 101 Collie Terrace Danville, VA 24541 too many stocked up 8.31.2016 10.30.2015 Tiffani Forshee $12.95 1/2B * (REFUND ALL for now... (7.24) tforshee69@yahoo.com 165 Thacher St Hornell, NY 14843-1249 not interested anymore 8.31.2016 9.23.2015 Cassandra Hershberger $12.95 1/2C * CassyJ82@aol.com 20983 Arcadia Drive Bristol, IN 46507 new home for gliders 8.30.2016 8.15.2016 KAY WHITENER $19.95 1C * KWHITENER@YMAIL.COM 300 17TH ST SW APT37 HICKORY, NC 28602 no interest, only 1 order 10.30.2016 Patricia Bergin $12.95 1/2C (O)* pbergindy@aol.com 165 Crystal Oak Dr Deland, FL 327208.27.2016 1.24.2016 Jodi Frye $19.95 1C * sweet_jlf@yahoo.com Jodi Frye 24 1/2 2nd Ave SW clear back door of House Le Mars, IA 51031 8.26.2016 8.30.2015 Barbara Lesch-Bunch $19.95 1C *(FREE 1/2L()) July only) bunchb@shands.ufl.edu 128 Lake Shore Terrace Interlachen, FL 32148 (Every 6 weeks!) too many in freezer 6.21.2016 4.7.2016 Jessica Hart $12.95 1/2C * jlhart2008@gmail.com 1968 WESTRIDGE PL AURORA, IL 60504 ?? 6.18.2016 2.6.2016 Candace Williams $12.95 1/2B * candace_ccw@yahoo.com 7138 Englewood Dr. SE Lot #21, Olympia, WA 98513 CC mess-up, moving (I'll be back!) 6.14.2016 9.2.2015 Sheryl Gant $29.95 (NEW ADDRESS!) 2L (R)* ssgant@gmail.com 800 Witbeck Dr. Clare, MI 48617 birds no longer interested. may be back someday 12.10.2016 x6.11.2016 8.3.13 Stacia Harris $12.95 1/2L ())mostly* StaciaL8@aol.com 102 Charles Ridge Rd Asheville NC 28805 gone for awhile, but back! 5.3.2016 Maria Elston $12.95 1/2B * italianprincess91@live.com 9813 Quinta Artesa Unit # 103 Fort Myers, FL 33908 (only 1x) ?? 5.24.2016 3.22.11 Cheryl Bates $11.95 1/2L * rcranch@kaltelnet.net 10071 Marilla Rd. Copemish, MI 49625 ?? 5.9.2016 9.27.2014 Rebecca Anderson $19.95 1C * dr.becky@icloud.com 8979 Upper Lando Lane, Park City UT 84098 ?? 5.9.2016 8.1.2015 Eric King $29.95 2B, 2-3' * Disgruntledtek@gmail.com 221 Spring Drive Jacksonville, NC 28540 ?? 5.7.2016 12.24.2015 Brenda Varney $12.95 1/2C * brendaleevarney@gmail.com 6120 Cocktail Drive Las Vegas, NV 89130 ?? 5.4.2016 10.19.2015 Zana Maxwell $12.95 1/2L * bananas4tutus@gmail.com 235 W Harrison Rd Lombard, IL 60148 (too many leaves in freezer... will be ordering again!) 4.27.2016 2.20.2016 Carrie (Carolena) Hunt $29.95 2B, 2-2'x1" X * (X April only) iggili8@gmail.com 116 Northwoods Dr Apt 127k Seneca, SC 29678 PP probs, but then placed another order! 4.16.2016 3.10.2016 Cherryl Grant $12.95 1/2C * jjmpine@yahoo.com 518 9th Ave SE Puyallup, WA 98372 ?? 4.15.2016 3.15.2016 Lisa Wysocki $12.95 1/2C * lawkicks@gmail.com 5032 1/2 Tok A Lou Ave NE Tacoma, WA 98422 ?? 4.6.2016 7.12.2015 Jonathan Edwards $29.95 2B, 2-3' * jonathan134@gmail.com 1314 Enslow Blvd Huntington, WV 25701-4018 ?? 4.4.2016 8.1.12 Stephanie Price $11.95 1/2B, 2-2' * stephdaffy@yahoo.com 960 Flower Street Lakewood, CO 80215 (re-started 10.14.2014) ?? 3.30.2016 9.11.2014 Ab Fab Pet Care $19.95 1C * abfabpetcare@hotmail.com 909 southport ave Lisle, IL 60532 http://www.abfabpetcare.com (every other month now) ?? 3.28.2016 11.26.2015 Lynne Ray $12.95 1/2B, thins * raeray7@msn.com 12819 Briery River Terrace Herndon, VA 20170 (sent 3x in March (!), (!!), but still not happy... so bye!) 3.26.2016 12.2.2015 ShellySuggies $12.95 1/2C * beccashelly2@gmail.com 4547 Country Glen Circle Grovetown, GA 30813 2.29.2016 11.17.2015 Jessica Hensley $19.95 1L* lilmissrn@gmail.com 811 Sherwood Road Charleston, WV 25314 ?? 2.23.2016 10.16.2015 (206)Handyman $19.95 1B * jonkleven@msn.com Jon Klein 14504 38 AVE. N E, SEATTLE, WA 98155 good, ass. 2.15.2016 12.17.2015 Myra Gamble $19.95 1L ()) * myragamble@hotmail.com 1501 Crosley Rd. Granville, OH 43023 (daughter's GPSI) insect died (only 2x) 2.15.2016 10.6.13 Star Hanson $12.95 1/2C* starhanson2010@gmail.com 4329 W. 8th Street Duluth, MN 55807 (3rd time, 9.5.2015, new email addy) gliders no longer interested 2.15.2016 2.5.2016 Sabrina isaac $12.95 1/2C * derricknsabrina@yahoo.com Sabrina Isaac 2105 N Glebe Rd Unit 1226 Arlington, VA 22207-2231 ?? (only 1x) 2.2.2016 12.30.2015 Nathan Ryma $19.95 1L * nryma@hotmail.com 3326 gridley place san diego, CA 92123 found local Euc tree 1.15.2016 3.7.2015 Patti Reichlin $19.95 1B 1-2-3'* reichlin82@aol.com 12 Hayley Court Middletown, DE 19709 lost interest 1.14.2016 1.10.2015 Krystal Claar $12.95 1/2C * Krystalclaar@yahoo.com 8430 Shannon Road Richmond, VA 23236 coming back... 1.10.2016 8.20.2015 Kara Markley $12.95 1L ()) (zip) * kmarkley@columbus.rr.com 660 Woodduck Ct Columbus, OH 43215 (was bi-mo) (stick insects) ?? 12.27.2015 9.18.2014 Amanda Chapman $12.95 S* amanda.chapman@live.ca (NEW ADDRESS!) 629 Saint Clarens Ave Toronto, ON M6H 3W8 Canada I cancelled re: International 12.27.2015 9.24.2015 Oksana Birioukova $19.95 2C, 2' * obirioukova@gmail.com 3766 Marlowe Montreal Quebec H4A3M1 Canada I cancelled re: International 12.17.2015 8.26.2015 Madonna Hall $12.95 1/2L* lafleurm33@msn.com PO box 72 Lowell, OR 97452 ?? 12.2.2015 10.24.2015 Ariel Heinzman $19.95 1C * arielheinzman@hotmail.com 1401 South Main Lot 2, Mitchell, SD 57301 ?? 11.14.2015 11.07.2014 Betty Dumesic baybar67@yahoo.com $19.95 (Oct, not Sept, bi-mo.) 1C * Betty Dumesic/Aybar 5439 Basset Hound Las Vegas, NV 89131 ?? 10.3.2015 12.23.2014 Hollie Bethany $12.95 1C, 2', thins* (NEW ADDRESS!) themom@hunterryan.com 30426 Wilamena Way Big Pine Key, FL 33043 no longer interested, allergies 9.15.2015 2.9.2015 Jennifer Ives $12.95 (NEW ADDRESS, NOT the PObox!) 1/2L ()) * jeilvt2@live.com J. Ives 3109 McLeod Rd Bellingham, WA 98225 GPSIs all died, very happy with service! 9.8.2015 3.4.2015 Marianne Lanier $12.95 (semi-mo) 1/2L ()), pods * 204 Fountain Springs Road Holly Springs, NC 27540 son is allergic (too bad... she wants one NE-wayz! 2.20.2017) 8.30.2015 7.23.2014 Groomer Training Center $12.95 1/2C * aa@groomertrainingcenter.com Allison Alonso 1030 N State Rte 934 Annville, PA 17003 717-507-6440 $? may be back 8.25.2015 4.24.2015 Ciera Kozak $12.95 1/2C * clk666@live.com 373 Village Terrace Sherwood Park Alberta T8A4V1 Canada, gliders lost interest 8.19.2015 3.29.2015 Jennie D Howe $19.95 1L * jenniehowe03@gmail.com 2410 Lakeshore Drive Kansasville, WI 53139 $$ 8.12.2015 2.17.2015 Alisha Killman $12.95 1/2B, 2',CS * aakillman@hotmail.com 621 Indian Creek Rd Chesapeake, VA 23322 ?? 8.8.2015 4.7.14 Fuqua Furry Friends $29.95 2B, 8-2', 4 w/, 4 w/o * kandacesmom@gmail.com Valerie Fuaua 413 Inglewood Drive Fairdale, KY 40118 $$, back soon, she hopes 8.1.2015 3.22.2015 Jacki Bielicki $12.95 1/2C*(NEW ADDRESS!) jaclynariana@gmail.com 16009 Nordhoff St, North Hills, CA 91343 $$ 7.24.2015 11.15.13 Naiyana Juarez $12.95 1/2C, weavables * naiyanabj@gmail.com 3288 Bos Ct Holland, MI 49424 ?? 7.22.2015 9.16.07 Danielle Harris 1L* 19.95 3 daniharris@comcast.net 130 Nottingham Road Pennsville, NJ 08070 lost her gliders -- LONGEST CUSTOMER, Ever! almost 8 years! 7.19.2015 1.11.2015 Joel Bauer jmbauer74@yahoo.com $19.95 1L* (2'B, pods) 225 Skylar LN Four Oaks, NC 27524 didn't cancel, PP did, will fix(!) 7.14.2015 4.1.2015 Susan jb Sweeney $12.95 1/2C * mamasue100@gmail.com (NEW ADDRESS!!) 19 Chandler Place Newton MA 20464 (last 2 were moldy, may try again, sent another order) 7.11.2015 5.13.2015 Megan Hall $19.95 1C* mhall1692@gmail.com 5264 North Diamond Mill Road Brookville, OH 45309 Switching to 1/2C next month! 7.8.2015 5.20.2015 Dawn Edwards $19.95 2L ())* dawn@feltsoright.com 214 E. Hill St. Plainwell, MI 49080-1743 7.8.2015 5.26.2015 Tamara Denison $12.95 1/2B, 4-1'* tcrawford1@comcast.net 413 SW 44th Street Cape Coral, FL 33914 no interest 6.10.15 9.8.2014 Mary Shami $19.95 1B, 5-1' ()) * carina1129@yahoo.com> Mary Shami 6901 Cherry Blossom Dr. Mentor, OH 44060 sold gliders 5.26.2015 1.30.2015 Tegan Currie $12.95 1/2C * littlegirltc@yahoo.com 17428 74th Dr NE ARLINGTON, WA 98223 not eating fast enuf 5.11.2015 1.31.2015 Mike Sattler $12.95 1/2L * msattler5@gmail.com 223 Three Meadows Ct. Perrysburg, OH 43551 ?? 5.9.2015 6.25.2014 Angel Glider Store $12.95 1/2B, 12-16" * Angelaernst54@mac.com 7350 Stewart Drive, Eden Prairie, MN 55346 ?? 4.29.2015 7.21.2014 Josh Ambrose $12.95 1/2C * joshbme69@aol.com 118 North Wills Ave Covington, VA 24426 ?? 4.2.2015 1.23.14 JoJo Campbell $19.95 1C, ()) some clean * auburngirl42@gmail.com JoJo Campbell 314 Old Wagon Road Huntsville, AL 35801 sold gliders 3.16.2015 3.2.2015 Fallen Feathers Farm $12.95 1/2C * fallenfeathersfarm@gmail.com 1000 Rio Hills Drive Delray, WV 26714 ?? 3.16.2015 3.2.2015 Kala Fortier $12.95 1/2B * kala.fortier@gmail.com 4426 Side Road 20 North RR#6 Guelph, Ontario N1H6J3 Canada no interest! 3.4.2015 2.7.2015 Barbara Sparks $12.95 1/2C * barb.anns@yahoo.com 1311 W. Stonewall Ave. McAlester, OK 74501 not interested, still has some 2.17.2015 1.15.2015 Sylvia Seagraves $12.95 1/2C* cgs.ses5652@yahoo.com 3593 Suggs Rd Gainesville, GA 30507 not interested 2.7.2015 7.31.2014 Michelle DeVos $19.95 1B, 2-2.5', some leaves * 1905 Amis Ave ?? 2.5.2015 5.17.2014 Donna M-Barraco $12.95 1/2C* cassmik@yahoo.com 8 Angel Wing Ct. Taylors, SC 29687 (not me) 12.26.2014 4.22.2014 Northern Lights / Zoe Williams $12.95 1/2C * gjones@alum.rpi.edu Zoe Williams 3825 Ethan Allen Highway Charlotte, VT 05445 (G Corey, 4 unopened boxes for daughter Zoe) 12.17.2014 10.9.07 Margaret Ogden 1L(b) * 19.95 2 maggieo253@gmail.com Maggie Ogden 2344 S Sheridan Ave Tacoma, WA 98405 ?? (2nd longest customer, 7 years(!) 12.9.2014 8.1.2014 Michelle Richards MDawn213@aol.com $19.95 1C * 315 Thomas Edison Place Hope Mills, NC 28348 ?? 10.15.2014 9.17.2014 Eb*s Taylored Tips $12.95 1/2C* wigglegiggleslol@gmail.com Erin Bolen PO BOX 4661 PARKERSBURG, WV 26104 (wow. sent 1/2C, she wanted 1/2CS, but not regular CSs... left pissed... whatever!) 10.13.2014 9.5.13 Amanda Davies $12.95 1/2L* mandigrl78@yahoo.com 5805 Lexington Dr (loss of interest) 9.22.2014 8.28.12 Katey Zukosky $11.95 S katzy100@gmail.com 5506 18th St, Zephyrhills, FL 33542 (not interested anymore) 9.22.2014 4.14.13 Allison De Hoyos $19.95 1B, 2-2'x1"* allison.dehoyos@gmail.com 2330 Seminole Blvd. W. Melbourne Fl 32904 8.1.2014 11.10.11 Ryan & Danielle Ferguson $19.95 1C * Ryan.K.Ferguson@gmail.com 3402 Stearns Rd. Valrico, FL 33596 ? 7.31.2014 2.24.14 Chris Smith $19.95 2B, 2-3'* extrabucks2013@yahoo.com 2506 church st, Alton, IL 62002 ? 7.29.2014 1.24.13 Leigh A Billingsley $19.95 1B, 8-1' * leigh.billingsley@gmail.com Leigh A Billingsley Dole Fresh Vegetables 2959 Salinas Highway Monterey, CA 93940 no funds, WBB 7.24.2014 9.18.13 Robert Wylie $12.95 1/2C angelindevilhorns@hotmail.com 4205 Sherwood Dr. Hutchinson, KS 67502 ? 6.28.2014 1.20.14 Lynne Ray $19.95 1L raeray7@msn.com 12819 Briery River Terrace Herndon, VA 20170 ?? Paypal did it! 5.9.2014 1.8.14 Ramil Ibanez $12.95 1/2C rbi90vmi@verizon.net 784 Fairfield Drive King William, VA 23086 Sun conure but she wouldn't eat the leaves. 4.27.2014 10.20.13 Levi Matthews $19.95 1C* Levi.r.matthews@gmail.com 555 NE 15th Street Apt 27C Miami, FL 33132 ?? 3.26.2014 2.18.13 Melanie Burgess $12.95 1/2L melfburgess@charter.net 2562 Dellwood Ave medford, OR 97504 happy, but gliders no longer interested 3.25.2014 3.22.11 Brian Pincus $11.95 1/2L brianpincus@gmail.com 26 Chadwick Court Trenton, NJ 08691 outta cash 3.23.2014 1.5.2014 Melissa Stone $12.95 1/2L melissastone@live.com 5051 Wrightsville Ave Wilmington, NC 28403 reduce costs 3.13.2014 12.27.13 Diana Haymond $12.95 1/2C diana@nativebearspirit.com RR 1, Box 46-B, Lost Creek, WV 26385 lost interest 3.13.2014 11.15.13 Angela Lance $12.95 1C, CS, (r), * aslance74@aol.com Angie Lance 8241 Riviera Dr. Severn, MD 21144 (was 1/2B 9.23.13), too many for now 2.25.14 8.9.13 Grace Rowland $12.95 1/2C grace.rowland.13@gmail.com 2823 Tarrytowne, Toledo, OH 43613 gliders lost interest 1.14.2014 3.18.13 1.16.13 pam sheets $11.95 S sheetspamela@yahoo.com 2500 e harmony sp296, fort collins, CO 80524 (trailer trash!) yay. 11.16.13 10.4.13 Ellen Conger $12.95 1/2C camifinley@yahoo.com 5623 Southernview Dr Zephyrhills, FL 33541 ? 11.9.13 6.1.12 Denise DeBlois $49.95 5L/CS miawillow@aol.com 8 Dexter ST. APT. 2 North Attleboro, MA 02760 ?payment failed, then cancelled 2 mo. later 10.27.13 7.1.11 Emily Jacques 11.95 S emmilely@gmail.com 150 Clubhouse Dr SW #302, Leesburg VA 20175 (2SG) 10.10.13 3.2.13 Gaye Schaul $19.95 1C moonpie1998@comcast.net 29W667 Prairie Ave Warrenville, IL 60555 9.19.13 11.14.12 Megan Gilliard $11.95 S mgjg1206@yahoo.com 1840 Darwick RD, Winston Salem, NC 27127 ?? 9.10.13 2.16.13 MAPSTAT80 $12.95 1/2L(Ban) Love@LoveCasanova.com 10307 Clarks Creek St Las Vegas, NV 89131-1555 (gliders not interested in leaves anymore) 8.10.13 6.1.13 Patricia Agar $12.95 S ag4c@yahoo.com 5000 Harbour Lake Drive Apt. A5 Goose Creek, SC 29445 (?) 7.11.13 6.4.13 Roxanne Rich $12.95 1/2B, 4-1' roxannerener@yahoo.com 5932 Westridge Drive Great Bend, KS 67530 (whoops!) 6.21.13 6.5.13 SDrury Jamison $19.95 1B, 2-2'-1" fleur.pilaster7@gmail.com Sherrie 449 Searcy Dr. Juliette, GA 31046 (gliders ignored) 6.14.13 7.6.12 Pamela Mount $11.95 S jrmount@msn.com Pamela Mount 205 Yoakum Parkway #1514, Alexandria, VA 22304 (too much, going to bi-monthly) 6.11.13 5.3.12 Christopher Kantz $19.95 1L crkantz@aol.com 732 Pawnee Street Bethlehem, PA 18015 ? 5.26.13 12.19.12 Angela Torrez $11.95 (REFUND March & April!) S angbammel@yahoo.com 46024 Dunkirk Court Macomb, MI 48044 (money is tight) 5.15.13 3.23.13 Carla Covert $19.95 1C stillrckn03@yahoo.com 582 Erie Ave. N Canal Fulton, OH 44614 5.13.13 1.21.13 9.9.12 Diane Barney $29.95 2C djbarneykin@gmail.com 12313 Holmwood Greens Pl. Riverview, FL 33579 "I like your product and will buy more... have 4 months supply in my freezer" 5.5?.13 10.12.12 Randi Santone $49.95 5C randi8924@me.com 3522 Cedar Hill Dr Fayetteville, NC 28312 5.2.13 2.12.13 Jose Mayuga 12.95 1/2B, 2-1'x1" jpmorpheus@hotmail.com 704 Crabb Ave. Rockville, MD 20850 (?) 4.21.13 3.1.12 Naomi Hughes $11.95 S kawgirlzx7r@yahoo.com 1724 Augustine Dr. Titusville, FL 32796 (no mas SGs) 4.16 8.20.12 Demetrio Aspiras $11.95 1C daspiras@gmail.com NH Public Def 20 Merrimack St Manchester, NH 03101-2206 (?) 4.8.13 11.3.11 Meg Greene $11.95 S babymamasmilk@gmail.com 7702 56th ave Ct NW, Gig harbor, WA 98335 (aka Heather Cummings) sold gliders 4.3.2013 1.26.13 M.R. 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(S, 2B's, no CS) TouchandSee@live.com 17720 S Sonoita Hwy Vail, AZ 85641-9104 2.16.13 1.18.13 Daniel Farley $19.95 1C farley01983@aol.com 1162 Hager Fork, Midkiff, WV 25540 2.11.13 10.18.12 Nancy Kocher $11.95 S nkocher@tampabay.rr.com 10572 Fishbowl Drive West Homosassa, FL 34448-3834 352-628-7875 (gliders don't want/like 'em) 2.3.13 10.14.12 Joe Maruhn $19.95 1C painizcheap@yahoo.com 716 Reservoir St Socorro, NM 87801 1.14.13 8.07.10 Ileana Kistler $11.95 S imkistler726@gmail.com 214 n tryon st, ste 2500, charlotte, NC 28202-2381 12.15.12 ,5.9.11 Jocelyn Hreno $11.95 1C, fresh and dry, CS, biz cards jhreno1@hotmail.com 1426 E Edwards Ave Indianapolis, IN 46227 12.2.12 2.11.12 Penny Brannon $11.95 1/2L (b for GPSI) binxb1@aol.com Nicole Brannon (daughter) 265 Cranz PL Akron, OH 44310-3201 11.20.12 11.09.12 kim mcdonough $11.95 1/2C (1') Shortstuff875@yahoo.com 441 natches dr raeford, NC 28376 10.30.12 10.2.12 Ben Hauser $29.95+11.95 4-2'x1" AND 1/2C hauserb@gmail.com 502 Pomano Bayou Vista, TX 77563 9.23.2012 4.13.10 Tina Riegert $11.95 S kryssidog@earthlink.net 308 Hannah Marie Munford, TN 38058 kryssidog@hotmail.com 8.23.12 11.22.11 Michelle Brantley $19.95 1L ugarph@charter.net Hart of Michelle 419 Golden Meadows Cir Suwanee, GA 30024 7.19.12 2.21.11 Sara Orsack $19.95 1L windowshoppingmaven@sio.midco.net 5809 W. 36th St. Sioux Falls, SD 57106 7.18.12 5.11.12 Mandymarleann King $11.95 1/2B mandymarleann@hotmail.com 1029 N 2nd St Decatur, IN 46733 7.18.12 5.15.12 West Coast Trading $19.95 1C tamaraklod@yahoo.com Tammy Klodzinski 12266 Country Day Cir, Fort Myers, FL 33913 7.6.12 12.5.11 Jennifer Leising $11.95 1/2L jleising@zagmail.gonzaga.edu 2232 S 78th St West Allis, WI 53219 6.7.12 4.30.12 Brandy Fruen $11.95 S thefruenfamily@aol.com 7360 Miter Street Jacksonville, FL 32219 5.30.12 11.29.11 Lori Crouse $19.95 1C crouse.loril@yahoo.com 320 Montevideo Timberville, VA 22853 5.5.12 3.9.12 Diane Fox $49.95 5B, 20-1'x2" Gliderinvasion@msn.com 104 Sunset Ave. Mount Airy, MD 21771 4.26.12 9.8.11 Patricia Andrus $11.95, 1/2B, 2' pandrus2006@yahoo.com 19115 Knoll Dale Court Cypress, TX 77429 4.2.12 1.25.10 Tanya Barton S $11.95 1 tanyagin@aol.com 175 Burner Lane Berryville, VA 22611 3.22.12 12.13.10 Melissa Cowles $11.95 S ssdreamsicles4@aol.com 6537 Old Greenhill Rd Bowling Green, KY 42103?? 3.18.11 Jared Dahlgren $11.95 SS boomoogoohoo@gmail.com 2318 San Marcos Drive Colorado Springs, CO 80910 11.14.11 9.7.11 Mischelle Sanchez $39.95 3C galerita2@gmail.com 14819 East Palomino Lane Spokane, WA 99206 ?? 12.12.10 Carol Mombourquette $11.95 1/2L rmombo@comcast.net 58 Everard St #3 Revere, MA 02151 11.7.11 9.26.11 Tatiana Foster $19.95 1C tatianafoster@live.com 346 Roosevelt Ave Satellite Beach, FL 32937 11.?.11 3.16.10 Steve Bugge / Rachel 2C 29.95 4 steve@stevebugge.com 1702 Rainier Ave. Everett, WA 98201 10.24.11 6.01.11 Arie Hawkins 1B, 2x2' 19.95 ahawk2@umbc.edu 2561 Radcliffe Ave Abington, PA 19001 8.30.11 2.27.11 Lyn Westfall $11.95 S lasw4812@yahoo.com 2221 Blue Ridge Blvd Independence, MO 64052 8.26.11 8.22.08(!) Jeanette Freerksen Starter 11.95 1 charmedone@wi.rr.com 31722 North Circle Dr, Burlington, WI 53105-9767 8.25.11 9.30.08 Nancy Ford 1/2B (8x+) 11.95 1 n_c_ford@yahoo.com 6802 Papaya Ct Louisville, KY 40219 8.24.11 7.16.11 Lindsay Setford silvercopse@aol.com 253 nelson ave, upstairs, saratoga springs, NY 12866 8.19.11 10.7.10 Jodi Iker $11.95 1/2L 11.95 jewelcreekjo@yahoo.com Gary Coates, 12190 David Allen Dr Medway, OH 45341 (c) 937-270-8323 7.21.11 2.14.11 Jennifer Leising $11.95 S jleising@zagmail.gonzaga.edu 2695 Perryville Rd, Canastota NY 13037 should be back... 7.6.11 6.14.11 Jennie D Howe 2C 29.95 naturally01@hotmail.com 2410 Lakeshore Drive Kansasville, WI 53139 5.20.11 1.6.11 Janine Carroll $11.95 S ldyfeliciakiten@aol.com 114 West Cedar st. Vermillion, SD 57069 (undeliverable) 5.18.11 1.7.11 Bonnie Baath $19.95 1L round bbaath@aol.com 3 Ocean View Lane, Rockport, ME 04856 3.23.11 1.22.11 Glen Carter $49.95 5C(stems and leaves!) rarebird825@msn.com 847 N Ulmer Street Greenwood, AR 72936-3009 3.22.11 1.14.11 Nicole Perkins $11.95 S Njperkins@comcast.net 600 Meridian ST EXT Apt 1316 Groton, CT 06340 3.18.11 2.27.11 Sarah Brahm $11.95 S sarahbrahm@hotmail.com 521 Fernando Drive De Pere, WI 54115 12.14.10 9.06.07 Kathy Busby 1C 20.00 2 round leaves only k.busby@tx.rr.com 4308 Woodbluff Drive, Mesquite, TX 75150 11.12.10 10.23.09 John Jackson, Jr. 1/2 L 11.95 4 J1975John@aol.com 2650 Tom St. Sturgis, MS 39769 9.16.10 4.10.10 Renata Almeida $11.95 S na renata1976@gmail.com 804 Mount Vernon St. Orlando, FL 32803 8.4.10 6.27.10 Chris Keenon Starter 11.95 2 CJKeenon@comcast.net Chris Keenon 6317 Colton Ridge Ct. Plainfield, IL 60586 07.25.70 2.3.10 Denise Keast-Gainey 1L 19.95 1 dennil56@yahoo.com 1167 Biscayne Dr Cape Coral, FL 33909-5103 06.05.10 5.9.10 Michele Rebelo $11.95 S pinupsmurf@yahoo.com 661 Promenade Pl 212, Columbia, SC 29229 05.29.10 4.6.10 Ian Garrett $19.95 1B? 1 04.13.10 Wendy Cimino 3lb./wk, bananas, $50 WENDY.CIMINO@CZS.org Brookfield Zoo, 3300 Gold Road, Brookfield, IL 60513 (Fall?) 03.22.10 12.21.09 Patricia Molina 1C $19.95 3 molinayvedia@msn.com 511 N Cuernavaca Dr #B, Austin TX 78733 1 parrot 03.22.10 2.15.10 Robert & Shari Skaggs S 11.95 3 rowiska3@aol.com 1432 Snook Ct Fort Collins, CO 80526 02.25.10 7.17.09 Laurie Ramos S 11.95 4 ramoslaurie@yahoo.com 305 W Oltorf St, Austin, TX 78704 11.24.09 8.18.08 Chris Keenon Starter 11.95 2 CJKeenon@comcast.net Chris Keenon 6317 Colton Ridge Ct. Plainfield, IL 60586 11.22.09 9.19.08 Angela Baxter 1/2L, larger b's 11.95 1 allinhim6@yahoo.com 6742 Pine Springs Wesley Chapel, FL 33545 10.02.09 5.27.08 Christine Baggette 1C 19.95 1 136 Grande Club Drive, Maylene, AL 35114 8.27.09 4.9.09 Dennis Smith S 11.95 2 tullah@ktis.net 8564 Kickapoo Steedman, MO 65077-1020 (bird died) ?.?.08 Lucy Towbin 2Dried 28.00 ? Dried! phoenixforaging@gmail.com 7305 Apache Road Little Rock, AR 72205 11.26.08 Ian Garrett 1B 19.95 1 homosapiensoregonus@gmail.com 2031 SW 10th Ave Apt 29, Portland, OR 97201 6.1.09 ?.?.08 Tammy Wilson 2C 33.00 St. Johns Housing Partnership, P.O. 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Email: jaxsuggies@bellsouth.net Paula ,1.11.08 Laura Long 5C! 52 ? seeds, some dry ,2.?.08 Sam S 1C ?? 4 ,7.3.07 Donna Maston 1C 27.95 3 ,10.5.07 Irene Martinez 1C 27.95 1 (and 1 more 9.23.08) 9081 Prosperity Lake Drive Jacksonville, FL 32244 4.17.08 Shelyn Garcia 1C 19.95 3 - (leaves) Thank you for your order and Welcome to the elite group of fresh Eucalyptus subscribers! Your first shipment of leaves should go out on Monday, along with some tips on how to best care for and store them. Just curious, if the leaves are for pets, what kind of pet(s) do you have, and how many? There are 2 types of Euc leaves... the wider, gray, less mature, oval leaves, and the more mature, long, green, banana-shaped leaves... you can request one, but I usually send some of each. We can also collect dried leaves, leaves that have fallen and aged, if you'd like. You may add chew sticks, branches, seeds, nuts or bark -- a pound is a pound of whatever part(s) of the Eucalyptus you want! And you can change your request at any time. HINTS: a. Keep leaves in the freezer for longevity b. To release more aroma, cut/tear/rip one or two of the oval leaves Let me know how I can make your experience with Eucalyptus as fulfilling as possible. Thanks again for subscribing! - Matt Perelstein www.EucProducts.com www.Facebook.com/EucProducts www.MattPerelstein.com 916-599-8597 - (combo) Hi ! Thank you for your order and Welcome to the elite group of fresh Eucalyptus subscribers! Your first combo shipment should go out on Monday, along with instructions on how to care for and present the Eucs to your little friend(s). You ordered a half-pound combo, which usually includes fresh leaves, both the grayer, rounder, younger leaves and the long, green, mature, banana-shaped leaves, and some foot-long branches with leaves on. Does that sound like the right mixture? Please know that, as a subscriber, you are free to customize your order whenever you wish... you can ask for more/less leaves, pre-dried leaves (for you!), longer/thicker branches, more/less chew sticks, branches with leaves on/off, seeds, seed pods/buttons, or even bark. Just curious, if the eucs are for pets, what kind of pet(s) do you have, and how many? Let me know if I can customize your order and make your experience with Eucalyptus as fulfilling as possible. Thanks again for subscribing... I'll do my best for you! - Matt 916-599-8597 (c), California time (PST) www.EucProducts.com www.Facebook.com/EucProducts www.MattPerelstein.com - (branches) Thank you very much for your subscription order and WELCOME to the elite group of fresh Eucalyptus subscribers! Your first shipment of fresh Euc Branches should go out on Tuesday (Monday's a holiday) with some tips/instructions on how to use and care for your Eucs. Glider folks usually prefer their branches to have leaves on them, while some bird folks would rather have clean, straight perches... which do you prefer? Our 'regular' 1/2 lb. branch order is around 4 1-footers, about 1/2" thick, with leaves attached. If you'd like something different than that, please let me know. Please know that you may also modify your future shipments to get loose leaves, longer or thicker branches, chew sticks, seeds, nuts, or bark, or any combination thereof. My intention it to help make your experience with Eucalyptus as fulfilling as possible. Thanks again for subscribing... I'll do my best for you! - Matt 916-599-8597 (c), California time (PST) www.EucProducts.com www.Facebook.com/EucProducts www.MattPerelstein.com - (chew sticks) Thank you for your order and Welcome to the elite group of fresh Eucalyptus subscribers! Your first shipment of fresh Euc Chew Sticks should go out in the next few days, along with instructions on how to care for and present the Eucs to your little friend(s). In the future, you may modify your order to get longer or thicker branches, chew sticks, leaves, seeds, nuts, or bark. FYI: "Chew sticks" are usually short (4-6"), thin, straight sticks, without leaves... is that what you expected? If not, I can also do "branches", which are thicker, longer, and have leaves attached. Again, I can customize your order and make your experience with Eucalyptus as fulfilling as possible. Thanks again for subscribing... I'll do my best for you! - Matt 916-599-8597 (c), California time (PST) www.EucProducts.com www.Facebook.com/EucProducts www.MattPerelstein.com - (cancel sub, unsubscribe, long time) Oh no, Patricia... so sorry to see you go! I hope all is well for you and your pet friends. Is there anything I can do to keep your business? Please let me know if it was something I did, or didn't do, that caused you to leave. Take care, best wishes and thank you for being a loyal Euc subscriber. - Matt www.EucProducts.com www.Facebook.com/EucProducts - (cancel sub, short time) Sorry to see you go, Michelle! It didn't work out, ey? Is it something I did, or didn't do, that's causing you to leave? If so, please let me know... Either way, thank you for your orders. I wish you and your pets the very best! Take care. - Matt www.EucProducts.com www.Facebook.com/EucProducts -- ND Brochure from the feedback I'm getting on the brochure, I feel like people are trying to tell me, as they told Howard Rourk, to conform and be nice. I have gone overboard in the past in being conversational (ie-immature), but I my writing now is more mature and more professional, while still including myself in the text/content. Write ND from my perspective, 80% them, 20% me. Write what I know, then back it up with, how I know it, personally. Say it clearly, and forthright, and with Attitude. 30 second elevator speech -- ND Brochure This is not the place they get to come each week to whine about how they feel - this is where they come to examine what is working in the present, what is not, and to go through the process of changing the "is not" part of that by taking action. - Penny R. Tupy, Life Coach Feelings expressed for the following reasons are fine: Clarity Release Acceptance Remove Judgments Go for deeper feelings (ex: express anger to get to the hurt underneath) not Ok: whining blaming (short-term is fine, in an effort to find your part in it all) one-up-manship / competition poor me (if you want people to feel sorry for you, you're not looking for results) victim (to explain how there really is NOthing you can do about it... and it's all their fault, anyhow) -- ND Bridges to Baccalaureate Principal Investigator Dr. Aaron Tabor, took exams on Creative Problem Solving through Health Occupation Students of America (HOSA). “Four of the students qualified to go to the state level,” Tabor said, adding that all of the students are equally intelligent and deserving of accolades. The team placed ninth overall. The four students, all 10th graders, are Cate Cole and Ethan Perelstein from Flagstaff Arts and Leadership Academy; and Kaleb Herrelko and Jacqueline Slack from Coconino High School. According to information from HOSA, its mission is to “promote career opportunities in the health care industry and to enhance the deliver of quality health care to all people.” The focus is on health science education and biomedical science programs to promote interest in pursuing careers in the health professions. To prepare for the exams, Slack said that the team began by reading books on creative problem solving and by researching various health-related problems in the community. Cole added that the team tested one another with problems as well as timing the testing for solutions. During testing, the team had 30 minutes to prepare and had 8 minutes to present their case in front of a panel to judge. They made the grade, and now they’re heading to Tucson for the statewide competition. “I personally am excited to meet other students like us, who are science minded,” Perelstein said. Herrelko added, “That could be fun.” Slack said, “I’m very excited to compete.” Cole said, “I’m really excited to see what we can come up with – real-world problems that affect millions across the globe.” The team members are part of the iCREATE High School Bioscience program. The class offers six credit hours from CCC to apply to a college degree. The students meet five days a week at the Center for Teaching and Learning at Northern Arizona University for lectures and labs. The program is offered through the Coconino Association for Vocations, Industry and Technology. “I love coming here and getting a taste of what college and medical school will offer,” Cole said. Perelstein said, “For me, this class is challenging, it’s engaging, and that’s what I really love.” Herrelko said, “I like the challenge and it requires more persistence.” Slack said, “I’m excited that every day after school, I get to be around science-oriented, like-minded people.” For Tabor, he said he thoroughly enjoys being the instructor for the class. “Frankly, it’s the students,” he said. “I never in a thousand years anticipated teaching K-12 students at all, but this group of students is one of the best I’ve ever encountered.” Tabor added that his job is to educate the students on the translational sciences and the epidemiology field, but he also is to assist them with their professional growth – creating curriculum vitaes, attending conferences, performing public speaking, seeking publication, and more. As for the state competition in April, Tabor said the students can go to the national level in the event if they are rank high enough for it. So, the journey may not be over for one or several of them after the state competition. And as for the future, all four team members have plans. Cole’s goal is to become a physician, an obstetrician. Perelstein is interested in mechanical engineering, particularly “biomimicry,” or solving problems through evolutionary processes. Herrelko is still exploring, but he knows he wants to be an engineer of some sort. Slack is dedicated to becoming a neurosurgeon. “We challenge one another and work to put our best foot forward as a team,” Perelstein said. The iCREATE HS Bioscience program is funded by a grant from the National Science Foundation. Community partners include CCC, CAVIAT, NAU, TGen North, North Country HealthCare, Coconino County Public Health Services District, and Flagstaff STEM City. -- ND Brain Talent Profile and Interpetation plus a group dashboard for the class, and the book Cognitive Yoga. To register online, you must first log in to the database. Use 'Log On' 'New User' to set up your name and password. If you have attended a continuing ed class at AUNE before, your email address will tell you if you have a login established and you can easily reset your password. Antioch students and alumni--please do not assume this system will know you. It is separate from the Registrar's Office. Once you are logged on, use the 'Enroll Yourself' button below. Dates: April 29 - May 6, 2017 Meets: 9:00 AM to 3:00 PM Hours: 10.00 Location: AUNE Dance Studio Instructor: Lee Guerette Fee: Registration Fee: $300.00 AU Student or Alum: $275.00 Group Rate: $275.00 The course will include a self assessment for teachers and how their brain likes to percieve and process information. Our discourse will include how brain style affects collaboration on teams. Register for Learning from Insight OUT Lee Guerette is an educational leader and advocate of Social Emotional Learning who offers adults validated psychometric assessments on their Emotional Competencies as a certified 6seconds coach. The resulting profile helps people recognize and leverage their strengths to set goals and establish a healthy lifestyle. She also provides practices that clarify values, develop executive function skills and increases social competencies. Prior to founding Cognitive Yoga, Lee spent 25 years as a classroom teacher, reading and learning disabilities specialist and 30 years as a member of the Advaita Meditation Center. Lee offers a broad range of programs and services from personal coaching to workshops, college level classes and on site introductions to mindfulness for students -- ND Bruises (which, in my opinion, matters more... we can get over and thru ANY cuts and bruises if we have emotional strength, resilience and fortitude... three of the top subjects we learn with EQ!) EQ is about acknowledging, accepting, understanding Which leads to Managing, controlling, directing, empowering, enlivening ourselves and our feelings and emotions. Which leads to us being stand-up people, with emotional AND personal responisibility. EQ --> ER --> PR --> SR --> SR2 --> WorldPeace! "It could happen!" - little orphan boy in Disney's "Angels in the Outfield"... >> Angels in the Outfield >> "Michael!" best attitude -- ND Breaking when bent. I feed the leaves to my stick insects so its really important that they hold up in water. I actually just finished my last shipment of oval shaped leaves that i received from you at the end of January. This time I decided to ordered the banana shaped leaves (my adult stick insects like both types) do they usually dry out so fast? Thanks -Rob Sent from AOL Mobile Mail -- ND Breathes this stuff (and writes it all down)! On nights and weekends for over 30 years, he's an EQ dude, having lead hundreds of intensive, therapeutic, weekend emotional breakthrough trainings in California and Washington. He also owns or runs 7 social media sites on Facebook and LinkedIn, with over 150,000 approved members. But, by day, he's a Database Dude -- using his EQ as best he can in the IQ world of high-technology. He's the Project Manager for a multi-million dollar software product, for a Fortune 500 medical healthcare conglomerate... and he swears he was promoted BECAUSE of his EQ! :) - dinner -- ND Branches that thick, but I will, for you. Ok? - Matt -- ND Breath, while someone is expressing themselves to me, it gives them the sense of being heard that they crave. In addition, not moving to explain, defend or fix, whatever issue they are raising is powerful. Next simply acknowledging that you heard them, coupled with something called mirroring, can be very healing. Mirroring is the practice of waiting till the person completes what they have to say to you, and then saying back to them, "this is what I heard... repeating the key points.... then checking in with did I get it all?" is powerful. this man has some amazing things to offer men inthe relationship frame: kenblackman.com Welcome - Ken Blackman “My goal is not to diminish the raw intensity of intimate relating. My goal is for you both to become adept in the… KENBLACKMAN.COM http://kenblackman.com/ -- ND Brochure Probably the height of the class experience, the HUGEst change in our lives comes from 1 sentence. 1 proclamation. 1 life-changing statement I am through being the victim, and finished blaming others! We call it the Statement of Direction and each student gets a turn to MAKE this proclamation at your 100% (whatever that is for you, at that point in your life) (we all do it... but one at a time... and the way YOU do it, is the way YOU do it... maybe not the way I do it, or others... and that's ok... and that BEING OK, with the entire group, is soooo incredibly validating, too!) you being you, at your 100%: - Breaks through your pre-conceived limitations, walls, prison cell you've put yourself in... - opens your closed heart - expands your stressed mind x josh, are you really going to work with me. or are you putting Jenny in between us, to cushion us you know I was talking to YOU in that last note. you got it. you didn't reply to it... again. I believe you are afraid of me. I believe you don't like me very much. I believe I will rock your world, emotion-wise, because I'm willing, and able, to go where you have never been. childhood pain. can you "go" to your own core pain? if not, that means you: a) don't know yourself, completely. there are entire parts of you that you have never met b) you are afraid of you. If you cannot/will not 'go there', you don't know if you can 'handle it'. once we DO go there, we are NO LONGER AFRAID of ANY of our feelings. knowing, without a shadow, that we can face our own fears, angers, sadness, grief, depression, guilt and shame, all of it! -- ND Brighter, become the shining star that you are. For daily inspiration and advice, join my Facebook page: Pinky and Her Brain - Life Lessons. Wishing you love and light, Pinky Jangra © 2016 Pinky and Her Brain. All rights reserved. -- ND Bro for 5 days) --> Sacramento (overnight) --> Fresno --> home (4/4)... and 4/5 we're having our big Family Dinner here, as it's my birthday! -- ND Brews new account Welcome back Matt! / LOGOUT https://royalty.redrobin.com/dashboard Phone (in-restaurant account lookup): 916-599-8597 Account: 30385-7610-42594 -- ND Brochure are your feelings your bestest friend, or your worstest enemy. do your feelings hurt your other feelings? - Mcp Quote 05:15 does your Fear, come out as WE CAN BE OUR OWN WORST ENEMY! for real. we can even KILL ourselves. We REALLY CAN be our own Worst Enemy! that's a bad thing. that's an important thing. that's a critical, life-changing, life-saving , $100 each for the P's dad, you want to pitch in get cash for, at least, the boys no, All 4x! card and $100 to each write it out. Finn Eman Scott Merk , Meet Merk at 2 give her the cards -- ND Brochure) We introduce folks to their right-brain, and all the Passion, Joy and Color that resides there! we take folks back to their childhood, send the course outline maybe that's the best brochure We have you: 1. Meet your feelings 2. Make friends with your feelings 3. Feel, and Release, your deepest, darkest feelings 4. Change the yucky, negative feelings into lighter, more pleasant, more uplifting feelings. 5. Show you that YOU have control of your own feelings, thoughts and emotions... which means that YOU have control of your own life! It's all Very good news! The fact that we have WAAAY more control, emotionally, than we thought we did... and that we have way, Way, WAY more Choices, emotionally, than we thought we did... that we can make ourselves think and feel SOOO much better, more positively, more empowering, more loving, more Joyous feelings, that we ever thought possible... to me, that's pretty good news! so, I thot I'd share. -- ND Bring people closer . East or West people will be people . Unlike · Reply · 2 · Yesterday at 2:39am Dattatreya Yellapantula Dattatreya Yellapantula How many around you in your families and extended families are able to take your negative feelings! Krishna Kumari A Govindaraj Unlike · Reply · 2 · 18 hrs Ritu Chaudhry Ritu Chaudhry None Unlike · Reply · 2 · 18 hrs Matt Perelstein Write a reply... Choose File Matt Perelstein Matt Perelstein Hi Dattatreya, as long as I express my feelings, even my negative ones, as MY feelings, and nothing else, my family (whom I'm visiting right now... I'm sitting at my mom's desk, writing EQ, at 5am) can 'take' my negative feelings, just fine. I trained them to. They know I'm super-sensitive (and they seem to kinda like me, anyway... who knew? :) ), but I'm aware of that, and super-responsible for that. If we can speak from "I feel...", there really is no argument. And "I'm afraid that...", and "I'm scared about...", and "I'm sad that...", and even "I'm angry about...", can be heard, acknowledged, and accepted by those around me. Plus, my cancer journey showed me that they can lead to empathy and compassion, for me. I found that if I want people to like hanging around with me, AND I get my needs met at the same time, I need to communicate in a way that is totally real and genuine... I need to "teach" people around me how to be with me ... and I need to Ask for what I want, clearly, powerfully and responsibly. that's on me, and has little to do with 'them'. How is your fam, you guys? are you brave enough to be real around them? -- ND Bruises and the need to do a restart. But, very seldom are they terminal. The other part is that fear has never stopped anyone from doing something they really wanted to do. If it is important enough, no matter how scared you are, you will do it. If you find yourself not doing something you said you wanted to do. . . . IT IS BECAUSE YOU DID NOT WANT TO DO IT! To be able to do this requires you believe that it is okay to be human and that you are acceptable and lovable with your imperfections. As a result, I have come to the conclusion that being defensive is a waste of time. If I am wrong, I need to change. So, there is no reason to be defensive. However, if I am right, right is its own defense. When I am being defensive, it raises doubts in myself as to my innocence. Otherwise, why would I have to defend myself? The more I defend myself, the more I raise the suspicion in you that may be I am wrong. Defensiveness is based upon beliefs that the opposite of love is hate or anger. “Only if I am perfect, will I be lovable, be acceptable. Only then, will you think well of me. Only by being perfect, can I escape being rejected or abandoned. Therefore, I must defend myself to prove I am right so you will accept me and not be angry. Because, I equate your anger at me to your rejection of me.” When I defend myself, you don’t feel listened to, which causes more fighting and we both feel less loved. As a result, I try harder to be perfect and prove that I was not wrong by defending myself even more. The need to be right in order to be lovable and not be rejected is based on beliefs that are not true. The opposite of love is indifference, not hate. It’s not caring enough to get angry. I become most angry with the people I love the most. It is not easy to give up my need to be perfect, but once I do, then I can give up the need to defend myself. If, however, I sometimes slip back into my old beliefs and find myself being defensive, that’s OK too. I do not have to be perfect . . . even at giving up old beliefs. “Good judgment comes from experience; And experience, well, that comes from bad judgment.” ~ Anonymous ~ Myron Doc Downing PhD Specializing in workshops in Relationships, Depression, Anger Management & Anxiety DocDowning 103 @gmail.com Georgetown, TX -- ND Bread still. Might make spinach dip if sounds good to everyone?? Love are family ?????? 8:31PM Tracy I doing ham and green bean cassarole. Cheesy potatoes too. Mom said she is doing baked beans. Sounds good guys... I/we love spinach dip... looking forward to it! ?? on a super-sad note, I heard from Anthony Cecere today and it seems that Jennifer has been in jail for a week now, awaiting arraignment, before she goes to prison. She is being charged with 3 felonies, including Vehicular Manslaughter with Intoxication... she's looking at 10 years. I had been in contact with her via Facebook, but no more. She can only get written letters. I wish I woulda known she was going... there's more I woulda said to her. Chat Conversation End Seen by Briana, Sean, 2 more -- ND Brain Sciences in Leipzig, Germany Board Member and Fellow, The Mind & Life Institute Advisory Board Member, Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute View Davidson's full CV and list of scientific publications. Submit a speaking request or media interview with Richard Davidson. - added to EQSchools.xlsx -- ND Brain Mapping: Using Neural Measures to Predict Real-World Outcomes. Berkman ET, Falk EB. Curr Dir Psychol Sci. 2013 Feb;22(1):45-50. PMID: 24478540. NIH News in Health, August 2015 search search button FEATURES Positive Emotions and Your Health All About ALS Wise Choices Links Enhance Your Emotional Wellness To develop a more positive mindset: Remember your good deeds. Give yourself credit for the good things you do for others each day. Forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. Learn from what went wrong, but don’t dwell on it. Spend more time with your friends. Surround yourself with positive, healthy people. Explore your beliefs about the meaning and purpose of life. Think about how to guide your life by the principles that are important to you. Develop healthy physical habits. Healthy eating, physical activity, and regular sleep can improve your physical and mental health. Adapted from U.S. Health Resources and Services Administration. CONTACT US NIH Office of Communications and Public Liaison Building 31, Room 5B52 Bethesda, MD 20892-2094 nihnewsinhealth@od.nih.gov Tel: 301-451-8224 Editor: Harrison Wein, Ph.D. Managing Editor: Vicki Contie Contributors: Vicki Contie, Alan Defibaugh (illustrations), Christen Sandoval, Carol Torgan, Samantha Watters, and Harrison Wein Attention Editors: Reprint our articles and illustrations in your own publication. Our material is not copyrighted. Please acknowledge NIH News in Health as the source and send us a copy. -- ND Broader efforts to commission, curate, and distribute resources, CASEL is poised to serve as the know-how lab for the SEL field. Our work combines the Know of research with the How of practical application, along with advancing policies that create the conditions for SEL to flourish. We will continue collaborating with educators, scholars, and others to share this know-how with those who can put it to immediate use. The CDI has been a pivotal step in the evolution and maturation in the field of SEL. We are profoundly thankful for the generosity of NoVo Foundation and several other funders and for the vision and commitment of our district partners. They are helping to transform how student success is defined in American education. Through our work and the work of many people in the field, we are making a difference. Our goal: by 2025, 50% of districts are systemically integrating high-quality SEL across their schools and classrooms. It’s time. 1 Contents Preface . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . page 1 CHAPTER 1 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . PAGE 2 Collaborating Districts Initiative: A LEARNING LAB CHAPTER 2 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . PAGE 6 Key Insights CHAPTER 3 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . PAGE 20 Impact on Students and Schools CHAPTER 4 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . PAGE 24 Scaling SEL Know-How Preface Karen Niemi President and CEO Roger P. Weissberg, PhD Chief Knowledge Officer Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning (CASEL). (2017) Key Insights from the Collaborating Districts Initiative. Chicago: Author. 2 3 Collaborating Districts Initiative: A Learning Lab 6 YEARS… 10 DISTRICTS… 900,000 STUDENTS Six years ago CASEL took the unprecedented step of launching an effort to study and scale high-quality, evidence-based academic, social, and emotional learning in eight of the largest and most complex school systems in the country: Anchorage, Austin, Chicago, Cleveland, Nashville, Oakland, Sacramento, and Washoe County, Nev. With the recent addition of Atlanta and El Paso, the Collaborating Districts Initiative (CDI) now includes 10 districts, enrolling 900,000 students a year. It is one of the most comprehensive and ambitious school district improvement initiatives ever. Educators around the world rely on CASEL resources to support their knowledge and understanding of SEL, which in turn affects millions of additional students. And with the spring 2017 launch of the online District Resource Center, the knowledge gleaned from the CDI will benefit millions more. The goal of the CDI was to create a comprehensive shift in how superintendents and entire school districts approach education. We knew we had to help redefine quality education (beyond test scores alone), and to prioritize the practices in classrooms, schools, and communities for promoting the social and emotional development of children. As a result, the CDI is focused on systemic SEL implementation— SEL across all district, school, and classroom activities, increasingly in partnership with parents and communities. SEL as a once-a-week program is not enough to establish sustainable teaching and learning environments where students truly thrive. SEL is sustained and students thrive when it is promoted and reinforced throughout the school day, modeled and taught by teachers, families, and community members – and supported by district policies, practices, and investments. CHAPTER 1 Study Anchorage AUSTIN CLEVELAND 3 DISTRICTS 171K STUDENTS 2011 Study Anchorage ATLANTA AUSTIN CHICAGO CLEVELAND EL PASO NASHVILLE OAKLAND SACRAMENTO WASHOE COUNTY 10 DISTRICTS 900K STUDENTS TODAY SEL helps all students reach their full potential as caring, contributing, responsible, and knowledgeable friends, family members, coworkers, and citizens. It helps them build positive skills, such as greater self-awareness and self-management, improved relationship skills, and responsible decision-making in safe and supportive learning environments. These skills and behaviors are important in their own right, but they also benefit students in other ways. For example, a major review of research studies on SEL school programs revealed 11 percentile-point gains in academic performance. 1 Benefits extend beyond students to the broader society as well. Another study demonstrated statistically significant associations between social-emotional skills in kindergarten and key young adult outcomes in education, employment, criminal activity, substance use, and mental health. 2 Overall, quality SEL yields an 11:1 return on investment, according to a 2015 Columbia University study. 3 Scholars from the fields of neuroscience, health, employment, psychology, classroom management, learning theory, economics, and youth development also have identified benefits. SEL also helps avoid or reduce negative outcomes for kids. For example, more than 40% of teens are “chronically disengaged.” 4 In the past year, one in 13 students has been in at least one fight, one in six has carried a weapon, and one in 10 has had sex with more than four people. 5 Teen depression has increased five-fold since the 1950s. 6 Half of college students report feeling “overwhelmed.” 7 SEL helps students overcome challenges such as these and gives students the opportunity to succeed in school and in life. 4 5 1 Child Development, January/February 2011 2 Robert Wood Johnson Foundation/American Journal of Public Health 3 Center for Benefit-Cost Studies in Education, Teachers College, Columbia University 4 University of Michigan, Personality and Social Psychology Review 5 Centers for Disease Control and Prevention 6 Birth Cohort Differences in Self-Esteem, 1988–2008: A cross-temporal 7 Centers for Disease Control and Prevention Child Development, January/February 2011 Why SEL is NeededRaises Stu dent Performance •Higher academic achievement •Better socialemotional skills •Improved attitudes about self, others, and school •Positive classroom behavior R e duces Ri s k for F a ilure •Fewer conduct problems •Less emotional distress SEL’s Benef its A 2011 meta-analys is foun d t hat SEL … 7 To learn more, visit CASEL’s District Resource Center drc.casel.org 6 Key Insights Insight 1 Systemic SEL is possible. Implementation WORKS even with leadership changes and relatively small budgets. The CDI began with strong leadership from the top. Superintendents and their districts committed to an ambitious agenda of change: systemic implementation of SEL across all district, school, and classroom activities and in partnership with parents and communities. This was not SEL as a once-a-week program but instead a paradigm shift where district leaders committed to: • Cultivate commitment and organizational support for SEL. • Assess SEL resources and needs. • Support classroom, school, and community SEL programming. • Establish systems for continuous improvement. Significantly, unlike many major district efforts, districts received minimal financial incentives to undertake these sweeping reforms. Each of the first eight districts received annual grants of $250,000 for up to six years. That represents less than 0.04% of the average CDI district’s annual budget for all expenses (excluding Chicago’s budget, which is larger than the other seven CDI district budgets combined). The districts supplemented NoVo Foundation grants with their own investments. None of the districts has the same superintendent as when the CDI began. Indeed, Chicago Public Schools has had four superintendents since 2010, yet SEL is still growing throughout the district, supported by 25 dedicated staff in the Office of Social and Emotional Learning. Despite this turnover, after five years of independently evaluating the CDI, the American Institutes for Research (AIR) concluded: “Our findings suggest that districts participating in the CDI have sustained, deepened, and broadened their commitment to SEL and developed capacities to support its implementation. Participation in the CDI and in district-initiated activities has enhanced the readiness of the districts and their schools to implement and sustain SEL. More staff and stakeholders know about it and want it, and SEL has been embedded as a pillar in strategic plans. Furthermore, districts are increasingly aligning SEL with other districtwide activities.” Districts were able to withstand leadership turnover and budget cuts, especially when they had broad stakeholder commitment to SEL, when they focused on deepening the SEL expertise of central office staff, effectively integrated SEL across district departments and initiatives, and began to see evidence of improvements in climate and attendance, and reductions in suspensions. Since 2011 we have been working with our partner districts in an intensive ongoing cycle of implementation, refinement, evaluation, and documentation to deepen our understanding of how to embed SEL into their work. We are working closely with superintendents, district SEL leaders, research and evaluation teams, principals, teachers, parents, and community members to support and promote systemic SEL. We are providing hands-on, practical consulting and support. And we are connecting districts virtually and in-person with each other, in small peer-to-peer learning groups, and in large cross-district meetings, so that they can learn and benefit from each other’s experiences. We promised no quick fixes, but rather sustained commitment, access to the smartest leaders, high-quality research, and a passion for evidence and results. Our initial research questions asked what does systemic SEL mean? What does it look like in practice, and how is it achieved? This chapter highlights seven key insights drawn from our experience. 1. Systemic SEL is possible even with leadership changes and relatively small budgets. 2. SEL ideally is integrated into every aspect of the district’s work, from the strategic plan and budgets to human resources and operations. 3. SEL ideally is integrated into every aspect of the school, from classroom instruction to school climate and culture to communityfamily partnerships. 4. Successful implementation can follow multiple pathways, based on each district’s unique needs and strengths. Regardless of the approach, the engagement and commitment of both school and district leadership is essential. 5. Adult SEL matters, too. 6. Data for continuous improvement are essential. 7. Districts benefit from collaborating with each other. “The CDI demonstrates that it is possible for large urban school districts to adopt and maintain SEL as an essential element of education, even amid budgetary stress and leadership turnover.” American Institutes for Research CHAPTER 2 SEL Grants REPRESENTED ONLY ABOUT 0.04% OF EACH DISTRICT’S BUDGET VISION Develop a district wide vision and long term plan 9 To learn more, visit CASEL’s District Resource Center drc.casel.org INTEGRATION Integrate SEL with district initiatives For example, Oakland Unified School District’s commitment to social and emotional learning is evident across the system—including the district’s vision and strategic plan, SEL board policy, SEL standards, classroom curricula, restorative justice practices, and professional learning. The district’s new performance frameworks for teachers, principals, schools, and the superintendent are all based on the district’s SEL standards, as is professional learning for all principals and assistant principals. Oakland is also beginning to use SEL school-quality indicators to help schools align and prioritize resources and goals for student success. In Chicago SEL is integrated into the district’s overall strategic plan. The district also has established a districtwide code of conduct and climate standards. A progressive discipline policy limits the use of exclusionary discipline practices and encourages all schools to respond to misbehavior using supportive, restorative discipline practices to promote social and emotional development. SEL is part of professional development for core academic content in areas such as math and literacy. SEL is integrated into the district’s Multi-Tiered Systems of Support (MTSS), which provides differentiated support for students. Anchorage School District has embedded SEL instructional strategies into leadership meetings, professional development sessions, and curriculum. It is creating a MTSS approach that integrates SEL curriculum and strategies with Positive Behavioral Interventions and Supports (PBIS). A district SEL leadership team of 30 leaders from the classroom to the superintendent guides this work. In Sacramento City Unified School District, over 50 schools have adopted evidence-based curriculum and are explicitly teaching SEL lessons across all grade levels. Leadership teams from all K-12 schools were trained on SEL core competencies, restorative practices, and equity. Equity coaches regularly work with schools to support their SEL/Equity leadership teams, facilitate professional growth opportunities for staff, model lessons, and support individual teachers. In year five an interdepartmental professional learning community was created to develop expertise and deepen collaboration among central office staff. To complement the in-district work, CASEL is partnering with The Wallace Foundation to help districts align their SEL work with out-of-schooltime efforts. 8 Insight 2 SEL is ideally integrated throughout the district. When implemented well, SEL is embedded into every aspect of the district’s work, from the strategic plan and budgets to human resources and operations. Systemic SEL is not a siloed approach or standalone program, but a new way of doing business. At the district level, we have worked closely with superintendents, district SEL leaders, school boards, curriculum and instruction departments, research and evaluation teams, and others in multiple ways to help districts adopt systemic strategies that embed SEL into every aspect of school life. Districts are building SEL into their strategic plans and budgets. They are reorganizing leadership structures so that SEL is not a separate priority but is integrated into core functions such as academics, professional development, and equity. They are integrating SEL into the development and implementation of districtwide policies on hiring and discipline. They are systematically collecting and analyzing data for continuous improvement (more in Insight 6). And they are regularly communicating with and engaging multiple stakeholders. “For us, it’s not about one more thing we have to budget for. SEL is in the blood of what we do in the district. It’s not just an off-the-shelf program. It’s really about what we do every day for kids.” Traci Davis, Superintendent of Schools, Washoe County School District Theory of Action for Districtwide SEL • Vision & Long-Term Plan • Stakeholder Communications • Aligned Resources • Central Office Expertise • Professional Learning • SEL Integration • SEL Standards & Assessments • Evidence-Based Programs CULTIVATE COMMITMENT & ORGANIZATIONAL SUPPORT FOR SEL ESTABLISH SYSTEMS FOR CONTINUOUS IMPROVEMENT ASSESS SEL RESOURCES & NEEDS SUPPORT CLASSROOM, SCHOOLWIDE, & COMMUNITY SEL PROGRAMMING 10 11 Systemic SEL is a new way of doing business at the school level as well. District leaders have worked closely with principals, teachers, parent leaders, community partners, and others in multiple ways to help schools adopt systemic strategies that embed SEL into every aspect of school life. In classrooms implementing well, SEL is promoted through explicit instruction, often using an evidence-based program identified in CASEL’s program reviews. It is integrated across classroom instruction and academic curriculum, from the math class organized around cooperative learning to the social studies class that routinely helps students learn empathy by trying out different perspectives to understand their world. In schools implementing well, there is a culture and climate that supports learning, respect, and caring relationships throughout the school day. Adults are regularly modeling SEL behavior in classrooms and hallways, and on playgrounds. SEL shapes how principals run their staff meetings, how teachers handle their classrooms, how custodians and cafeteria workers know and are known by students, how safety officers interact with students, and how receptionists welcome visitors. In Washoe County School District, staff members at each school attend a three-day training focused on culture and climate, evidence-based programs, student voice, and the integration of SEL into math, English, history, and other classes. Teachers use SEL strategies to engage students in learning core academic content. Students demonstrate listening skills, empathy, and other SEL competencies as they work in pairs, in small groups, and as a whole class. Sacramento has developed Common Core State Standards curriculum maps for English Language Arts and math, explicitly identifying related SEL skills such as being able to collaborate, persevere in solving difficult problems, develop viable arguments, and critique the reasoning of others. SEL skills also are embedded in the district’s college and career readiness graduate profile, which will serve as a guide for students’ successful matriculation. Family and community partnerships extend and deepen the work occurring in schools. Austin Independent School District’s citywide Ready by 21 Youth Services Mapping program helps students and families locate services and supports that address academic enrichment and support, as well as social, emotional, and behavioral health. The district has also provided training in SEL to multiple out-ofschool providers. And a local philanthropic matching program has raised $2.4 million in three years. Sacramento has integrated SEL into its nationally recognized Parent Teacher Home Visit Project, the districtwide Parent Information Exchange, parent training modules, and its Family Night Toolkit on Math, which now includes information on growth mindset. Washoe County has offered more than 80 Parent University SEL courses, including College and Career Success and Building Resiliency in Children. “We changed from everything being punitive to making everything a teaching moment: What did you do? Why did you do it? Do you know it was wrong? What could you do differently? The staff was on board. There was a lot of buy-in.” Janet McDowell, Principal, Wade Park Elementary School, Cleveland Metropolitan School District Student and Teacher Voice A supportive climate and culture results when there are opportunities for multiple voices to be heard. In Cleveland Metropolitan School District, for example, about 450 high school students meet quarterly to review their individual school’s Conditions for Learning data, participate in activities with their peers, and provide feedback directly to the CEO about proposed district improvements. In Chicago students sat on the committee that rewrote the district’s discipline policy and created supports for school staff members. They helped create a video to teach all stakeholders about the important shift to a restorative practices approach. “In order to help our students learn, we have to build relationships with our students. That’s what they say to us.” Antwan Wilson, former superintendent of Oakland Unified School District, currently chancellor of Washington, DC Public Schools Insight 3 SEL ideally is integrated throughout the school. When implemented well, SEL is embedded into every aspect of the school, from classroom instruction to school climate and culture to partnerships with the community and families. “I don’t know that there are any kids out there, in any school district, that don’t have some needs for SEL support.” José Banda, Superintendent, Sacramento City Unified School District To learn more, visit CASEL’s District Resource Center drc.casel.org INTEGRATION Integrate SEL with district initiatives 12 13 Insight 4 Successful implementation can follow multiple pathways. Each district has unique needs and strengths, but regardless of the approach, DISTRICT AND school leadership is key. Districts have chosen a variety of approaches for rolling out their SEL implementation to schools. There is no single path to successful implementation. Some built from the classroom up, using SEL programming as an anchor. Others built from the central office down, focused on strategy and organization. Some start with clusters of K-12 schools (high school and “feeder” middle and elementary schools).Others roll out districtwide at specific grade levels. For example, Austin started with two feeder patterns of elementary, middle, and high schools, then added three more the following year, then two more each year until all schools in the district were implementing SEL. On the other hand, Cleveland implemented the PATHS program districtwide, starting with all K-2 grades one year and grades 3-5 during the following year. Second Step was introduced in grade 6 in 2015. It was enhanced with the inclusion of grades 7-8 in 2016. Regardless of the pathway, implementation needs to get down to the school level where the students are — and where relationships are formed, curriculum is taught, and partnerships with families and community happen. And the principal’s understanding of and commitment to SEL are critical to leading these efforts. To ensure effective implementation at the school level, Washoe County uses school-based SEL teams comprising at least one administrator and four to six site-based staff including teachers, counselors, and speech pathologists. In addition, 21 teacher leaders receive additional professional development and then train their school colleagues and parents. Austin uses a coaching and strategic planning model, with each SEL specialist responsible for up to 12 schools. Building on Strengths Needs assessments help districts identify and build on strengths. Surveys and focus groups, for example, helped Washoe County discover the central role of counselors. The district then developed more inclusive training for teachers, principals, and others. In Austin a survey of SEL liaisons, principals, and coaches helped identify the quality of school implementation. The district used that information to help scale up best practices. To focus on school leadership, the district’s new planning team now includes three principals and the chief of schools, who supervises principals. “The way we’ve implemented SEL, instruction happens every single day in the classroom, not something we do separate and apart.” Paul Cruz, Superintendent, Austin Independent School District “SEL is the way we go about our business. Relationships matter most. I see the whole world through the lens of SEL.” Brian Singleton, Principal, Begich Middle School, Anchorage School District To learn more, visit CASEL’s District Resource Center drc.casel.org ALIGN RESOURCES Align financial and human resources 14 15 Social and emotional competence among staff improves teaching and leadership by strengthening relationships, creating safer learning environments, reducing staff burnout, and building trust among colleagues. It also helps those working directly with children to teach, model, and reinforce SEL competencies in their academic and interpersonal interactions with students. Educators who model SEL have clear expectations and guidelines, including setting appropriate consequences, according to Nick Yoder of the American Institutes for Research. They find ways to stay calm when angry. They avoid mocking or embarrassing their students. They give students choices and respect their wishes. They ask questions that help students solve problems on their own. They are culturally aware and competent. Yet too few teachers have been formally trained in their teacher preparation programs on SEL. A recent University of British Columbia/CASEL report found the overwhelming majority of teacher preparation programs do not have courses that help educators teach core SEL skills to students.8 Penn State University’s Mark Greenberg observed in a recent report: “If a teacher is unable to manage their stress adequately, their instruction will suffer, which then impacts student well-being and achievement. In contrast, teachers with better emotion regulation are likely to reinforce positive student behavior and support students in managing their own negative emotions.”9 Anchorage discovered after two years of implementing student-centered reforms it needed to pause to focus more on staff training. “We can’t expect teachers to model what we don’t give them a chance to practice themselves,” says Jan Davis, SEL Professional Learning Specialist. Moreover, the Anchorage team is exploring how developing adults’ social and emotional competencies may bolster their capacity to appropriately use culturally responsive teaching practices, which ultimately will ensure that all students are supported in reaching their full potential. Adult awareness, modeling, and integration of social-emotional competencies in their teaching practices has long been a priority for Chicago Public Schools. All introductory SEL workshops ask leaders to identify and reflect on their own SEL competencies, prioritize areas where they would like to grow, and plan how to engage colleagues in an ongoing process of building these skills throughout their departments, regions, or schools. Efforts such as these helped the district to identify a link between adult decision-making and a historical overuse of suspensions. To reinforce the importance of adult SEL, some districts are explicitly embedding SEL into their staff performance frameworks. Oakland, for example, created performance frameworks for adults and elementary students based on its SEL standards. SEL factors into the evaluation process for all classroom teachers, PreK-12. The OUSD Leadership Growth and Development System guides the professional development and evaluation of all principals throughout the district. The superintendent holds herself accountable to the school board for specific SEL goals and objectives included in her work plan. “We ask educators what’s that one skill you want students to have to be successful? It’s the social-emotional skills they want students to have.” Kyla Krengel, Director, SEL, Metro Nashville Public Schools Insight 5 Adult SEL matters, too. Relationships are central, and adults need the expertise to teach and model appropriate lessons and behaviors in every interaction. 8 The University of British Columbia Department of Educational and Counselling Psychology, and Special Education 9 Penn State University/Robert Wood Johnson Foundation “You walk around the school now and you can tell there are relationships that exist between teachers and teachers, between teachers and students, and students with one another. What that allows for is a culture of calm.” Jessica, Chicago Public Schools, ninth-grade student To learn more, visit CASEL’s District Resource Center drc.casel.org BUILD EXPERTISE Develop central office SEL expertise and competence 16 17 Having research and evaluation teams involved in SEL work from the start yields several benefits. They help clarify goals and desired outcomes. They ensure that progress toward these outcomes is regularly measured, analyzed, and shared through data dashboards, reports, and similar management tools for continuous improvement. In addition, clear metrics help keep everyone on on the same page. Regular visibility helps ensure that everyone knows the work is important. Most important, armed with data, districts can make more informed decisions about necessary changes in strategies and programming. For example, Austin raised local funds to help create a two-person S EL research team, which produced regular leadership reports on implementation and progress. One report measured the impact of a specific curriculum on absentee rates, disciplinary incidents, grades, and standardized test scores. Another compared the impact of program longevity to the effectiveness of implementation, with mixed results. These reports have helped the district create buy-in, communicate about the importance of S EL, and raise additional funds to support the work. Cleveland’s long-term research project with AIR produces invaluable insights into S EL attitudes and school climate and culture through its Conditions for Learning surveys of students, staff, and parents, given two times a year. District administrators and school staff regularly analyze the information and use it to provide practical advice on topics such as encouraging civility and enhancing the school culture. Acting on the data is key. After finding staff survey participation had dropped sharply, Anchorage worked with CAS EL to use the data to inform priorities for programming and training. Once they saw how the survey research helped principals guide their work, teacher participation on the surveys soared — from a low of 30% to 79%. In Washoe County S EL staff works closely with the accountability department to help ensure a steady stream of insightful analyses. Using the results of a sophisticated 17-question survey, for example, they made the case that students with higher S EL skills did better on virtually every other outcome measure (test scores, GPAs, attendance, etc.). And they targeted staff development to address issues where students reported feeling the weakest, such as the ability to express feelings. In Metro Nashville Public Schools the resesarch and development department has contributed significantly to the school and classroom observational tools now being used in 28 schools to establish a baseline for an annual mid-year assessment of school climate and practice. The district also has used the tool to assess strengths and needs in roughly 50 other schools and to customize professional development accordingly. Ins i g ht 6 Data for continuous improvement are essential. Research and evaluation that are focused on improvement accelerate an d ra ise t he qual ity of t he rollout. To learn more, visit CASEL’s District Resource Center drc.casel.org CONTI N U OUS IMPR O V E MEN T Establish systems for continuous improvement 18 19 The CDI offers an opportunity for many of the country’s leading educators to intensively create and explore which approaches work best, then share that know-how with each other and the world. To accelerate learning among CDI districts, we created multiple peer learning communities, which foster long-term commitment and sustainability through regular opportunities to learn from each other. For example, the annual Cross-Districts Learning Event convenes educators and others from CDI districts to explore implementation topics such as mindsets, academic integration, adult SEL, financial sustainability, and assessment. More topic-specific work groups have emerged from these large sessions, such as our Equity Work Group, Research and Evaluation Professional Learning Community, and Professional Learning Series. Through a series of in-person meetings, webinars, and one-on-one phone calls, these groups are learning from their peers about successes, challenges, and innovations. A few districts have adapted the proactive social media communications and engagement strategies used by Austin and Atlanta, for example. Washoe County has benefitted from Chicago’s approach to adult SEL. Other districts have learned from Washoe’s innovative use of data and student voice to support climate and culture, using their student data summits. The CDI superintendents connect regularly through in-person opportunities, webinars, and one-on-one conversations, exploring a wide range of issues including stakeholder communication, budgeting, data use, and strategies for crisis intervention. Cross-district site visits occur regularly. For example, Anchorage visited Chicago to learn more about its MTSS implementation model and see SEL leadership teams and integrated instruction at schools. The Cleveland team members learned different strategies for implementing the Closing the Achievement Gap initiative from their visit to Oakland. Washoe and Oakland learned about Anchorage’s multiyear strategic plan for SEL implementation and saw SEL-academic integration in practice. Atlanta and El Paso Benefit Two of the newest members of the CDI are benefitting from the work of the first eight districts. Both Atlanta Public Schools and El Paso Independent School District heeded the recommendation to focus on adult SEL early. Atlanta is also focusing on parent engagement and will adapt resources from the CDI in its efforts. El Paso has made use of Sacramento’s approach to teaching a growth mindset. And other CDI districts have used El Paso’s “hidden backpack” activity, a facilitation approach designed to build empathy for the unseen daily burdens that affect students’ and adults’ ability to focus on their work. CROSS-DISTRICTS LEARNING EVENTs PARTICIPANTS SAY... Anchorage, Alaska 2011 Austin, TexAS 2012 Nashville, TennESSEE 2013 Cleveland, Ohio 2015 Reno, NevADA 2016 “I have a deeper appreciation for why we need to include adults in the SEL learning process and why districts elect to work with adult SEL first, as a foundation for districtwide implementation. GREAT!!” “I can’t wait to bring this back to our new teacher program as well.” OAKLAND, CALIFORNIA 2017 Insight 7 Districts benefit from collaborating with each other. From the start and in keeping with CASEL’S research roots, the CDI was — and is — a COLLABORATIVE learning lab. To learn more, visit CASEL’s District Resource Center drc.casel.org PROFESSIONAL DEVELOPMENT Design and implement effective professional development programs Academic achievement improved The three districts that use the National Assessment of Educational Progress (NAEP) (Austin, Chicago, and Cleveland) all improved their reading and math scores during the CDI implementation years. In Anchorage, Austin, Chicago, Cleveland, Oakland, and Nashville, GPAs were higher at the end of the 2015 school year than before the CDI started. The improvements were particularly noticeable in Chicago, going from an average of 2.19 in the three years before the CDI to 2.65 in 2015, an increase of nearly 21%. Nashville, the only district that used the same standardized tests across CDI years, showed improvements in both ELA and math achievement. All districts with relevant data showed gains in ELA and math in at least one grade band (elementary, middle, high). Chicago’s graduation rate increased 15% during the CDI years. Student engagement and behavior improved Attendance improved in four of six districts that collected this data. Chicago improved overall attendance by eight percentage points from before the CDI started through 2015. Anchorage (elementary, middle) and Nashville (middle, high) showed gains at two of three levels. Suspensions declined in all five of the districts that collected this data. For example, suspensions in Chicago declined 65 percent in two years. This translates to 44,000 fewer students being suspended from school in one recent year alone. In Sacramento suspension rates declined in the five years of systemic SEL implementation: 24% districtwide and 43% in high schools. 20 21 Impact on students and schools To assess the impact of the CDI’s efforts, CASEL entered into an ongoing data collection and evaluation partnership with the districts and American Institutes for Research (AIR). Data were collected to measure the implementation and resulting outcomes. While the availability of data varied by district, qualitative and quantitative outcomes are promising. The bottom line: Even very modest investments in SEL can pay off for individuals, schools, and society. CHAPTER 3 GPAs MATH & ELA SCORES GRADUATION RATES NAEP SCORES “I have seen high schools and middle schools really change the narrative on suspensions and expulsions. If we’re keeping students in schools and teaching them how to deal with things instead of just getting them out the door, we are making huge gains.” Alan Mather, Chief Officer, Office of College and Career Success, Chicago Public Schools 22 23 Student Social and emotional competence improved Districts also reported that students’ social and emotional competence improved, based on student and teacher surveys. In both Chicago and Nashville, elementary school students improved in all five social and emotional competencies: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, relationship skills, and responsible decision-making. In Austin, where only middle and high school data was collected, students at both levels also significantly improved in all five competencies. Middle and high school students in Cleveland also experienced growth, particularly in the areas of self-awareness and self-management. Sacramento (elementary only) and Anchorage (elementary, middle, and high school) collected an average measure of students’ overall social and emotional competence. For Sacramento, elementary students experienced significant gains in overall competence since the start of the CDI. Anchorage students experienced significant growth in overall competence even before the start of the CDI and maintained the same positive trajectory during the CDI years. School climate improved Climate, as measured by district surveys in Chicago and Cleveland, improved during the CDI years. In Anchorage climate began an upward trajectory before the CDI and sustained that same significant and positive growth during the CDI years. In the only district in which elementary school climate data was available for analysis (Chicago), students reported significant improvements on the “supportive environment” scale compared to the start of the CDI in 2010-2011. Districts use a variety of surveys to measure student and staff attitudes. This is an excerpt from Washoe County. THE POSITIVE IMPACTS OF Social and emotional COMPETENCE In collaboration with CASEL, Washoe County documented that students with higher SEL competencies perform better on multiple measures: higher academic achievement, attendance, GPAs, and graduation rates, and fewer suspensions. For example, students with high social and emotional competence had a math proficiency rate that was 21 percentage points higher than their counterparts with low social and emotional competence. Also, students with higher competence were 20 percentage points higher for English/Language Arts (ELA). Findings from the Washoe/CASEL partnership research team also showed that having high social and emotional competence might have buffered students from the negative impact of factors (e.g., suspensions, transiency, weak attendance) that often place them in a “high-risk” academic status. 2014-2015 Math and English Language Arts (ELA) Proficiency Rates among Students with Low vs. High Social and Emotional Competencies LOW SEC HIGH SEC MATH 23% MATH 44% ELA 40% ELA 60% VERY EASY EASY HARD VERY HARD RESPONSIBLE DECISION-MAKING RESPONSIBLE DECISION-MAKING: Thinking about what might happen before making a decision RELATIONSHIP SKILLS RELATIONSHIP SKILLS: Getting along with my classmates SOCIAL AWARENESS SOCIAL AWARENESS: Learning from people with different opinions than me SELF-AWARENESS EMOTIONAL KNOWLEDGE: Knowing when my feelings are making it hard for me to focus SELF-CONCEPT: Knowing what my strengths are SELF-MANAGEMENT SCHOOLWORK: Doing my school work even when i don’t feel like it EMOTIONAL REGULATION: Getting through something even when I feel frustrated GOAL MANAGEMENT: Finishing tasks even if they are hard for me 24 25 OUR GOALS: BY THE END OF 2017 ALL EDUCATORS IN THE COUNTRY WILL HAVE EASY ACCESS TO HUNDREDS OF PRACTICAL TOOLS THAT HAVE BEEN FIELD TESTED BY SOME OF THE LEADING DISTRICTS IN THE U.S. By 2025 50% of U.S. school districts will be systemically integrating high-quality SEL across their schools and classrooms. Demand for SEL is at an all-time high. Teachers recognize the importance of it. Employers are requiring it. Parents value it. Communities are being transformed by it. And, most important, millions of students already are benefitting from it. Based on the practical knowledge gleaned through the CDI and from the field at large, we have extensive knowledge about how to implement high-quality, evidence-based SEL. With our district and philanthropic partners, we at CASEL are uniquely poised to scale this know-how to many more districts nationally. Deepening SEL Know-HOW With an ongoing commitment to deepening the field’s expertise in the practical application of SEL, we plan to expand and formalize how we collect, document, analyze, and translate practices and strategies. We will continue to partner intensively with CDI districts, and deepen and extend partnerships in the broad field to improve implementation and student outcomes while increasing understanding of systemic SEL, piloting new innovations, and refining best practices. We will answer questions such as: • What instructional practices maximize learning, engagement, and achievement? • How can SEL help promote equity in the school and classroom? • How can after-school programs reinforce what’s happening in school? • How can schools engage families and community partners in promoting SEL? • How can schools best use data to improve SEL competencies and school climate? • How can districts allocate resources most effectively? We will amplify the case for systemic SEL with even more meaningful, compelling data, and cases – drawn from the CDI districts and from other districts and schools across the country. Sharing What We Know Our goal is to make knowledge usable. We will translate the knowledge and experiences from the CDI districts and others into actionable and innovative tools. We will offer support in using those tools to reach the maximum number of educators, scholars, policymakers, families, and community partners, all while maintaining a commitment to learning and continuously improving our tools, approaches, and models for implementation. For example: • The District Resource Center, which launched with nearly 500 practical, evidence-based, annotated tools from the CDI districts. • New online resources for schools and states addressing key implementation issues. • Virtual and online training and support for using the guides, coupled with data collection to track usage and impact. We will execute new, creative strategies for gathering input and insights from the field, building communities of learners, and packaging and disseminating knowledge. For example: • An interactive, online platform for districts to access tools and resources and track district needs, requests, and knowledge gaps. • Virtual communities connecting district personnel serving in similar roles. • In-person working groups to answer questions on specific topics such as SEL and equity, assessments, teacher practices, climate, and culture. Together, these strategies mark a significant and necessary evolution in our work—one that is focused on deepening and advancing SEL implementation knowledge and making that knowledge usable by any district nationwide. The beneficiaries: America’s schoolchildren. Scaling SEL know-how CHAPTER 4 COLLABORATIVE FOR ACADEMIC, SOCIAL, AND EMOTIONAL LEARNING 815 W VAN BUREN STREET, SUITE 210, CHICAGO IL 60607 | 312.226.3770 | CASEL.ORG The Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning (CASEL) is the world’s leading organization advancing one of the most important fields in education in decades: the practice of promoting integrated academic, social, and emotional learning for all children. The nonprofit, founded in 1994, provides a combination of research, practice, and policy to support high-quality social and emotional learning in districts and schools nationwide. Thank you to CASEL’s many critical collaborators — our partner educators, researchers, policymakers, civic leaders, program providers, funders, and others — for contributing to and supporting efforts to help make evidence-based social and emotional learning an integral part of education, preschool through high school. - 07:40 FB-EQE The Collaborative for Academic, Social and Emotional Learning (CASEL) just released a report sharing insights from 6 years supporting SEL implementation in 10 of the largest urban districts in the United States. I am so happy to see that many of these lessons are at the core of what Six Seconds does: importance of EQ for adults, SEL integration across school structures, use of assessments, and more. Read this post if you want to know more and get tips on what you can do to keep pushing SEL and EQ forward! - Wow, I just read this study, Lorea! "Today we are at a tipping point. The evidence is clear that SEL works. Models for implementation exist. Supportive policies are spreading. Most important, students are benefitting. Students with strong social and emotional competence not only do better academically in school, they lead healthier, happier, more fulfilling lives. They better understand themselves, build constructive relationships, are more kind and caring, and make more responsible decisions." Raises Student Performance (pro-social behaviours) • Higher academic achievement (EQ even helps IQ!!!) • Better social emotional skills • Improved attitudes about self, others, and school • Positive classroom behavior Reduces Risk for Failure (anti-social behaviours) • Fewer conduct problems • Less emotional distress Our goal: by 2025, 50% of districts are systemically integrating high-quality SEL across their schools and classrooms. “The CDI demonstrates that it is possible for large urban school districts to adopt and maintain SEL as an essential element of education, even amid budgetary stress and leadership turnover.” - American Institutes for Research (I repeat, wow!) :) - Highest rate of teen alcoholism, DV and child abuse in the country. The high schools had metal detectors… -- ND Breeds resentment. Fortunately, there is someone we can change—guess who? That’s right; only by focusing on ourselves can we set the boundaries that let us live harmoniously with others. I told Kelly that as soon as she’s finished hurling dessert plates, she should take a moment to sit down, get quiet, and lovingly ask herself what’s happening. Is she exhausted, enraged, grieving? Whatever Kelly’s feeling, she should offer her tired, sad, frustrated self permission to feel it, and then do something nurturing—nap, have a cup of tea, vent in her journal. Once she’s feeling calmer (and not a minute sooner), Kelly needs to reconstruct the events that led to her explosion. This is a bit like finding the black box from an airplane crash, then going through the flight recording to see when the pilot lost control. Kelly’s last outburst may be a good place to start: Chances are, right after she expressed her anger, she felt relieved for a while. The next time Paige was glued to her phone at dinner, I bet Kelly thought, Oh, well! What can you do? Let’s call this state of mind the green zone. As time wore on, though, she felt the familiar twinges of annoyance, working her way into the yellow zone. Eventually she got so hot under the collar that her nose hairs were singeing. Then she hit the red zone: tantrum time. Kelly needs to learn to monitor her feelings not only when she’s alone, but in real time, as she interacts with others. This takes practice because it’s easy to get caught up in big emotions rather than observe them. She’ll probably have to go through a period of trial and error (and a few more flare-ups). But after a while, she’ll be able to stay aware of her feelings as they arise, and notice the zone she’s in. Kelly’s goal should be to speak up for herself while she’s still calm and collected, using this script: “[Person’s name], when you do [frustrating behavior], I feel [name your emotion]. Next time it happens, I’ll have to walk away for a while. Otherwise, I’ll end up blowing my top over some little thing, and that hurts both of us.” This strategy isn’t about criticism or blame. Kelly’s taking responsibility for her own reactions and establishing boundaries around the sole territory where she has jurisdiction: her self. Next time someone in your life is getting your goat, I suggest trying this approach. Most people will at least hear you out. If they ignore you or get defensive, you have to create some physical and emotional distance—not to punish the offender, but to remain in tranquility. The good news is that Kelly has loving relationships with her daughter and her mother; given the choice to make Kelly happier, they’ll probably opt for peace and cooperation. As fallible human beings, they may need a few reminders—while Kelly’s still in the green zone, of course. But ultimately, their relationships will be even stronger. When we make a practice of caring for ourselves, we feel not only more serene, but more powerful. Knowing we can meet our own needs frees us to love without condition—and by staying open to love, we can drive ourselves sane. Want more stories like this delivered to your inbox? Sign up for the Oprah.com Spirit Newsletter! Read more: http://www.oprah.com/inspiration/martha-beck-how-to-confront-issues-with-your-family#ixzz4esuTj95D -- ND Brains. The Effects of Modern Lifestyle on Our Brains Our modern lifestyle is changing our brains. There’s some evidence it’s not all for the better. 21. Our brains are getting smaller. Over the past 10-20,000 years, the size of the average human brain has shrunk by the size of a tennis ball. 22. We are not getting smarter. Since the Victorian era, average IQs have gone down 1.6 points per decade for a total of 13.35 points. 23. Multitasking makes you less productive. When you multitask, your brain simply rapidly toggles back and forth between tasks. This results in decreases in attention span, learning, performance, and short-term memory. 24. Surprisingly, millennials (aged 18 to 34) are more forgetful than baby boomers. They are more likely to forget what day it is or where they put their keys than their parents! 25. The human brain is usually compared to the most advanced technology of the day. It’s been compared to a clock, a switchboard, a computer, and most recently to the internet. 26. Our attention spans are getting shorter. In 2000, the average attention span was 12 seconds. Now it’s 8 seconds. That’s shorter than the 9-second attention span of the average goldfish. 27. Brain cells cannibalize themselves as a last ditch source of energy to ward off starvation. So in very real ways dieting can force your brain to eat itself. 28. Your brain’s storage capacity is considered virtually unlimited. It doesn’t get “used up” like RAM in your computer. Brain Myths Debunked Rapid advancements in neuroscience means information gets outdated fast. That’s one of the reasons there’s a lot of misinformation floating around about the brain. Here are some well-accepted brain “facts” that have been proven to no longer be true. 29. The popular myth that we use only 10% of our brains is flat-out wrong. Brain scans clearly show that we use most of our brain most of the time, even when we’re sleeping. 30. There is no such thing as a left-brain or right-brain personality type. We are not left-brained or right-brained; we are “whole brained.” (See #29.) 31. In spite of what you’ve been told, alcohol doesn’t kill brain cells. It “only” damages the connective tissue at the end of neurons. 32. The Mozart Effect has been debunked. While listening to certain kinds of music can improve memory and concentration, there’s nothing unique about listening to Mozart. 33. You may have heard that we have more brain cells than there are stars in the Milky Way, but this is not true. Best guess estimates are that we have 86 billion neurons and there are 200-400 billion stars in the Milky Way. 34. It’s often said there are 10,0000 miles of blood vessels in the brain when, in fact, that number is closer to 400 miles. Still a substantial amount! 35. Contrary to prevailing medical belief, having high total cholesterol is not bad for your brain. In fact, it actually reduces your risk of dementia. Facts About Memory It was once thought our brain recorded memories like a camera, but this is not how memory works. Our memories work less like a digital recording and more like listening to live improvisational jazz. 36. Memories are shockingly unreliable. Emotions, motivation, cues, context and frequency of use can all affect how accurately you remember something. 37. Memory is more of an activity than a place. Any given memory is deconstructed and distributed in different parts of the brain. Then, for the memory to be recalled, it gets reconstructed from the individual fragments. 38. Your brain starts slowing down at the ripe old age of 24 but peaks for different cognitive skills at different ages. In fact at any given age, you’re likely getting better at some things and worse at others. 39. If you were drinking and don’t remember what you did last night, it’s not because you forgot. While you are drunk your brain is incapable of forming memories. Brain Facts That Are Just Plain Weird Some of these brain facts have been around for a while and some are brand new, but I think you’ll find at least a few of these mind-blowing. 40. The human brain is not solid. It’s soft and squishy similar to the consistency of soft tofu or soft gelatin. And it’s very fragile. (49) 41. Sometimes half a brain is a good as a whole one. When surgeons perform a hemispherectomy, they remove or disable half of the brain to stop seizures. Shockingly, patients experience no effect on personality or memory. 42. Think you’re in control of your life? Think again. 95% of your decisions take place in your subconscious mind. 43. The brain in your head isn’t your only brain. There’s a “second brain” in your intestines that contains 100,000 neurons. Gut bacteria are responsible for making over 30 neurotransmitters including the “happy molecule” serotonin. 44. Some scientists believe zombies could be real and that it’s possible a mutated virus or parasites could attack our brains and rapidly spread throughout large populations causing essentially a “zombie apocalypse.” 45. A blood-brain barrier protects your brain from foreign substances. But it doesn’t work perfectly. The nicotine in smoke rushes into the brain in a mere 7 seconds. Alcohol, on the other hand, takes 6 minutes. 46. Prescription sleeping pills don’t put you to sleep. They put your brain into a state similar to being in a coma, essentially bypassing any restorative value of sleep. 47. Our brains crave mental stimulation. Men especially would rather receive electric shocks than sit quietly in a room and think! 48. Over 140 proteins in the brain are negatively impacted by exposure to electromagnetic frequencies — the kind emitted by your cell phone and other electronic devices. 49. Although pain is processed in your brain, your brain has no pain receptors and feels no pain. This explains how brain surgery can be performed while the patient is awake with no pain or discomfort. 50. Few facts about the brain are as weird as the story of Albert Einstein’s brain. The pathologist who performed Einstein’s autopsy kept the brain in a jar in his basement for 40 years. Eventually he made a cross-country trip with the brain in a Tupperware container to deliver it to Einstein’s granddaughter. You can read the full story about one of the most bizarre road trips ever in Driving Mr. Albert: A Trip Across America with Einstein’s Brain. -- ND Breathe EQ (or @[1497733377132272:274:Emotional Intelligence]), as I believe EQ can, and will, change me, you and the world, from the inside out! Since we're in crazy California, and since I speak casually, honestly and directly about feelings and emotions (and anything else), I figure that makes me the "EQ Dude"! Whatcha think??' Matt Perelstein Project manager at Quintiles IMS 133 followers ?Aubree Medlock? to Matt Perelstein April 6 · Matt I hope you had a blessed birthday! LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments View all 2 comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Mary Long Hart? to Matt Perelstein April 6 · Hope you had an awesome birthday! LikeComment 2 You and Wela D Kathren Comments Matt Perelstein Matt Perelstein Thanks, Mary! It wasn't 'awesome'... I woke at 3:33, drove 3 hours, spent most of the day at UHaul (about 8 hours!), then packed (which was probably the funnest thing I did all day, with Patrick and Fayth's bro, Tyler -- neat kid!), and drove all night toward home, at 55-60mph (ahhh!), in a small UHaul truck, hauling my car on a trailer. So, it wasn't 'awesome', by any stretch, but the good thing is that I didn't get down, didn't complain, didn't feel sorry for myself. We really can keep our thoughts positive, given some practice. Heck, do we have something better to do than to find out how to be happy? I love EQ. #EQRocks! Thanks again, Mary! :) Like · Reply · 1 · April 11 at 5:53am · Edited Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Doc Downing? to Matt Perelstein April 6 · Happy Birthday, Matt. Keep up the good work. LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Matt Perelstein Thanks, Doc! You'll sure know if I am. 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Image may contain: food LikeCommentShare Buffer 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Deborah Havert? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Happy birthday, Matt! Have a super day! LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Granville Ed D'Souza? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Happy Birthday Matt. Stay healthy and active in your direction with EQ. LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Kamala Waidande? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Happy Birthday and may God bless your each day with lots of love and joy. LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Tim Everitt? to Matt Perelstein April 5 · Chester, United Kingdom · Happy birthday, Matt. Enjoy! LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... 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LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Urmi Chavan? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Matt !! Many many happy returns of the day!! Happy birthday!!???? LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Akhtar Kamal? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Karachi, Pakistan · Happy birthday Matt. LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?ViKram JaRugu? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy Bday my dear friend???? LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Sudeepa Akam? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy happy bday Matt Perelstein! Stay blessed! LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Ravi Gupta? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy birthday.. LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... 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LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Thariq Tarh? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy birthday LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Sarika Gupta? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy birthday LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Glori Celis? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Clovis · Happy Birthday ?????? Matt! I hope you had a very special day because you are a very special person and I for one appreciate you so much for being such a shining example of how to change your circumstances for the better by changing your perspective! You are an awesome and inspiring person and who is loved and lovable! Love ?? you Glori Celis LikeComment 2 You and Peggy Mitchell Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Divya Sri? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Wish u a happy birthday uncle...keep smiling forever... Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Steve Nolan? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · ??????????????happy birthiversary bro! ?????????????? LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Jasen Mayersky? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy Birthday!!!! LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Sherise D'souza? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy birthday! Have an awesome time :-) LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Aniruddha Sen? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Wish you a very Happy Birthday Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Basant Dash? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy Birthday. Have a great year ahead. LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Dipti Taluja? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Gurgaon, India · Hey Matt Perelstein....wish you a very blessed birthday...stay strong and healthy Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Janusz Tobijasiewicz? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy Birth day Matt!!! God Bless You!! Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Glenn McGrew II? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy birthday! LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Bhawana Dubey? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Many wishes ..stay healthy ..stay blessed Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Azhar Ajju? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy birthday LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Ram Narayan? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Heartiest wishes of birth day. God is praying that he may give you health longevity and prosperity. · See original · Rate this translation LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Dexter John Valles? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Mumbai, India · Happy Birthday Matt Perelstein !! Thought it just went by recently. Time flies by all too quickly. God Bless you and your journey of courage, strength and hope !! Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Viraja Maganti? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Yay!!! It's your Birthday! ????Happy Birthday Matt!! Have a super duper day with your loved ones! Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Aruna Nair? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · A very Happy Birthday to you! Happiness, good health, and peace be yours. Always! LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Stephen W. Oliver? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy Birthday my EQ co-teacher! All the very best! Cheers! Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Sudha G Narayan? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy birthday Matt and wish you a year full of happiness and good health as you spread to the world the joy of EQ! Hugs! Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Srinivas Mohan? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy Birthday Matt & Many More Happy Returns Of The Day. Image may contain: flower and text LikeCommentShare Buffer 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Yobrotha Fromanotha Keef? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happiest of Birfday Wishes Brougham ?????? LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Tomohiro Mitsumori? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Yokohama, Kanagawa, Japan · Happy birthday. Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Comment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Debaleena Das? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy birthday Matt wish u a long happy healthy life.Keep smiling always god bless u. — with Lynda Abraugh and 13 others. Image may contain: 3 people, people smiling, outdoor and closeup LikeCommentShare Buffer 18 You, Briana Lobue, Patrick Mccauley and 15 others Comments Srinivas Mohan Srinivas Mohan Happy birthday Matt Perelstein. May God bless you with health & happiness. Like · Reply · 3 · April 4 at 7:13pm Sathi GH Sathi GH Gosh its another year already?!! nice pic ( one on the left). HAPPY BIRTHDAY Matt Perelstein Like · Reply · 3 · April 4 at 7:38pm · Edited Dexter John Valles Dexter John Valles Happy Birthday Matt Perelstein !! Thought it just went by recently. Time flies by all too quickly. God Bless you and your journey of courage, strength and hope !! Like · Reply · 2 · April 4 at 7:54pm Reena Parekh Reena Parekh Happy birthday Matt Perelstein . Handsome pic ,??? Image may contain: flower, text and nature Like · Reply · 4 · April 4 at 8:04pm Dattatreya Yellapantula Dattatreya Yellapantula Many Happy Returns of The Day ...Matt Perelstein Like · Reply · 3 · April 4 at 8:05pm Lilla Hill Lilla Hill Happy birthday and many more Like · Reply · 2 · April 4 at 8:14pm Lynda Abraugh Lynda Abraugh Blessings galore. No automatic alt text available. Like · Reply · 2 · April 4 at 8:25pm Peggy Mitchell Peggy Mitchell Happy Birthday!! Like · Reply · 3 · April 4 at 8:32pm Ashok Kumar Verma Ashok Kumar Verma Happy birthday Matt Perelstein Like · Reply · 3 · April 4 at 8:35pm Chris Mcewen Chris Mcewen Happy B-DAY YOU AMAZING MAN. May this be the best year of your life Like · Reply · 3 · April 4 at 8:56pm Freve Frnz Freve Frnz Happy Birthday Matt.. God bless you with happiness health and all good things..stay smiling! Like · Reply · 2 · April 4 at 10:52pm Urmi Chavan Urmi Chavan Happy birthday matt! Like · Reply · 2 · April 4 at 11:19pm Joshua Freedman Joshua Freedman Happy birthday Matt! Like · Reply · 2 · April 5 at 5:56am Janet MacGregor Janet MacGregor Happy birthday! Like · Reply · 2 · April 5 at 6:17am Sivaram Prasad. K Sivaram Prasad. K Very Happy birthday and many happy returns of the day, Matt! Like · Reply · 4 · April 6 at 10:00am Sivaram Prasad. K Sivaram Prasad. K Hi matt. Happy birthday! Like · Reply · 4 · April 9 at 1:08am Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?F.c. Law? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy, happy birthday Matt! ???? LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Balaji Sundaram? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · many happy returns of the day LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Alex Zemkus? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy Birthday Matt, all the best for the day ?? LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Elise Balcombe? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy birthday Matt xx LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File Joyce Saun added a new photo to Matt Perelstein's Timeline. April 4 · Melbourne, VIC, Australia · Image may contain: drink LikeCommentShare Buffer 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Michele Soplata? to Matt Perelstein April 4 · Happy Birthday No automatic alt text available. LikeCommentShare Buffer 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File Rachel Perelstein with Matt Perelstein. April 5 · Happy birthday to the greatest dad a girl could ask for! LikeCommentShare Buffer 36 You, Sean McDaniel, Jasen Mayersky and 33 others Comments Hilary Petrella Hilary Petrella Happy Birthday to him Like · Reply · 2 · April 5 at 8:34am Kaylah Korhummel Kaylah Korhummel Happy happy birthday!!! Like · Reply · 2 · April 5 at 9:02pm Matt Perelstein Matt Perelstein aww shucks, Rachel! (as you know) You're a wonderful daughter, too!! (did you make this graphic? if so, how?) LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Like · Reply · 1 · April 11 at 5:58am Rachel Perelstein Rachel Perelstein When I write in "what's on my mind" it asks me if I'd like to put a color background on..With little colored bubbles at the bottom of the writing Like · Reply · 1 · April 11 at 7:52am Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File Tom O'Callaghan sent a card on Birthday Calendar by Davia. April 5 · Birthday Calendar by Davia · Happy birthdayMatt. Have fun today! Hugs! ?? Matt Perelstein Happy Birthday Matt Perelstein! Best wishes to you on your birthday! BIRTHDAY CALENDAR BY DAVIA LikeCommentShare Buffer 2 You and Alice Tubley Comments Matt Perelstein Matt Perelstein Thanks, Tom! Hope you're still rockin'!! Like · Reply · April 11 at 5:58am Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File Matt Perelstein April 5 · Image may contain: 1 person, text and closeup LikeCommentShare Buffer 51 Julie Cook, Marleaux Flournoy and 49 others Comments View 11 more comments Girija Gopinath Girija Gopinath Happy birthday ? Like · Reply · 1 · April 6 at 10:19am Michelle Donaldson Michelle Donaldson Happy Birthday!!!! Like · Reply · 1 · April 6 at 11:21am Sandy LaBelle Sandy LaBelle Yay! Happy Birthday to you... Rock on!!! Like · Reply · 1 · April 7 at 2:29am Matt Perelstein replied · 1 Reply Janie Monsalve Shogren Janie Monsalve Shogren Happy birthday, good looking. Where is the cake? Like · Reply · 1 · April 11 at 5:48pm Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File Rima Chaturvedi with Matt Perelstein. April 4 · Happy Birthday to Sir Matt Perelstein...Have a great year ahead. LikeCommentShare Buffer 14 You, Debaleena Das and 12 others Comments Matt Perelstein Matt Perelstein THANKS, Rima! You've been a great fan, and I appreciate you and your kindness! Be well. :) Like · Reply · April 11 at 6:01am Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File 3 friends posted on your Timeline for your birthday. Matt Perelstein 'I definitely live and breathe EQ (or @[1497733377132272:274:Emotional Intelligence]), as I believe EQ can, and will, change me, you and the world, from the inside out! Since we're in crazy California, and since I speak casually, honestly and directly about feelings and emotions (and anything else), I figure that makes me the "EQ Dude"! Whatcha think??' Matt Perelstein Project manager at Quintiles IMS 133 followers ?Karen Davis-Haro? to Matt Perelstein April 3 · Happy EARLY Birthday, Matt! ?? LikeComment 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File ?Vickie Anderson Kidwell? to Matt Perelstein April 2 · I hope you will have a wonderful day and a very Happy Birthday??????????? LikeComment 2 You and Gloria Watson Comments Matt Perelstein Write a comment... Choose File Steve Nolan shared a video to your Timeline. April 2 · It's kinda scrappy, the drawings are messy, Play -2:53Unmute Additional Visual SettingsEnter Fullscreen 2,187,015 Views Montague Workshop added a new video: a story about a bird.Like Page January 3 · We made a video. It’s a little story to encourage us all as we start this new year. Be sure to share with someone whose voice you believe in. LikeCommentShare Buffer 1 Matt Perelstein Comments Matt Perelstein Matt Perelstein It's cute, Stevie boy. thanks for thinking of me! what did you want me to get from it? Like · Reply · April 11 at 6:02am Steve Nolan Steve Nolan Nothing but what you want to get from it. Just that whatever kind of music you like enjoy it, and accept that there are always going to be types of music and communication that don't fit our demographic, and that's cool too. Just go with the flow, Bro. Like · Reply · 1 · April 12 at 2:33am · Edited -- ND Brisbane during the January floods. I continue to replay the many inspirational conversations and stories I heard. To those of you who came to visit us, thank you for your questions, stories and interest in Emotional Intelligence. I’d be keen to hear other ways you’ve used the Plutchik model or how you could use it with your clients. About Latest Posts Melissa Donaldson For the past 15 years, I've partnered with senior executives and leaders in public and private sector organisations to execute significant change, design and implement leadership capability programs, renegotiate complex industrial agreements and build leader and team performance. -- ND Brings down the whole team," he said. He also looks for employees who recognize the strengths of others and act in the best interest of the organization as a whole. The final thing Costa said he is key in a leader is the ability to motivate others. "Someone who understands the power of recognition and knows how to make team members and employees feel valued. Managers who are sincere and appreciative can help employees thrive at work by acknowledging their contributions," he added. Santiesteban looks for employees with a mix of technical skills and EQ. "A team member's ability to participate in meetings and extract what's really important is a skill reliant on emotional intelligence," he said. "Self-starters who are always sought after in job descriptions are usually individuals who fit this profile." Based on the statistics, and the feedback shared by these IT and business project leaders, it seems clear that emotional intelligence is a high-value, high-level need, regarding project leadership skills. Further, team cohesion and successful project outcomes are likely to become more reliant on its existence going forward. Subscribe to TechRepublic's Executive Briefing newsletter and get tips on project management, budgets, and dealing with day-to-day challenges. SUBSCRIBE Also see: 4 ways sponsors can improve project success rates 8 steps to breaking bad news to difficult project stakeholders How to resolve project sponsors' conflicting goals 8 assumptions that can derail projects and leaders About Moira Alexander Moira Alexander is the author of "LEAD or LAG: Linking Strategic Project Management & Thought Leadership" and Founder & President of Lead-Her-Ship Group. She's also a project management and IT freelance columnist for various publications and a former... Full BioContactSee all of Moira's contentGoogle+Lead_Her_Ship -- ND Branches are awesome! I enjoy the aroma and they make Ozzy and Skittles cage smell great! I am attempting to sprout the seeds you sent in my last order.. fingers crossed! Starla -- ND Branchless banking startup to millions of users and evaluated innovative early stage startups at the Khosla Impact Fund. Currently, she is the Founder & CEO of Lily where she is on a mission to help women discover clothes that make them look & feel their best using their emotions & perceptions about their body. Purva is an alum of the Yale Entrepreneurial Institute, has an MBA from Indian School of Business with the Young Leader Award for 2013 and Bachelors in Economics from Shri Ram College of Commerce (India). She aspires to use emotional intelligence and artificial intelligence to understand a woman's psychology to predict what products & services will make her happy. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx Category Nonprofits & Activism License Standard YouTube License - I'm not good enough what were they feeling why they buy what they buy at 2, girls start disliking parts of their body teens young adult, I'm fat, not good enough negative thoughts every day 6 on 10 girls choose not to do something bec. they don't feel good enough how they look doesn't matter, it's how they THINK they look consciously or subconsciously deal buying clothes via perceptions -- ND Briefly explain each one) - ND ok, here's where I learned most of this stuff. face-to-face, in front of people for 30 years. doing emotions, bigger and deeper, than most anyone. "I've pissed off more people than most anyone on the planet" "but the difference is that they come back and HUG me, afterwards!" Emotional Healing Doc CABT I'm not a therapist. Like I said, I was disappointed with my schooling. I was even accepted to 2 law schools, but didn't go, because I wanted (needed!) to learn life, first. when I first found out that my problems were mostly Emotional in nature, and so-so simple to resolve, I was / am so encouraged! since taking the class, 30 years ago, I have immersed myself in EQ I manage or own social media groups on Facebook and LinkedIn with over 150,000 members - it might be kinda long. tuff say it - read it? yes, some over bullets / PPT slides - I'm not that smart, so I need things simplified, dumbed down, a lot! so, for 30 years, I've been trying to "sum up" EQ. to just a few words so people 'get it', quickly and profoundly and simply. Bumper sticker stuff that's memorable but even kids can read it, understand it, and (maybe) take it with them, as they go. (cool thing about education... no one can take it away from you... it's yours, forever.) - more art than science here's my art the art of connecting the art of feeling the art of EQ - Doc has over 100 EQ quotes which I made into graphics so we can Share them on Facebook, LinkedIn, Pintrest and Twitter (we're mostly Facebookers, tho) So much of Facebook is a quote on a graphic that now we can make them on-the-fly, but applying a color background to your profound words. :) (show some examples) "Feel guilty - setup to be punished" "negative feelings expresses as intensely..." "Feelings aren't good or bad, they just are" "EMFB" I have another 100. (show some more examples) ... and I have a collection of thousands. (show some of my faves!) https://drive.google.com/drive/u/0/folders/0B_8MWGohTkr-R2ZwSE5aU0VyajA "Every Dollar ever made, based on a relationship" - Certified State of CA Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault Crisis Counselor NLP Practioner Nurturing Parenting Instructor Microsoft Certified Professional 6 Seconds (in Menlo Park) EQ for Educators (EQEC - 2013) EQ Assessment Test and Debrief: Social-Emotional Inventory (SEI) Ex-Board Member for 2 non-profits - here's one of my faves (and very popular with folks when they learn it) The 4 Steps to Learning 1. Unconsciously Incompetent - We don't know that we don't know 2. Consciously Incompetent - We find out that we don't know 3. Consciously Competent - We figure out how to know, but we gotta think about it 4. Unconsciously Competent - We know, and act like we know, without having to think much about it. - Teach EQ: hashtags #FeelIt2HealIt #NameIt2TameIt #NameIt2FrameIt #SpinIt2WinIt #ClaimIt2FrameIt (ER!) #FakeIt2MakeIt #AcceptIt2ProjectIt or #AcceptIt2DigestIt #LetItFlow2LetItGo -- ND Briefly explain each one) - ND ok, here's where I learned most of this stuff. face-to-face, in front of people for 30 years. doing emotions, bigger and deeper, than most anyone. "I've pissed off more people than most anyone on the planet" "but the difference is that they come back and HUG me, afterwards!" - it might be kinda long. tuff say it - I'm not that smart, so I need things simplified, dumbed down, a lot! so, for 30 years, I've been trying to "sum up" EQ. to just a few words so people 'get it', quickly and profoundly and simply. Bumper sticker stuff that's memorable but even kids can read it, understand it, and (maybe) take it with them, as they go. (cool thing about education... no one can take it away from you... it's yours, forever.) - Doc has over 100 EQ quotes (show some examples) which I made into graphics so we can Share them on Facebook, LinkedIn, Pintrest and Twitter (we're mostly Facebookers, tho) So much of Facebook is a quote on a graphic that now we can make them on-the-fly, but applying a color background to your profound words. :) I have another 100. (show some more examples) ... and I have a collection of thousands. (show some of my faves!) - Teach EQ: #FeelIt2HealIt #NameIt2TameIt #NameIt2FrameIt #SpinIt2WinIt #ClaimIt2FrameIt (ER!) #FakeIt2MakeIt #AcceptIt2ProjectIt or #AcceptIt2DigestIt #LetItFlow2LetItGo -- ND Breast cancer. After many years of pain, grief and sadness, this lady has learned to enjoy life in a new way. With many ways of learning about herself—she has learned acceptance, resilience and contentment. LOVE is her answer—-know how to love and cherish yourself, then learning to love others. True loving kindness can take you to a higher place than living a normal life. Reply Ladonna Zimmerman says: Very validating of my personal experience with traumatic events and in my professional life as an LCSW. I’m the Trauma Informed Care Coordinator in a maximum/high/ minimum security Forensic Mental Health facility in Missouri, Fulton State Hospital. I definitely see individuals who grow and mature and find meaning in their lives. The other thing I believe we also know is the importance of connection and having at least one person that believes in you. Reply Marta Luzim says: I work with clients who are challenged with complex trauma and PTSD. I myself have experienced both. Trauma is a dark night of the soul. A heroine’s/heros journey, resourcing deep faith, surrender to what you cannot control and re-directing energy into positive action, being able to tolerate pain and passion, finding your tribe and where you belong, and choosing creative inspired living. Personally and professionally I don’t know why one person recovers meaning and happiness and others do not. I believe it has to do with something spiritual, karmic and beyond our knowing. My sister committed suicide. I fought for my happiness, meaning and love. I am still standing. Still passionate. What I have witnessed throughout my life and career are those who can reach a recovery of love and passion are those who can internalize their resources of faith, radical self acceptance, loving-kindness, relearning trust and re-building and re-patterning the fragmented self into wholeness. They never give up. They want to receive love and give love. It takes a deep hunger desire and practice to reach new levels of happiness after trauma. I don’t know, in this research, what those individuals did to find happiness after trauma. What I do know it take alot of strength, vulnerability, ability to receive your worthiness and establish healthy attachments and find meaning. Your organization has helped me to understand trauma in so many meaningful and healing ways, I am grateful for you passion and dedication to healing trauma. Deeply humbled and thankful Reply Suzanne Fageol says: Thank you for your words Marta. Namaste Reply claire says: I think it’s great that this is scientifically validated now, because it must be part of our job as therapists to totally believe in the person’s ability not only to bounce back but also to go way beyond themselves, their expectations of themselves and even our own expectations of them. I have seen this happen so many times – and it’s exciting! It shows us that we really are living in a space of infinite possibilities and if we can bring that energy to our work then we are hopefully not limiting our clients by our own limited mindset about what is possible for them – we are actually holding a space which supports and encourgages them to go as far as they will. Reply Fi says: Trauma enables a person to discover just what they are made of and how far their limits or boundaries of what is possible go, it can be empowering to get to know a part of ourselves hidden until trauma happens to let us see what we are made of! Reply Laura Kearney says: I did my advanced project in undergrad about Posttraumatic Growth (PTG), and I am so happy to see you talking about this! I think it is a fascinating and hopeful topic, and it is something I have experienced myself. 5 years ago I was immersed in research by the PTG Group at University of North Carolina (Tedeschi & Calhoun), and Dr. Stephen Joseph’s book “What Doesn’t Kill Us.” I am so pleased to see that body of work continuing and growing. I think the specific areas of growth involved in PTG are important to know, in order to recognize and support them in our clients (and in ourselves). Research has shown the 5 top areas of growth in PTG are: – Increased Sense of Personal Strengths – Greater Appreciation of Life – Seeing New Possibilities – Increased Intimacy in Relationships – Spiritual Development. Reply Linh says: Thank you for sharing, Laura. I greatly appreciate it. Reply Minky Motlhale says: This sounds interesting, any possibility of sending a link or more information on the subject? I find that I’ve grown so much from surviving domestic violence in my marriage and nursing my son back to life from his long stay in ICU. I’I’ve also witnessed how most of my clients grow after sessions of TRE with them. Now I know how this is possible. Reply Laura Kearney, LPC says: Here is an article I like that gives a nice breakdown of PTG growth areas, how/why they may occur, and other factors and concepts related to PTG. Posttraumatic Growth in the Aftermath of Trauma: A Literature Review About Related Factors and Application Contexts (Ramos & Leal, 2013) – http://citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/viewdoc/download?doi=10.1.1.299.4795&rep=rep1&type=pdf Reply Bob Dale says: After experiencing my daughter’s protected illness and subsequent death, I can say with unfortunate authority that parents of children with disabilities do experience life with greater complexity. That can often be overwhelming since complexity can be positive or negatively perceived. As a therapist, my task is to normalize that complexity in the context of redefining existence and meaning. Those who get stuck in the negative end of the pool are the challenge. Reply Prithwiraj Sinha says: I think happiness depends on fulfilment of the physical and psychological needs of a person. This is explained well in Human Givens psychology. Reply Margaret Walsh says: Can you please send me the link please, I am studying Hypnotherapy/Psychotherapy/Neuro Linguistic Programming and Counselling at the Diploma level and onto Masters after , as a previous employee of Correctional Services, I wish to learn and develop as much knowledge to help Police Officers/Correctional Officers and anyone with more sound knowledge of this field. Also this link “Human givens Psychology” could you provide link please. South Australia. Reply HUTCHERSON WILLIAM says: I love the quote which has made so much sense and growth in my own life… “There are places in the heart that do not yet exist, pain must be for them to be.” Reply Michael Lederman says: My parents were in the Holocaust & I am totally amazed by their tremendous resilience! I have come to learn that no one can take my spirit away! Reply David McGough says: I live with C-PTSD – Although i have a huge vulnerability on the other side Superhuman strengths – Trauma can be very educative because even though the events are truly staggering the person by living such a tough battle becomes a very impressive entity – re-defines their own life and uses Trauma to get not only your life story told but to emerge out the other side (this isn’t easy) superior than before Reply Genevieve says: In order to come through and thrive, after severe trauma, it is not unreasonable to suggest that a viable and supportive network is required. I can well imagine, from lived experience, that those with a positive and viable support network do better than those who live in relative or complete isolation. Reply Dr. Jeanne Zehr says: Our center uses the Feuerstein program, created to help holocaust survivors move out of a limbic system hijacked state by developing frontal lobe cogitive growth. We are getting some good results. Some people, of course, need more time and intensity. Reply Nicole Ditz says: Could you provide a link to information on this feuerstein program and its methodology? Thank you! Reply Denise Morett says: I always say to my patients, family, friends and myself: there’s nothing good about trauma, tragedy and crisis, and yet, it’s happened/happening, so you may as well grow. Looking for small and big miracles helps. I’ve used the idea of PT growth in my work and in my book as the thing that can make all the difference. I find that perspective, thoughts about events and loving kindness from self and others, will make all the difference. It did for me. Reply Elsa says: Hi Ruth, The person who came to mind, listening to the research on people growing after and/or through a traumatic event, was you. I remember hearing of your huge loss – the loss of your partner. And I wondered: are you more daring, more complex, now. For example, has NICABM is some way come about in part in response to the loss – that you have taken on this enormous challenge, to share what you know with ever so many more people. All the best to you – to all of us. Reply Ruth Buczynski says: Thanks for thinking of me, Elsa. And yes, it was a huge loss that I grow from continually. Reply Bridget Herod says: I will take these examples and applying them. I value you information. I teach students who experience trauma and I will modify and adapt. Reply kathy says: What causes differences between each group? Again what determines the outcome of advestiry? Did they check what kind of thinking styles the people had before the adversity? Reply - -- ND Brochure you have good left-brain add right-brain! right-brain is ignored but right-brain is where life lives!! -- ND Brochure) Top 10 Reasons to do an ND weekend - Emotional Recognition - Emotional Agility - Emotional Literacy - Connection - Intimacy - Healing - Transform yourself, Emotionally - Changing Negative Emotions into Positives (or at least neutral) - Practice - Safety - Emotional Understanding (IQ + EQ) I call it meta-analysis, our thoughts about our thoughts. our thoughts about our feelings. our feelings about our thoughts, and our thoughts about them. etc. thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings become aware of 'em learn 'em understand 'em accept 'em then, adjust 'em effect / affect 'em change 'em manage 'em so we can enjoy 'em use 'em to help us get results succeed find / create happiness live, love, laugh esp. Live! -- ND Brochure) Top 10 Reasons to do an ND weekend - Emotional Recognition notice - Emotional Agility - Emotional Literacy identification, separation, understanding - Acceptance, Forgiveness and Compassion for YOU! - Connection - Intimacy - Healing - Transform yourself, Emotionally - Changing Negative Emotions into Positives (or at least neutral) - Practice feelings are uncomfortable (HINT: much worse so, if you fight 'em and deny 'em) Get comfortable being uncomfortable try new things, emotionally shopping - Self-integration: U, u and UU - Safety Experience the safest, most loving place on the planet. the room is silent, as you talk/share/feel/heal. everyone, everyone is listening to you. and only you. for a little while, YOU are the most important person in the world. as far as you can see. what that does is to validate, and integrate, and accept people/me/us at a 'soul level'. we try to live a life of high EQ. what does that look like? what does that feel like? how does it sound? what do I do? what do I say? DoUEQ? I do. Once we feel something positive... it is MUCH easier to replicate that feeling. "A mind, once stretched to a new dimension, never retains it's former shape. "A heart, once stretched to it's fullest limits, never returns to it's former shape." - Mcp Quote once you can FEEL a certain feeling... ALL of it... on Purpose... and you LIVE thru it... You won! you ain't afraid of your own fear, any longer... ever. boom. once you feel ANGER... ALL of it... on Purpose... and NO one gets hurt... and you feel SOOOOOOO much better... then, boom, you're not afraid of your anger no mo', either. once you feel your Sadness... as deeply as your purest little heart feels it... on Purpose... and you don't get lost there, you don't drown, and you find that it does end.... from then on, you get to Enjoy, yes Enjoy your sadness... why? 'cause Sadness is the closest to Love. We are sad about losing stuff/people/pets/parents/kids/friends who we love. Sad and love are very close. To me, my sadness shows me the depth of my love. If I cut off my sadness, I'm cutting off my ability, and my flexibility, to Love, as deeply and cleanly and fully as I possibly can! (make friends with your sadness. honor and respect it, and it won't need to keep coming back quite so often.) - Emotional Understanding (IQ + EQ) I call it meta-analysis, our thoughts about our thoughts. our thoughts about our feelings. our feelings about our thoughts, and our thoughts about them. etc. thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings become aware of 'em learn 'em understand 'em accept 'em then, adjust 'em effect / affect 'em change 'em manage 'em so we can enjoy 'em use 'em to help us get results succeed find / create happiness live, love, laugh esp. Live! - Ever had the same feeling, most days, for many days, and you just can't shake it? Do you have some HUGE events from your childhood... yeah, that one... that is STILL buggin' you? Are you feeling Flat, or Numb, or bored, or disconnected, or depressed (and you're sick of it)? I think we can help you. Actually, you can help you. We can help you, help you. we can show you how to help you. how to heal how to feel, to a great depth, to give life a fuller experience, to manage your feelings and emotions like never before. I'm not going to say that you will be magically cured of every negative emotion after only 1 weekend... this stuff is a life-style choice, so if you come to class, and you're ready to 'feel'... really feel, the REST OF YOUR LIFE will be different (hopefully, better). The reality is that, once you 'feel', you can't really 'go back'... well, you can, but a) it takes more denial, to deny it from here on, 'cause now you know, and it's tuff to un-know something once you know it, and b) I think you'll find, as we have, that it's now your CHOICE to feel... because you CAN feel, cause it's Cool to feel, 'cause it brings Life, and Love, and Laughter, and Peace, and Joy, and Excitement, and Wonder, and Awe, and Power, and Control, and Results, and Success, and Happiness to my life. - Did you know that you CAN change your negative feelings into Positives. we can show you how. but you can do this at home, too. it's about ALLOWing yourself to feel what you feel. now, you may have heard this before, but we do it in the only way it can be done properly... from the beginning. You (u) as a child, had pain. u, as a child, had traumatic things happen. some more than others (and some of the most horrifying stories imaginable) but EVERY kid has traumas. every kid has big negative feelings that they never got to express. we all have stuff that happened (and is maybe still happening) that hurts... a Lot. and you know you're not dealing with it, directly. You know. we ask people in class, about, what Dr. Phil calls, their Defining Moments (we call Early Recollections) we know what messed us up. we know what is still effecting us. we know what we're not 'over'. (mostly) I'd say 80-90% of our students, when asked, knew. there are thoughts and there are feelings Trauma creates both BIG, nasty, generalized, negative Thoughts accompanied by BIG, nasty, negative, incredibly LARGE Feelings fueled by pictures, sounds, smells, and touches, often horrific ones, that Shock the system. - (one young lady remembered events, a fight between her parents, that got physical, while she was STILL IN HER MOM's TUMMY! Her mom was there with her in class, in shock, as girl recounted the story, even the words that were said, perfectly (talk about getting to the core of it all -- totally changed her life, afterwards!) (btw, in DV situations, studies prove that kids' brains kinda STOP growing when their violence and utter fear and unsafety in the home... EVEN if the child was not in the room, and never saw it happen. if this happened to you, there's still pain there, I guarantee it... let us help you get started in cleaning it all outta there) New Directions Emotional Intelligence Breakthrough Weekend we're not "doing" anything to you. we will support you. We have a format that we usually take, because it usually works, beautifully. Everyone's different, so sometimes we have to modify it, in the present. which is fine. it's not about you doing our process... it's about you getting what you want and need, to heal. (or enhance, or extend, or expand, or extract, or create, or appreciate, or fulfill) - kinda like an exorcism there is yucky, negative, black (or red or brown) energy inside you. if you don't want it there, we can help you get it out of you. it won't hurt us, 'cause it's yours... but it you also don't need to carry it around anymore, either. it is my/our theory that little kids are pure, clean, loving little vessels. sometimes, unhappy, unfulfilled, emotionally-clueless parents consciously or unconsciously off-load some of THEIR yuckiness into their sweet, trusting kid(s), so they get a little relief, and validation, and company. and we, as loving children choose to CARRY that yucky energy around with us, from that day forward. a. no bueno... it's not ours to carry! b. ouch... if we're still carrying it, it's still hurting us. c. there's hope... you don't HAVE to carry it. Discover: Where, in your body, do you carry your anger? your fear? your pain? your sadness? Go there. Uncover: Find the pain, stain, rage, pressure, etc. Imagine the size, texture, color, hardness, weight, etc. Recover: Let it go, somehow... Take your hand and grab it and either pull it straight out, let it drop out of you onto the ground via gravity, turn it to a liquid and let it flow out, scream and fight it if necessary... whatever you need to do, to get it out of you. or choose to keep it, for now, and listen to it, learn from it, grow from it. Post-Traumatic Stress or Post-Traumatic Growth it's up to you! Which do you choose? - -- ND Brainstorm ways to support the development of EQ competencies in school leaders around the world. What: Online Webinar presentation When: June 13 at 9 am PST (San Francisco) World Times How: Register for the Live Webinar (includes a link to the recording) or the Recording Only Presenters: Lorea Martinez Social Emotional Learning Consultant. Lorea supports schools and teachers integrate SEL practices in their educational programs. She partners with schools to identify their strengths, core values and the challenges they want to address, and provides customized recommendations for SEL implementation. Recommendations are based on research-validated strategies to successfully implement SEL programs and incorporate the particular needs of schools and students. Lorea regularly blogs about SEL in schools. Susan Stillman Director, Education, Global Office: With years of experience as an educational leader, scholar-practitioner, K-12 school counselor, and higher ed faculty, Susan brings a diverse background and set ofskills to bear on her mission to build and sustain the Six Seconds’ educational programs. Paul Stillman, Ph.D., LFACHE, Director of Organizational Vitality Paul has over 30 years of experience as a healthcare executive and consultant, with a focus on strategic planning, hospital operations, and cultural transformation around an ethic of patient-centered care. He has a doctorate in human and organizational systems and a research interest in sustainability. Paul is currently the Director of Organizational Vitality for Six Seconds. - 6Sec Webinar (this morning... missed it) Susan, Paul, Lorea Developing Principals' Emotional Intelligence Here is a link to the recording: https://zoom.us/recording/play/SH0oAUSsppLo-MfZqtDGwB2ybY7tG5kP_kyGl0QC5N1xC4iyZIBitvGuRuhyE--B -- ND Bring the depth, and color, and passions to life. but it's NOT just about feelings. Our thoughts drive our feelings, so we canNOT ignore our thoughts in favor of our feelings (well, sometimes, but not as a rule or habit) (unused wording) #EQRocks <-- click here to read other EQ-related FB posts (...and if you see something that exemplifies EQ, tag it #EQRocks, please... it's a cool, easy way to share!) -- ND Brochure Focus we need to focus, to get things done, right? strong emotions cause us to lose our focus. that's because we don't know what to DO with them. #FeelIt2HealIt, I say. No, I don't curl up in a ball and cry my heart out at every sadness, disappointment or mis-step. I'd be crying all day long. but I do cry. I let myself cry. when a feeling gets big(ger), or repeats ah, that's what it is... if I feel it in the moment, when and while I'm first finding out about it... then, it lessons the impact later... maybe permanently. I've had some issues, NDers have had some issues, that, once felt, and released. NEVER bothered them/us again. ever. in fact, there are some things that have bothered us for some time, that, JUST the acknowledgment of the fact, just knowing that that I had had that thought and made that decision Awareness + Feelings = Clarity We have Thoughts, pretty much every minute, of every day, all day, every day. We have Feelings, pretty much every minute, of every day, all day, every day. We pay attention to Thoughts, not so much our Feelings. 'cause we don't UNDERSTAND them. we don't recognize them. we can't separate them... To most people, they're feelings and emotions are a big mess and a big mystery. both are no bueno. People are afraid of what they don't understand. oh, don't go for the 'people', go for their friends. have the people ask other people. - I'm late to the discussion, - do NDers take less meds? some do. many don't people I know on meds -- ND Brochure I wouldn't say always be "careful" of what you say, For me, with the 'right people' (which most NDers turn out to be!) I am free to be honest about my true feelings, and judgments, and you seem to love me, so I am trusting that you're gonna keep on loving me, even if I am real with you. It's being real, being honest, sharing thoughts, but more importantly sharing feelings. In our meetings, we're not really looking for what's going really well... although we're happy for you... those are working. What we focus on, and go right to, on Friday night... is what are you FEELING? and the choices most are Fear, Anger, Sadness, or all 3? Not, 'what are you feeling' from what happened to you yesterday... we go right for the ROOT of it all... back to childhood... as far back as you can go. -- ND Branches -- thanks!! Your order should go out on Tuesday. Any special requests? Would you like some longer branches, as well? I can send up to 6-footers, if you'd like! Thanks again, and sorry again for the non-reply. Enjoy your Eucs! - Matt www.EucProducts.com www.Facebook.com/EucProducts -- ND Branches -- thanks!! Your order should go out on Tuesday. Any special requests? Would you like some longer branches, as well? I can send up to 6-footers, if you'd like! Thanks again, and sorry again for the non-reply. Enjoy your Eucs! - Matt www.EucProducts.com www.Facebook.com/EucProducts -- ND Brochure) Top 10 Reasons to do an ND weekend - Emotional Recognition notice - Emotional Agility whatever comes up, you can handle it / face it / get thru it! - Emotional Literacy identification, separation, understanding, recognition, feedback - Acceptance, Forgiveness and Compassion for YOU! - Super GOOD NEWS! you have WAY more Choices, emotionally, than you ever thought possible! - Hope! there IS help there IS hope there ARE some people who care you CAN heal you CAN feel better, emotionally (in just 1 weekend!) - Connection Magic of the group Connect with self, too! - Anger with Love - Relationship Tools - Body Relief - Take control of your emotional life - Learn how to succeed - Intimacy no walls, no hidden agenda, just love, care and concern.... nothung more - Healing wow, we/you can do sooo much in one weekend... and, in so doing, you'll know, from then on, how to heal yourself... AND your loved ones! - Transform yourself, Emotionally From shut-down and numb, to Alive-Alert-&-Feeling GREAT! from victim to victor from powerless to powerful from shame-based to love-based from I-hate-my-feelings to I-Love-My-Feelings_They-Set-me-FREE! from petrified or prosperous from survivin' to thrivin' from guilt to pride from weighed-down to fired-up from clueless to clueful (is that even a word? :) ) from blaming to claiming from whining to venting - #FeelIt2HealIt - #SpinIt2WinIt - #NameIt2ClaimIt - Changing Negative Emotions into Positives (or at least neutral) ability to - L vs R brain understand and experience the difference esp. R brain - What it's like to BE there, in your feelings - Over 30 years of experience - Full Expression - Equality no longer put down as a little kid, you stand, you grow, you are equal, you are powerful, and you are free! - Guidance toward where you don't want to go - Honest Feedback (but always respectful, and loving) - Validation you are you, and you are ok... with at least somebody/people - Become a therapeutic person - Practice feelings are uncomfortable (HINT: much worse so, if you fight 'em and deny 'em) Get comfortable being uncomfortable try new things, emotionally shopping - Self-integration: U, u and UU - Personal Power(!) - Emotional Tools toolbox - Emotional Skills - Emotional Resilience - Persistance - Grit! - Guilt reduction - Anger / rage reduction - Fear and anxiety Relief - Safety Experience the safest, most loving place on the planet. the room is silent, as you talk/share/feel/heal. everyone, everyone is listening to you. and only you. for a little while, YOU are the most important person in the world. as far as you can see. what that does is to validate, and integrate, and accept people/me/us at a 'soul level'. we try to live a life of high EQ. what does that look like? what does that feel like? how does it sound? what do I do? what do I say? DoUEQ? I do. Once we feel something positive... it is MUCH easier to replicate that feeling. "A mind, once stretched to a new dimension, never retains it's former shape. "A heart, once stretched to it's fullest limits, never returns to it's former shape." - Mcp Quote once you can FEEL a certain feeling... ALL of it... on Purpose... and you LIVE thru it... You won! you ain't afraid of your own fear, any longer... ever. boom. once you feel ANGER... ALL of it... on Purpose... and NO one gets hurt... and you feel SOOOOOOO much better... then, boom, you're not afraid of your anger no mo', either. once you feel your Sadness... as deeply as your pure little heart feels it... on Purpose... and you don't get lost there, you don't drown, and you find that it does end.... from then on, you get to Enjoy, yes Enjoy your sadness... why? 'cause Sadness is the closest to Love. We are sad about losing stuff/people/pets/parents/kids/friends who we love. Sad and love are very close. To me, my sadness shows me the depth of my love. If I cut off my sadness, I'm cutting off my ability, and my flexibility, to Love, as deeply and cleanly and fully as I possibly can! (make friends with your sadness. honor and respect it, and it won't need to keep coming back quite so often.) - Free book - Free heart - Your very own free NDW pencil(!) last - Emotional Understanding (IQ + EQ) I call it meta-analysis, our thoughts about our thoughts. our thoughts about our feelings. our feelings about our thoughts, and our thoughts about them. etc. thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings become aware of 'em learn 'em understand 'em accept 'em then, adjust 'em effect / affect 'em change 'em manage 'em so we can enjoy 'em use 'em to help us get results succeed find / create happiness live, love, laugh esp. Live! - - Ever had the same feeling, most days, for many days, and you just can't shake it? - Do you have some HUGE events from your childhood... yeah, that one... that is STILL buggin' you? - Are you feeling flat, or numb, or blah, or bored, or disconnected, or depressed (and you're sick of it)? I think we can help you. Actually, you can help you. We can help you, help you. We can show you how to help yourself in ways that are kind, respectful, responsible, effective, powerful, lasting, freeing, empowering and very, very cool! We can show you: how to deal how to heal how to feel, to a great depth, to give life a fuller experience, to manage your feelings and emotions like never before. how to squeel, with delight, whenever you feel like it, just 'cause it's fun! - I'm not going to say that you will be magically cured of every negative emotion after only 1 weekend... this stuff is a life-style choice, so if you come to class, and you're ready to 'feel'... really feel, the REST OF YOUR LIFE will be different (hopefully, better). The reality is that, once you 'feel', you can't really 'go back'... well, you can, but a) it takes more denial, to deny it from here on, 'cause now you know, and it's tuff to un-know something once you know it, and b) I think you'll find, as we have, that it's now your CHOICE to feel... because you CAN feel, cause it's Cool to feel, 'cause it brings Life, and Love, and Laughter, and Peace, and Joy, and Excitement, and Wonder, and Awe, and Power, and Control, and Results, and Success, and Happiness to my life. - Did you know that you CAN change your negative feelings into Positives. we can show you how. but you can do this at home, too. it's about ALLOWing yourself to feel what you feel. now, you may have heard this before, but we do it in the only way it can be done properly... from the beginning. You (u) as a child, had pain. u, as a child, had traumatic things happen. some more than others (and some of the most horrifying stories imaginable) but EVERY kid has traumas. every kid has big negative feelings that they never got to express. we all have stuff that happened (and is maybe still happening) that hurts... a Lot. and you know you're not dealing with it, directly. You know. we ask people in class, about, what Dr. Phil calls, their Defining Moments (we call Early Recollections) we know what messed us up. we know what is still effecting us. we know what we're not 'over'. (mostly) I'd say 80-90% of our students, when asked, knew. there are thoughts and there are feelings Trauma creates both BIG, nasty, generalized, negative Thoughts accompanied by BIG, nasty, negative, incredibly LARGE Feelings fueled by pictures, sounds, smells, and touches, often horrific ones, that Shock the system. - (one young lady remembered events, a fight between her parents, that got physical, while she was STILL IN HER MOM's TUMMY! Her mom was there with her in class, in shock, as girl recounted the story, even the words that were said, perfectly (talk about getting to the core of it all -- totally changed her life, afterwards!) (btw, in DV situations, studies prove that kids' brains kinda STOP growing when their violence and utter fear and unsafety in the home... EVEN if the child was not in the room, and never saw it happen. if this happened to you, there's still pain there, I guarantee it... let us help you get started in cleaning it all outta there) New Directions Emotional Intelligence Breakthrough Weekend we're not "doing" anything to you. we will support you. We have a format that we usually take, because it usually works, beautifully. Everyone's different, so sometimes we have to modify it, in the present. which is fine. it's not about you doing our process... it's about you getting what you want and need, to heal. (or enhance, or extend, or expand, or extract, or create, or appreciate, or fulfill) - kinda like an exorcism there is yucky, negative, black (or red or brown) energy inside you. if you don't want it there, we can help you get it out of you. it won't hurt us, 'cause it's yours... but it you also don't need to carry it around anymore, either. it is my/our theory that little kids are pure, clean, loving little vessels. sometimes, unhappy, unfulfilled, emotionally-clueless parents consciously or unconsciously off-load some of THEIR yuckiness into their sweet, trusting kid(s), so they get a little relief, and validation, and company. and we, as loving children choose to CARRY that yucky energy around with us, from that day forward. a. no bueno... it's not ours to carry! b. ouch... if we're still carrying it, it's still hurting us. c. there's hope... you don't HAVE to carry it. Discover: Where, in your body, do you carry your anger? your fear? your pain? your sadness? Go there. Uncover: Find the pain, stain, rage, pressure, etc. Imagine the size, texture, color, hardness, weight, etc. Recover: Let it go, somehow... Take your hand and grab it and either pull it straight out, let it drop out of you onto the ground via gravity, turn it to a liquid and let it flow out, scream and fight it if necessary... whatever you need to do, to get it out of you. or choose to keep it, for now, and listen to it, learn from it, grow from it. Post-Traumatic Stress or Post-Traumatic Growth it's up to you! Which do you choose? - Learn the IQ of EQ cognitively, how emotions work (and don't work) steps (lots of steps) - Self-empowerment - Self-esteem - Self-motorvation - Self-Acceptance (!) - Self-Integration no more having wars with yourself -- ND Brochure) do you want to be a schlump? do you want to drag your tired a$$ thru life, dreading the day, and disappointed with the people? are you excited about your life, or not so much? are you scared and angry at the new administration? what do you DO with all those feelings? How can you #SpinIt2WinIt? -- ND Brochure -- ND Brain interactions where Heart sends more signals to Brain than the Brain the Signals; 2. HRV affecting Psychological Coherence - Heartmath has done wonderful research in this area and gave us devices to maintain the coherence (emwave); 3. The article says 6 feet distance whereas Heartmath found it to be 10 feet; 4. Through 0.1HZ, we achieve wonderful coherence promoting DHEA production; 5. Collective Consciousness has capability to affect Electromagnetic waves of the Earth. Greg Braden is one of my favourites whose reference in the article I loved most. I will try to post the coherence video in this thread. Like · Reply · 4 · 6 hrs Remove Lynda Abraugh Lynda Abraugh Amazing! So, in reality, the heart sends more signals to the brain than the brain does to the heart, which influence our emotions, our memories, our problem-solving and high-level cognitive functions. (Wow!)" And,, In fact, the heart has its own network of neurons. This network is so sensitive that our heart rhythms become highly ordered when we experience positive emotions, love and joy. But it is On the contrary! NEGATIVE emotions and psychological activity cause erratic and jerky heart function, leading to inefficiency, lack of energy..." Wow!!! Thank you for sharing Matt Perelstein. Like · Reply · 2 · 1 hr Remove Lynda Abraugh Lynda Abraugh Sharing. Thank you Matt Perelstein Like · Reply · 1 · 1 hr Remove Jano Zak Jano Zak Fabulous post! Heartfelt gratitude for sharing! Like · Reply · 1 · 1 hr Remove -- ND Brochure" (Notebook from Garage) ND Brochure How can you feel love(d), if you cannot feel? Want to feel love(d), deeper, more colorful and more satisfying? Learn EQ. Let yourself feel. Cry. Release. Open up. Expand! Free yourself Allow. REJOICE! Feel! - (5.27.2016 00:22) Do you trust your fear? (I didn't, but I do now.) Fear exaggerates. 1 fear gets your mind going on possible negative scenarios Do you believe them? Do you trust them? Left unchecked, our fears can make a bad thing much worse. (and bigger, and jumpier, and more dangerous and us more powerless!) Learn to tell yourself the truth. So that you do trust your fear(s). - If you can open up and let the sun, and light and love GROW HOT inside you, you already won! and chances are... it (you) will Spill out onto others around you. Wanna bring love and joy to those you love and enjoy? Be Love. Be the Joy. Bring you to the table, full and radiant. Bring it! - http://www.newdirectionsworkshop.com/testimonials/ -- ND Branches (not chew branches) I have three big cages and 5 small cages (bird cages) was wondering if you could advise me on what would be a good number to order? Please also let me know a price for the quantity. I appreciate your advise in advanced. Thanks, Christina Lane 1603 Bethany Church Road Princeton, KY 42445 970-261-2951 -- ND Bridges where people tend to jump off of) who offer help (again, mostly listening, and caring) to those about to end it all? Some great stories! One guy, who 'patrols' the Golden Gate Bridge has saved MANY folks... -- ND Breadth of inner experience can be actively explored and interpersonal relationship skills can be enhanced. Participants can expand their repertoire of dramatic roles to find that their own life roles have been strengthened. Quotes "Under the guise of play and pretend, we can - at least once - act in new ways. The bit of distance from real life afforded by drama enables us to gain perspective on our real-life roles and patterns and actions, and to experiment actively with alternatives." - Renee Emunah, PhD, RDT/BCT Director, Drama Therapy Program, California Institute of Integral Studies "(Drama therapy) values the possibilities of the unadorned encounter between a therapist and a client in the play space. Here, the world of imagination with all its contradictions and mysteries can be revealed through the embodied play of two free consciousnesses." - David Read Johnson, PhD, RDT/BCT Director, The Institutes for the Arts in Psychotherapy "Unlike talk therapy, drama therapy gets there really fast. Role-playing -acting out issues and problems - is more effective than talking." - Robert Landy, PhD, RDT/BCT Director, Drama Therapy Program, New York University "Participants can enjoy the feelings of being in another person's shoes - playing another role - as well as learn the liberating experience of expanding their own primary roles in life." - Patricia Sternberg, MA, RDT/BCT Director, Developmental Drama Program, Hunter College "In the aftermath of September 11th, I witnessed the enormous benefits of these modalities [creative arts therapies] in helping people to express their emotions and have seen Capital Hill exhibits illustrating the meaningful gains through artistic process." - Hillary Rodham Clinton ex-First lady and Democratic Presidential Candidate, 2016 - Billie Corbett says: As a child in school, I had an experience where I was able to explore myself creatively and I got to taste the freedom of self expression. The context was a P.E. class where the class was assigned a project. We had to choose a piece of music and choreograph a number which would involve all of us and selected piece of gym equipment. (Balls, hula hoops, skipping ropes etc.) During this class experience I learned alot. I loved the experience. We all had to collaborate with one another. We choose the music together and selected the gym equipment together. Then, we all contributed our ideas to choreographing our movements. We created a beautiful number we eventually performed. It was a wonderful experience. I found I could express myself individually as well as be a team player. Later, in life I found myself deeply stuck in a limiting, controlling relationship with a spouse and a faith based group. I had begun to reach out for help and healing through professional means, while at the same time I intuitively, went outside of my limiting circumstances to join a community choir. Much to my horror to begin with, the choir morphed into putting on musicals for our community. This was very challenging for me. I was quite musical and had a fairly good singing voice, but, I was deeply insecure and anxious. The choir director was the person who cast the roles. (Retrospectively, I see she was quite brilliant. Probably in ways she wasn’t consciously aware of.) Regarding myself, she never put me in a role that would make me collapse in on myself. (I am sure she was acting intuitively.) She always chose for me very small insignificant supporting bits. These roles contained just enough responsibility where if I faultered I would not be crushed or devastate the flow of the production. Yet, the responsibility was enough to stress me. It would confront me with the fact that I would need to stretch myself out of my existing comfort zone to accomplish it. I would often find myself quite conflicted because I was really scared, but, to succeed, I had to push through the fear and do it inspite of the fear. I would go through this process many times and find that I was able to succeed. Thus, it reduced my fear / anxiety levels and build inner self confidence. A major side benefit to participating in the creation of a successful musical theatre production was: I began to sort out some very complex aspects of my personal life. In my spousal relationship and faith based relationships I was being told I was: disruptive, uncooperative, non compliant…etc. In other words…I was “the” problem…as to why things were not working very well in the marriage and in the faith based group. Once I was involved in musical theater, I began to compare the perceptions of others. The community experience of me with the spousal/faithbased perception. The perceptions and experience of me as a person didn’t line up. There was no congruency between the two. In the choir/musical theatre, I was well liked, enjoyed and seen as a part of the whole.( I wasn’t a problem.) I was seen as being dependable, reliable, co-operative, friendly, likeable and valued. This caused me to then question and doubt the “role and relationship” I had with myself and with others in my personal life. Intuitively I began to become aware of and understand projection. I began to see that I was not who I was being told I was in my personal life. I began to see how others were projecting their unwanted, denied parts onto me, because I was vulnerable to absorbing them. This was quite life altering. In time, I left the marriage and the faith based community that I was in. I started to align myself with the truth of who I was as a person (which was revealed to me by contrast, reflection, introspection and self awareness.) Through musical theatre I learned to take responsibility for myself in a deep way. I learned to create congruency in my personal life. The lessons I learned through participating in musical theatre were and still are extremely valuable to me. I continue to challenge myself and grow in all aspects of my life. It helped me to solidify a congruent sense of self. This is small bit of my experience…shared to confirn and validate what Bessel van de Kolk has referenced in this video. I definitely believe theatre create an environment conducive to personal reflection and introspection. They can observe themselves from a different perspective. It is helpful to get outside themselves…so to speak for a bit. Theatre can facilitate growth in the ability to absorb complex intrapersonal and interpersonal realities. It helps to expand an individuals perception of choices and their ability to choose who they want to be. - Genevieve E. Chandler says: We have demonstrated and increase in resilience, managing stress and an increase in emotional awareness through the Changing Minds Changing Lives (CMCL) program using an Empower Resilience Intervention, an ACE aware, trauma-informed, 5 week, 2x/week course. ERI incorporates the 4 R’s: Relaxation (mindfulness) Research, Reflection and Recognition. The key is Reflection through a group writing method based on Amherst Writers and Artist’s practice (AWA) where participants free write their story in response to an open-ended prompt and receive feedback on their writing from peers and facilitators. The CMCL program has demonstrated efficacy with young adults, diverse community college students and incoming athletes. CMCL is funded by the NCAA and recently, a Public Service Endowment Grant to implement the program in a Springfield, MA high school. I believe writing & reading their stories with genuine feedback produces similar outcomes as acting. This sounds awesome, Genevieve! I'm a fanatic EQer (emotional intelligence trainer) and I would love to use this technique. Do you mind sharing the wording of the open-ended prompt? Thanks! - Matt -- ND Bring clarity to your everyday life. My productivity increases whenever I meditate consistently and noticeably declines when I fall out of my routine. Watch a YouTube video or read a quick blog post on how to meditate. It's easy. <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> 5. Memorization techniques If you think of your brain as a set of computer folders, then you can see that forgetting is not really possible. If you forget something, it's either it wasn't saved, to begin with or you put it somewhere hard to retrieve. Concentration and recall are what makes memories. Focus in order to concentrate, and test yourself in order to recall. "Backspace" new info by using a pencil and eraser. <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> 6. How to triple your reading speed Read at least one book per week. How? Audiobook apps (like Audible's) often have a feature where you can listen to a book at three times the normal speed. It only takes about 10 minutes for your brain to adjust, and then you're good. <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> 7. How to take responsibility Too often people try to come up with reasons why they can't get something done, why a project is over budget, how an accident happened, etc. Learning to take responsibility for your actions will make doing business much smoother. It's easier to solve a problem when you aren't spending a ton of time getting to the root of it. Take responsibility and move forward. <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> 8. How to organize critical versus important tasks Piling things on your to-do lists feels productive. Eventually, though, the list gets too massive and all the tasks suffer since you don't have enough time and energy to allocate to each. While you can delegate, it's easier to divide the mix of critical tasks (tasks that you need to do now to improve the business) and important tasks (tasks that you can do whenever to improve the business.) <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> 9. Shoulder, wrist, and arm stretches Putting in long hours typing at your desk is bound to lead to health problems if you don't learn easy, quick stretches to counteract the strain. Simple exercises to prevent carpal tunnel syndrome and back pain take less than 10 minutes to learn but save you hundreds of hours you might have lost otherwise. Just five to 10 minutes a day is a good start to protecting your health and productivity. <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> 10. How to delegate time blocks It is so easy to fall into the daily distractions, forcing you to play catch-up the next day. Time blocking is such a huge part of my day that keeps me on track. I schedule a time frame where I am responding to emails, and then I block the next hour for meetings. I would recommend everyone break time into segments. <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> -- ND Brochure) Ever felt like you wanted to 'be there' for others, like never before? (hint: It has a LOT to do with YOUR feelings and emotions!) -- ND Brochure"... so I can compile that into something workable. There's the current file I just sent (2 MB, 3.1.2017 -present) and my archive file (52 MB, 4.1.2004 - 2.28.2017). Can you write some code to open the file, search for "ND Brochure", and then Copy the text from the next line to the end-of-entry marker "-- ND Brochure"... This is not the place they get to come each week to whine about how they feel - this is where they come to examine what is working in the present, what is not, and to go through the process of changing the "is not" part of that by taking action. - Penny R. Tupy, Life Coach Feelings expressed for the following reasons are fine: Clarity Release Acceptance Remove Judgments Go for deeper feelings (ex: express anger to get to the hurt underneath) not Ok: whining blaming (short-term is fine, in an effort to find your part in it all) one-up-manship / competition poor me (if you want people to feel sorry for you, you're not looking for results) victim (to explain how there really is NOthing you can do about it... and it's all their fault, anyhow) -- ND Br -- ND Br-- ND Br-- ND Br-- ND Br-- ND Br-- ND Br-- ND Br-