EMFB EVENT # 1 with NEW Belief system ---- EVENT_ Meaning--Feeling -- Behaviour Event --> Meaning --> Feeling --> Behaviour ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- << OLD BELIEFS >> ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- E: Age 21, completed B.SC B. Ed, Got Teaching Job in INDIA M: I am educated, wise, valued F: Superiority, comparison B: EGOISTIC, Negative attitude E: At age 22, Arranged marriage In INDIA to Canadian High School Man Driving Taxi connected with Girl Friend in Canada Arrived here in 1988 M: I am better than him I am more beautiful than him he does not love me, care for me what is the point to live together F: LOW HIGH Mixed I am stuck confused self esteem drooped fear of what other PPL will think about me cultural/parental reputation Stigma divorce was not common 30 yrs ago as it is now in INDIA B: Wanted to adjust with him under condition if he can leave his girl friend. He said NO and relationship ended after 6 months E: At age 26, Remarried for LOVE Marriage with my Colleague teaching in the same school. He was Divorced. He was connected with his Girl friend neighbor M: I thought he is best fit for me. Without Consent of my parents, we got married F: OMG!! I found the BEST Man, He is Handsome, He truly loves me. B: I am 100% attached to him. I got blinded totally in his LOVE E: Within 3 months, his girl friend relationship got exposed and we lived together for 2-3 years HOLISTIC TYPE OF abuse continued and gave birth to 2 children M: EXTREME FEAR of SECOND Marriage Failure. He does not love me. he has used me for his advantage. LOWEST SELF-ESTEEM 24/7 FEAR of losing him, OCEAN of FEAR FEAR FEAR FEAR F: WANTED TO RUN AWAY from this World forever. Commit Suicide from 17th floor in a High Rise Building Shared with my Aunti and she scolded me and convinced me that all men misbehave with women’s B: Ran for help in all 4 directions to save my marriage but it failed finally, got stuck in Shelter, Called 911, he was in Jail E: At age 28, Family wanted me to get third marriage M: I am not worth it. I m not Beautiful, I m not lovable, I do not deserve a Company of Man Because I m Bad Ugly F: GOT STUCK in deepest HOLE OF Negative, LOWEST DEEPEST VICIOUS CYCLE B: Started to see all men are bad. Inspired my daughter not to get marry at all. Men just use their wives only for their own selfish benefit E: From Age 28 to 55, life brought new challenges of mental health in myself, both kids, Fighting for Child Support, Custody, Overnight Visit M: Blamed myself, and failure of relationship, self sabotage F: This World is scary place to live in, to fit in, where everybody is rude mean, unkind, unhappy, only selfishness prevails B: Started to use my energy in negative mess to retaliate, to punish him, to hurt him more and more, going to immigration court to deport him. Turned towards RELIGION to get emotional support yes felt better temporary but light bulb get ignited only 5% saw ray of light/ hope E: Myself and my both kids mental Health Challenges. M: My fault F: Horrible B: I have no more right even to exist on this planet why am I still here E: My Car accident Loss of job, financial loss, Health, fighting with multiple insurance companies M: position loss, power loss, identity loss F: SEE!!! I should not live on this planet B: Struggled to reclaim my identity, my power, my existence E: Covid-19 M: EXTREME FEAR /Traumas TOOK COMPLETE CONTROL OVER ME F: CRY CRY CRY CRY CRY B: LOST IN CONFUSION !! What is it? Why it is happening? E: During Covid I turned towards my self, health, me, me me me me me me M: If I am healthy/happy inside only then I can serve others F: B: Took few training on Healthy food, healthy habits, mindfulness UCLA, stress reduction, Pain management courses E: In 2021, started my SELF-DISCOVERY Journey, I found u in 2022 in mental health webinar series M: I am VIP, I love myself, I m WORTHY, I m blessed with two Beautiful Diamonds who made me life journey ro interesting, but full of challenges I m soooooooooooo Powerful that I can BE anyone, I can do anything, I can Have anything. Yes I am perfect form of PURE INTELLIGENCE F: AWESOME!!!!! Beautiful !!! dancing in happiness !! New Journey has begun. I m almost 75% awakened and I m committed to awaken those who r still swimming in the Ocean of Pain, suffering, darkness B: Taking eq Course Now. Will repeat in Future. will travel the whole world to spread my message of Changing Traumas into Priceless TREASURES E: Ex H. remarried with his girl friend and now raising two beautiful princess and we all r connected with them at surface level only M: See!!! He had pre-planning to take this action F: Torn, broken, deceived in millions pieces, scattered lost, shame, shame,miserable, cry cry cry cry cry tooooo painful, reputation ruined B: Hate myself and everyone around me, depression, hold myself in my darkest world, disconnect from SELF, HIGHEST SELF, with family, friends, Indian community, hate my own culture/community ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- << NEW BELIEFS >> ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- E: Age 21, completed B.SC B. Ed, Got Teaching Job in INDIA M: Purpose of life is learn and grow F: Awesome, grateful B: Thank you to my parents and teacher, nature, existence E: At age 22, Arranged marriage In INDIA to Canadian High School Man Driving Taxi connected with Girl Friend in Canada Arrived here in 1988 M: Lack of understanding, too early for taking big responsibility, no way saying yes to arranged marriage F: Sad for making wrong decision B: Accept it as it is past is past E: At age 26, Remarried LOVE Marriage with my Colleague teaching in the same school. He was Divorced. He was connected with his Girl friend neighbor M: Made good choice but he kept it secret F: Bad for making poor decision B: I made decision and obligated for the consequences E: Within 3 months, his girl friend relationship got exposed and we lived together for 2-3 years HOLISTIC TYPE OF abuse continued and gave birth to 2 children M: I have tried my best to save my marriage F: So sad it did not work B: No regret for not making effort for compromise E: At age 28, Family wanted me to get third marriage M: Felt scared of third trial F: fearful B: No more try E: From Age 28 to 55 life brought new challenges of mental health in myself, both kids, Fighting for Child Support, Custody, Overnight Visit M: Life is drama. Challenges will come and go. More challenges means more strength make life interesting and when I face those challenge life becomes meaningful F: See how powerful I am B: Yes I m super powerful now and landed on this LIBERATION ROAD/LAND E: Myself and both my kids mental Health Challenges. M: Sure, it was meant to happen without any skills F: Sad, stay optimistic that it shall pass soon B: Reach out for extra support E: My Car accident Loss of job, financial loss, Health, fighting with multiple insurance companies M: It was meant to happen. God;s plan to give me time for my inner work and health healing F: Felt good and sad B: Learning to accept and making sense out of this disaster Covid-19 E: During Covid I turned towards my self, health, me, me me me me me me M: Covid brought gift for me forced me to turn inward to become introvert F: Sad happy B: Learning new skills meditation, new skills new talents, new abilities E: In 2021 started my SELF-DISCOVERY Journey, I found u in 2022 in mental health webinar series M: It was necessary very essential for me to return to my essence F: Awesome, things are begging to become much clear B: Took EQ course E: Ex H. remarried with his girl friend and now raising two beautiful princess and we all r connected with them at surface level only M: Yes, it was meant too happen F: Acceptance, loving, forgiving B: Treated him her, kids as normal family members